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[aces_babydoll]

Congratulations

 

[DMickey28]

Ladies, I need your help, prays, pixie dust and guidance.

Today is 15dpo no AF yet, no sign really but my FRER line was too faint to even see this AM and my chart is dropping....I am so scared this was chemical pregnancy or m/c. I am waititng to 7am to call a lab on my insurance and see if I can stop on my way to work and get a blood test....I don't think I have this baby anymore....

Please help me, I am so upset and DH is going to be devistated.....I think now he realizes how much he wants this...before he was on the let's let it happen when it's meant to happen team...

I don't even know what to do....I guess I should call the doctor...

 

[AllyandJack]

DMickey....definitely call the the doctor. You would have done that anyway at this stage to get the beta checked. Those tests vary in the amount of ink they use so don't use the darkness of the lines to determine the viability of a pregnancy. Estrogen can cause temperatures to drop - thats why you sometimes get a drop before ovulation and an implantation dip. Estrogen surges during pregnancy, so it could just be that. The only way to know for sure is with the beta. I hope you can get in today. If not, see if the hospital where your doctor has privileges will draw your blood if your doctor calls it in.

Keep us updated.

 

[DMickey28]

Thanks Carla, the office doesn't open until 9 so I will call then. I called on Tuesday and told them I got a faint positive and asked if I should go in and then said No and made an appointment for the end of June at 9 weeks. They said that unless there is a history they trust the HPT's and wait. I guess this is the start of my history...

Is this my fault b/c i tested so early? We could easily see line and it got darker between Tuesday and Wednesday... no I can barely see it... it could be a evap it's so light and not there...

 

[mickeyboat]

Thanks Carla, the office doesn't open until 9 so I will call then. I called on Tuesday and told them I got a faint positive and asked if I should go in and then said No and made an appointment for the end of June at 9 weeks. They said that unless there is a history they trust the HPT's and wait. I guess this is the start of my history...

Is this my fault b/c i tested so early? We could easily see line and it got darker between Tuesday and Wednesday... no I can barely see it... it could be a evap it's so light and not there...

I am going to keep my fingers crossed for you.

Insist on a blood test. You need one for your peace of mind. I had several chemical pregnancies. They were heartbreaking, and I beat myself up for testing so early. Don't do that to yourself. Press on!

Here's some more PD for you.

Denae

 

[AllyandJack]

Thanks Carla, the office doesn't open until 9 so I will call then. I called on Tuesday and told them I got a faint positive and asked if I should go in and then said No and made an appointment for the end of June at 9 weeks. They said that unless there is a history they trust the HPT's and wait. I guess this is the start of my history...

Is this my fault b/c i tested so early? We could easily see line and it got darker between Tuesday and Wednesday... no I can barely see it... it could be a evap it's so light and not there...

It's not your fault for testing early. Maybe you wouldn't have known you were pregnant and it would have saved you some grief, but I always think knowing is better than not knowing. At least it will be documented so when you get pregnant again you can get in for blood early. After what happened to me, I think it's irresponsible of a doctor to not draw blood as soon as you get a positive HPT. I can see not doing ultrasounds and stuff, but not drawing blood is dangerous. If my doctor didn't draw my blood early, I might not be sitting here right now....and I definitely wouldn't be sitting here with all of my female parts in their proper places. Don't let them brush you off.

Let us know what they say. I'll keep everything crossed that it's just some defective HPTs.

 

[LisaB]

It's not your fault for testing early. Maybe you wouldn't have known you were pregnant and it would have saved you some grief, but I always think knowing is better than not knowing. At least it will be documented so when you get pregnant again you can get in for blood early. After what happened to me, I think it's irresponsible of a doctor to not draw blood as soon as you get a positive HPT. I can see not doing ultrasounds and stuff, but not drawing blood is dangerous. If my doctor didn't draw my blood early, I might not be sitting here right now....and I definitely wouldn't be sitting here with all of my female parts in their proper places. Don't let them brush you off.

Let us know what they say. I'll keep everything crossed that it's just some defective HPTs.

I agree I think the doctor should of called you in for a blood test. I know when I was young and stupid and thought I was pg I had gone to planned parenthood for a urine test no af so I insisted on a blood test. I know after iui I always go in for a blood work for a beta test even if I have already gotten my period.

 

[tiggger1]

if you cant get the lab to give you a blood test, try going to a walk in clinic and ask for a preg test. we had be trying to get preg for 2 months but stopped because I had to get my wisdom teeth removed. a few days before AF was due, I knew something was up because I was constipated ( which never happens) I was afraid that something bad was going to happen because I was taking tylenol with codiene. my ob wouldnt take me in until I was 9 weeks so I went to the local walk in and told them I needed a preg test. they did it and it only cost me my $15 co pay.

