Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Well, not a good afternoon here. I went to the bathroom at work and when I wiped, there was red blood. That was an hour or so ago. I just went again and when I wipe, there's a little. Not as much as at work, but I can see it a bit on the toilet paper. Not looking good for me. I guess I'll see what happens tomorrow. But I know red blood is bad. THis, on top of the 4 BFN I got (even though I also had 5 BFP)...I don't think this baby was meant to be this time around. I'm so upset. I would have rathered not even know...just think that my period was late. It's CD 34 today for me. Next time, I don't think I'm testing until 1-2 weeks late. It's just too hard to have the excitement and then this. It's just too hard.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Oh Allison, I am so sorry.

 

[helenabear]

Allison Hang in there and if you can call your doctor... you never know

 

[DMickey28]

HUGS Allison ... keep us posted. Maybe call the doctor?

 

[vettechick99]

Oh no, Allison, that really stinks. Same thing happened to me last May - I didn't test early, but I wasn't terribly late either. So I'm a big proponent of not testing early. It's heartbreaking for sure....but the thing my doctor told me was, "At least we know you can get pregnant!" and it really made me feel better.

But take care of yourself and give yourself time to grieve. Maybe you'll be in my position a year from now.

 

[Gurgi]

Oh no, Allison, that really stinks. Same thing happened to me last May - I didn't test early, but I wasn't terribly late either. So I'm a big proponent of not testing early. It's heartbreaking for sure....but the thing my doctor told me was, "At least we know you can get pregnant!" and it really made me feel better.

But take care of yourself and give yourself time to grieve. Maybe you'll be in my position a year from now.

If you don't mind my asking, did you miscarry?

 

[skuttle]

Thanks everyone. It's really hard. But at least now I know not to do this to myself again. Our DS was a surprise, so I was 3 weeks late before I tested with him...thought the stress of my finals at the time had made me late. I definitely won't make this mistake again. It's just awful to get so excited and then...nothing. This is so much worse than getting a BFN. I suppose I'm lucky in that I haven't known for too long and I didn't tell anyone IRL. Still sucks. I think this last month was the first time we actually BD'd at the right time. So maybe next time, we'll hit it again and get a BFP to stick. I'm just ready to move on and try again.

 

[DisneyDreamer8]

Allison I'm so sorry I hope it turns out to be nothing but if the worst should happen just know that we are here for you.

 

[helenabear]

Allison, are you still bleeding? If not, I really would call your doctor tomorrow. Blood doesn't always equate to miscarriage especially in small quantities (like if you have BDd in the last day it could be that). If this is it for you, I totally know what you mean... a miscarriage is far worse than a BFN

 

[vettechick99]

If you don't mind my asking, did you miscarry?

Yeah, I did. If you really call it that. It was more like a really painful, late period. I think they call it a chemical pregnancy? On a Tuesday I had a BFP, on Friday I was bleeding/cramping and then Saturday I had a BFN.

Not to say that this is definitely one, though. Could just be some bleeding, which is common enough I hear. Let us know what happens, Allison.

 

[LisaB]

I am so sorry Skuttle. Don't so people get their period while pregnant.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

Aw Allison! I don't get it! I thought a positive was a positive. Call a doctor though and be sure. I've heard of many who have had a period while pregnant. Keep us posted and keep that chin up.

 

[skuttle]

The bleeding hasn't stopped. It's just like a period now, it seems. I'm pretty sure this is it. Now I'm not even sure if it was a real pregnancy. Since I had mixed results on the HPT, I don't really know. I do plan on calling my dr. tomorrow just to see if I need to go in or not. It's almost time for my annual anyways, so either way I will be making an appt soon. Thanks everyone.

 

[Octoberbeauty]

The bleeding hasn't stopped. It's just like a period now, it seems. I'm pretty sure this is it. Now I'm not even sure if it was a real pregnancy. Since I had mixed results on the HPT, I don't really know. I do plan on calling my dr. tomorrow just to see if I need to go in or not. It's almost time for my annual anyways, so either way I will be making an appt soon. Thanks everyone.

I'm so sorry. I hope you can figure out what's going on and quickly!

 

[Tiggerlover91]

The bleeding hasn't stopped. It's just like a period now, it seems. I'm pretty sure this is it. Now I'm not even sure if it was a real pregnancy. Since I had mixed results on the HPT, I don't really know. I do plan on calling my dr. tomorrow just to see if I need to go in or not. It's almost time for my annual anyways, so either way I will be making an appt soon. Thanks everyone.

Allison,

I don't even know what to say. I truly don't understand. I thought a positive was a positive...but like you said mixed results don't help. When I did mine, it was a faint line on April the 1st and the next morning on April the 2nd it was dark...so I suppose I understand a bit now. I've had other symptons though. Well that's enough...I don't want to make you sadder than you already are.

Blessings to you always. Let us know what happens.

Denise

 

[GypsySue]

Allison, I am sorry. That just plain sucks.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

I had to stop taking my multivitamin...OB told me to make sure it was no more than 4000 in vitamin A...it was 5000. My kosher prenatal vitamins shipped today but won't be here til Monday, so I'll suppose 4 days without prenatals won't hurt this early in the pregnancy. Any suggestions from anyone til they arrive?

 

[skuttle]

Allison,

I don't even know what to say. I truly don't understand. I thought a positive was a positive...but like you said mixed results don't help. When I did mine, it was a faint line on April the 1st and the next morning on April the 2nd it was dark...so I suppose I understand a bit now. I've had other symptons though. Well that's enough...I don't want to make you sadder than you already are.

Blessings to you always. Let us know what happens.

Denise

I'm not sure why you're confused. Just because you get a positive doesn't mean you'll carry the baby to term. From what I understand, this happens a lot this early. Most women, not TTC, just never know because they aren't testing SO early. My mistake.

I plan on calling my doctor today, but not sure if they'll want to see me or not. If I hadn't tested so early, I never would have known about the pregnancy. So far, it's just like a normal period...just a few days late. *sigh* I'm so mad at myself for testing so damn early. Never again. I'll just keep taking my OTC prenatals and, if we get lucky, wait until I'm at least one full week late (from the longest my period's ever been) to test. I don't want to go through this again. I know it's harder if you're further along, so I"m thankful that I at least didn't have to go through that. But once you get that BFP, it sure doesn't take long to start thinking about the future.

 

[Princess Tinkerbell]

Allison,
I am so sorry. There is really nothing anyone can say that can take away the pain of losing something so incredibly precious. Just know that we are here for you and whatever you need.

Jennifer

 

[skuttle]

Just heard from my mom that someone I know is expecting a baby in November. I should be telling my mom that I'm expecting a baby in December. I thought I'd be okay today, but this just...ugh. My eyes hurt...swollen from crying so much yesterday. I'm dreading calling my doctor...just saying it out loud...I was pregnant but now I'm not just doesn't appeal to me today. I just want another baby SO bad. I can't even explain how excited I was when I got that BFP. Seems like such a cruel joke now. SOrry...I'm rambling. That email from my mom just pushed me over the edge I suppose. I really need to get back to work. I came in early because I left early yesterday after I realized what was happening...I actually thougth I was going to pass out so I waited a bit then left. I need to concentrate today, but it's just SO hard. Surrounded by all of these pregnant people IRL is so tough!