Geoff_M
DIS Veteran, DVC Member, "Cum Hoc Ergo Propter Hoc
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I don't agree with either the "I have no sympathy" crowd nor the "It's like blaming someone for Target letting their credit card number get stolen" crowd.To me this is akin to saying to someone who's credit card number was stolen and used fraudulently "YOU KNOW credit card numbers are stolen. For years this has been going on and you are still using credit cards. You are stupid and immature and it's your own fault the data network was hacked"
Only in America, where we couple a puritanical view of the human body with a raging Madonna/***** complex, is this a raging scandal where these women are portrayed as idiots that should be embarrassed rather than as the crime victims the are.
Today I read this CNN.com analysis by Peggy Drexler that highlights my problem with the "Jennifer and Kate played no part in this" position:
On one level Drexler is 100% correct in saying that the blame for the crime lays (lies?) with the criminals. But on another, if we follow her "ridiculous logic" example, she also implies it's misguided for us to advise our late-teens against making and sending such photos because they are all perfectly fine (a "right" even!)... any beef we should harbor should be limited to those that then later misappropriate such works of personal expression.Certainly, the surest way to avoid ever having your most private photos shared publicly is to not take them in the first place. This is the philosophy behind the most common advice given to teens, among whom the rates of "sexting" continue to rise. Trust no one. Share nothing. Even better: Take nothing.
While we're at it: Don't leave the house. After all, you could get mugged, or raped. You'd better not fly on a jet, either, what with all the terrorism and overworked pilots. Swim in the ocean? No way: sharks!
It's ridiculous logic.
And yet much of the reaction to the celebrity leak has fallen prey to such logic, questioning why these celebrities would take such risqué—and risky—photos in the first place. For this reason, taking nude photos is most definitely a right to fight for, if only because ceasing to do so is a form of victim blaming, and far more harmful than protective.
The blame for a crime lies not with the victim but with the criminal.
I'm sorry, but my advice (be it to my kid... or a young starlet) is "I wouldn't be doing stuff like that if I were you, because experience shows time and again, that stuff like that can really jump up and bit you in the butt in a big way down the road. On top of that, the chances of that happening increases proportionally when you've made a name for yourself later in life."
Let me re-frame your credit card analogy in a way that I think better fits here... I have a family member that used to not like to carry a wallet. It was a personal preference. So when they went out and needed a credit card, they'd just slip it loose in a pocket (pants, coat, etc.) and go. I thought that not keeping such valuables in a common place was a good way to invite problems... and it was. Cards were sometimes left in some pants pocket, or a coat, and later would not be found until after a period of days of looking around the house,under car seats, etc. for the card that they knew "was around here somewhere". It was a pain that periodically raised anxieties, and required a phone call for a new card, but my worst fear was never realized that one of our cards would fall unnoticed into the wrong hands. I was happy that after some time, the utility of using a wallet was embraced by the person.
Now if someone had found a card that had slipped loose out of a coat pocket, and then used it fraudulently, without a doubt only the criminal is guilty of any wrong doing... but I think I could have made a case that perhaps the card wouldn't have been lost in the first place if it weren't kept secured in the wallet.