 

[DMickey28]

Thanks. I called the Dr.'s office and spoke with a Nurse. She was not nice at all. I explained what was going on and she hasn't be in a tone I did not like, why I was testing when AF wasn't even late earlier this week? UM... DUH, b/c DH and I have been trying to get pregnant for five months, I chart my temp and other fertility signs and knew something was different on Monday and my temp went up higher. That's why... what kind of a question is that to ask a girl who is crying on the phone to you? So she said she would check with the doctor and call me back.

An hour later she called me back and said that the doctor said it sounded like a pregnancy that didn't implant and I should get my period shortly and if I don't to call them on Monday. I said, I thought hCG didn't even start to produce until the fertilized egg implants and I have a positive line on a test before. So then she said, it just must not of stuck and to call them Monday if I don't get my period. She was not nice or warm at all....

So here I am, two BFN's later (FRER and ANSWER, though I didn't stick around to see that one after two minutes), no period and no sign of it. I called the two labs in our area and they won't do a blood test with a physican's order. My doctor won't do one... I work until 5 pm.

I think I will just wait out the weekend. If AF doesn't come and I am NOT GOING TO TEST, I will call back on Monday and ask for a test and exam. Or maybe I'll try to find a FAM doctor on their website and call them, they are bound to be more sympathetic.

BTW, I shouldn't have expected anything different from this doctor. When I went the first time for my preconception visit, she was really nice and I liked her but then she did the exam and I had a irritation from something and she told me I had a STD and did a blood test that came back Negative two days later... so that's wasn't a cool moment to tell my DH that and then have her be wrong... I'll find a new doctor in Florida.

Thanks again for the Support... I guess I am in the boat of thinking something like this (even though it's minor b/c it's just chemical and so many people have worse experiences than me) wouldn't happen to me.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

I'm sorry DMickey, the whole story sounds horrible. It sounds like you need a new doctor. That was really rude.

I hope everything works itself out over the weekend, and that you just had a bunch of bad tests.

Jen

 

[helenabear]

DMickey, I am so sorry about everything so far. It really sounds like that nurse needs a kick in the pants. Sorry that it also seems like it was only a chemical pregnancy. That would be so hard on me as well. To get your hopes up and then have them fall. I know one month not too long ago that I had zero of my usual PMS symptoms and I told myself I would not test until I was late. My period was just over a day late, when I got little twinges of blood. I held my breath and w/in 24 hours AF started. Wasn't normal at all for me... and I really hated it when it came. So I can halfway feel your pain (though we didn't test). Hang in there and hopefully your new doc will be a lot more compassionate than your current one!

 

[AllyandJack]

DMickey, you do need a new doctor. That was just rude. Not even an "I'm sorry."??

The last 2 years of my life have been "I never thought this would happen to me...." You're not alone.

Was this your GYN or your family doc? If it's a GYN, maybe your family doc would order the blood test for you on Monday.



I'm sitting here on pins and needles waiting for my RE to call me. She called the insurane company yesterday and the one person who knows what's going on was out. So, today is the day I found out if they're going to cause me problems.

 

[DMickey28]

Thank you everyone for the well wishes. This has at least taught me to not test until AF is late. I am going to try and distance myself from the whole routine. Unless my next cycle is messed up DH will be out of town the entire fertile window so we will need to wait a bit anyway. I am going to keep temping and just occupy myself with moving, organizing our stuff and maybe I will finally get our wedding pictures printed out and put in an album! Always planning something to keep my mind occupied.. i get bored easily!

Carla ~ I am sending prays and pixie dust that the insurance company is on your side for this....

This was my OB/Gyn. DH and I have moved a lot and we don't have a GP right now. We move again in 6 weeks and I will look for a good FAM doctor down there.. hopefully one that will take our new insurance, which I don't even know what that is or I would try and make an appointment now!!

Thanks again.. I'll be around and let you know when AF finally does show her face.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

I'm sitting here on pins and needles waiting for my RE to call me. She called the insurane company yesterday and the one person who knows what's going on was out. So, today is the day I found out if they're going to cause me problems.

Good luck - I hope everything works out with the insurance. I need to call our company to find out what else is covered if the Clomid and Glucophage don't work. I keep putting it off, thinking that this might be the month.

This whole 2ww thing stinks! I spend 2 weeks hoping that I'm actually pregnant, and manage to talk myself into all kinds of nausea and other symptoms. When God dreamed up this whole pregnancything, he should have taken really impatient people (like me) into consideration, and not made us hang around for 2 weeks!

Oh well, that's my vent for the day!

Jen

 

[Syrreal]

Hey ladies.

Pixiedust to you Dmickey28!

