corndog said:The likely reason is that the interest rate on the debt is higher than the rate of return on the retirement funds, even if those funds are invested on a pre-tax basis. It's senseless to save money that earns a lower rate of return than any existing debt is costing you. For example, say you had $10,000 in credit card debt at 20%, and you had 10,000 you could invest at 10%. If you use the 10,000 to pay off the debt at the end of 1 year you have $0. If you invest (save) the 10,000, at the end of 1 year you'll have 11,000 in savings, but 12,000 in debt, so you'll be down another 1,000 by not paying the debt down with the funds you had available.
I don't want to get attacked again for not knowing all the exact numbers involved, but it is likely the OP would be further ahead by cashing out the 401k, even with the 10% penalty, because investment returns are currently low and the rates on her consumer debt are likely high. Also, the retirement funds are taxed at the current rates, and if they are down one job, their tax rates may be relatively low. It sounds like the perfect opportunity to cash out and smart money management to get back on course.
While you may very well be correct that they'd be ahead in the long run (without taking any time to run the numbers myself), I'm not a big fan of cashing in 401Ks to pay debt, or rolling debt into a mortgage...which I believe the OP has already done. Correct me if I'm wrong Magic. I think getting a job and paying this debt down (while not incurring any additional consumer debt) over time is the way to form new and lasting habits and turn your financial ship around.