Just got back from FL today and am heading back down on monday. I'll be just at the beginning of my 2ww when I go down so I decided to stay away from the rides that have the pregnant lady warnings. No mountains for me this time. Anyone else done this or am I just being a little too overly careful?

 

[LisaB]

I would try a planned parenthood for a blood test and definetly another doctor. If you get a bad vibe from them change. Is it too early to see a specialist. I go to a fertitlity specialist because my gyn said that she had brought me far enough w/out getting pg .

 

[helenabear]

Hello everyone!

DMickey, still wishing you all the best. I still feel really terrible that your doc was so unfeeling. Maybe stepping back from this is a good thing for your body. Just give it time to relax. I am sure moving is really stressful right now too! Hang in there!

Carla, good luck to you! I hope you won't be hearing any bad news.

Just got back from FL today and am heading back down on monday. I'll be just at the beginning of my 2ww when I go down so I decided to stay away from the rides that have the pregnant lady warnings. No mountains for me this time. Anyone else done this or am I just being a little too overly careful?

I talked to my doc about that before I went to WDW the last two times. Well I talked to her before I was there saying that there is a posibility that I could be "barely pregnant" when I go. She said if I were going through a regular cycle and it wasn't even time for AF to occur that it wouldn't matter if I went on or not. Even if I were technically 2 weeks pregnant it wouldn't make a difference. That my body would quickly tell me if I shouldn't keep it up or not.

My doc is very much the "if you do it a lot while not pregnant, you can keep at it until it becomes bothersome" Granted if I were known pregnant I would look at every ride before I went on it to see. If I hadn't even reached the AF timing yet, I wouldn't think twice about riding rides. I've known far too many people who went on them while they were what I consider "barely pregnant" (as in 2ww timing or even AF being a couple days late) and were totally fine. So I say go and have fun! At that stage your body will be taken care of just fine At least that's the medical advice I was given. The only one that might be questionable to me would be Mission Space due to the different forces used. The rest my doc said even a month pregnant wouldn't hurt. She reminds me that pregnancy doesn't necessarily mean fragile

 

[Syrreal]

[/QUOTE]I talked to my doc about that before I went to WDW the last two times. Well I talked to her before I was there saying that there is a posibility that I could be "barely pregnant" when I go. She said if I were going through a regular cycle and it wasn't even time for AF to occur that it wouldn't matter if I went on or not. Even if I were technically 2 weeks pregnant it wouldn't make a difference. That my body would quickly tell me if I shouldn't keep it up or not.

My doc is very much the "if you do it a lot while not pregnant, you can keep at it until it becomes bothersome" Granted if I were known pregnant I would look at every ride before I went on it to see. If I hadn't even reached the AF timing yet, I wouldn't think twice about riding rides. I've known far too many people who went on them while they were what I consider "barely pregnant" (as in 2ww timing or even AF being a couple days late) and were totally fine. So I say go and have fun! At that stage your body will be taken care of just fine At least that's the medical advice I was given. The only one that might be questionable to me would be Mission Space due to the different forces used. The rest my doc said even a month pregnant wouldn't hurt. She reminds me that pregnancy doesn't necessarily mean fragile [/QUOTE]

Thanks so much for the information.

I will be just getting into the 2ww...as is days 1-6 of the wait. (been BD like crazy the past 8 days- well not every day but ykwim..as soon as AF was over!) I was just worried that maybe the pregnancy wouldn't "take" or something like that.

Missing mission space wouldn't be a problem for me. I am not a fan of that ride. It doesn't make me sick or anything but I just don't really like it. I've ridden in twice and don't feel the need to do it again. I think I will also avoid ToT (even though I really like that ride) because there is so much up and down and g-forces. Most of the rest are really no worse than riding a bumpy car (BTMR, Kilamanjaro, Exp Ev, even SM and Sp M) I rode Exp Ev twice thi spast time and figured out that in the middle you get the least amount of crazy forces and it doens't feel that crazy even in the drop.

 

[tiggersmom2]

DMickey28 I am so very sorry to hear this. That nurse was a first class buttwipe! I am keeping you in my prayers.

Syrreal - I rode EVERYTHING when I was 8weeks preggers. When I was 5 months with my last son I wasn't even showing and my Dr. gave me the go ahead to ride Splash mountain.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Hi there everyone

Well, no BFP this month. AF was quite the suprise today. I kept my fingers crossed that this would be the month, but no such luck. I have an appointment with my OB/GYN this week anyways to talk about what he wants to do next. I'm not really keen on more than 6 months of Clomid, but I might try one more if he wants, since it was the first cycle that I actually could see the temperature rise and everything. Maybe it did work, and just the timing part was bad....

For all of you doing the whole 2ww, truckloads of pixie dust!

Jen