Any moms that don't change poopy diapers?

[SydSim]

Why is there a picture of a cat when you click on the thread's name? I can't access the first page at all!

 

[Mickeypooh99]

My DS and I always shared the duty. Of course I did it more often since I was home with the kids all day.

I don't clean the litter box at all. For some reason I can't stand cat poop. I'd rather get rid of the cats. (I have done it if he is out of town.)

 

[hedgehog2owl]

My first son died of meconium aspiration. I have another term for it.

I am so sorry for your loss

 

[OceanAnnie]

My first son died of meconium aspiration. I have another term for it.

 

[DMickey28]

Dh and I had a deal, he would clean up vomit, I got all the dirty diapers. I jumped all over that because I was forward thinking enough to realize that someday the kids would be out of diapers but they still vomit even as teenagers .

That's what we did. We did compromise when we first started with pets and it has followed through to DS. Granted, I do tend to clean both more but that's usually because DH is not around at the time. DH just has a very weak stomach and doesn't fold the diapers properly so it gets messier than necessary sometimes. It's not a big deal to me so I tend to do more.

 

[mickeyboat]

Neither one of us had an aversion to changing poopy diapers, but DH was usually the one who did it whenever he was around. He actually enjoyed spending that time with the babies.

 

[brockash]

I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but honestly a "parent" that says they won't change a certain kind of diaper ect., really isn't a parent to me. I just don't get the mindset. I guess if you can afford a live in nanny ect. then you've gotten it taken care of, but still I don't consider someone like that a hands on real "parent." There are lots of things I don't like doing, that gross me out ect., but I had kids, and they're certainly not going to be able to grow up in that moment to be their own parent...that's what I'm there for. It's like dealing with spiders/other bugs/rodents (for me, it's probably the thing that grosses me out the most)...do I like/want to deal with them in the least bit? Heck no, but at some point you have to grow up and deal with it. That's what being an adult is all about.

 

[tazdev3225]

I think some people just say that in jest. You have a kid in a poopy diaper and you are the only one there, guess what. You do poopy diapers.

This is not always the case. My DH had me paged in a store to come home and change DS when he was a baby, before the age of cell phones, I refused. It was my first trip out in 2 months without the baby. When I got home a little later there was my MIL yelling at me for refusing to take care of my DS. DH his mommy to come over and chjange HIS son. Of course she dropped everything to race over to my house to change the poopy diaper HER son wouldn't change.

 

[punkin]

This is not always the case. My DH had me paged in a store to come home and change DS when he was a baby, before the age of cell phones, I refused. It was my first trip out in 2 months without the baby. When I got home a little later there was my MIL yelling at me for refusing to take care of my DS. DH his mommy to come over and chjange HIS son. Of course she dropped everything to race over to my house to change the poopy diaper HER son wouldn't change.

Sorry to ask, but are you still married to this guy?

 

[tazdev3225]

Sorry to ask, but are you still married to this guy?

Going on 29 years. That was his biggest fault. He never learned to deal with the diapers but he was and is a very involved father. My DS calls him almost every day on his break at work. We also go over to DS's house on the weekends he is off to watch whatever sports are on. He was the same way with our dughters and they are true Daddy's girls. I learned to deal with his aversion to poo because he cleaned up all other messes.
I also told him that if he ever called me at a store again for any reason other than death or stitches he would never have any more kids. I would make sure that he was physically incapable.

 

[Piecey]

I think DH knew better than to make a statement like that... unless he wanted the poopy diaper smeared on his pillow afterward. Yes, I made that threat.

He used to tell me he didn't have to change diapers because he was working all day. I got 3months of fully paid maternity leave though so I was quick to tell him that I was still earning a wage even if I was home all day.. so his argument was fruitless and he learned to deal with the poop.

Sometimes (now) they make me gag and he steps in and changes it for me. I've trained him well.

 

[sbell111]

I have seen so many "A Baby Story" episodes where the dad just "doesn't do the poopy diapers". I have also seen it numerous times at my job, new mom will jump up out of bed to change the diaper because dad, just doesn't do them.

Anyone ever heard of a mom who just refuses to do this? Is it only the male species that becomes physically ill when dealing with baby poop?

Wait just a pea picking minute.

Are you trying to tell me that I have the authority to refuse to change poopy diapers?

Of course, I don't really see the big deal. The only bad parts about changing them is getting her cleaned before she gets poop on the changing pad and 'burritoing' the diapers without making a mess.

 

[SAHDad]

Around here, the running joke has been that both kids saved their poopy diapers for daddy - that would be me, BTW. There was (is) some truth to it - I can be gone for a while, and the kids wouldn't poop. But within 10 minutes of when I walked back in the door, blammo!

 

[JerseyJanice]

I am fairly certain that my husband never changed a poopy diaper. It's possible that he did once or twice when left alone with DS, but if I were anywhere within shouting distance, there was no chance in Hades he'd do it. He never cleaned up any vomit either, but now, he has the task of cleaning up our backyard (AKA Max's toilet).

Fortunately for me, my own baby's diapers never bothered me--and I was O.K. with my nieces and nephews. I'd have a really tough time with someone else's kids though.

It's the same thing with my dog--I can clean up after him on a walk no problem, but I'm gagging all over the place when cleaning up after someone else's dog.

 

[MnMomtoboys]

I don't mind the diapers its the not laying still that gets me. For that reason I pay the 10 year old to change the diapers.

Dh will change them to but its hard hearing the commentary. Thats worse than the diaper.

 

[rparmfamily]

My first son died of meconium aspiration. I have another term for it.

I'm so sorry.

 

[rparmfamily]

I've never changed meconium, DH did all 3 kids.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Not that I refused to change poopy diapers, a lot of the time I COULDN'T. I have a very sensitive gag reflex, and if it was extremely bad, there was no way I could do it, I would literally be running for the bathroom, and with a baby on a changing table, that's not good.

It got really bad when I was pregnant with DD. My brother lived with us at the time, so while DH was home during the day to change DS, my brother would have to do it at night. If I was alone, then I tied a towel over my face.

If the smell wasn't bad, I would do it, but if it was baaaad, DH would take over.

 

[nmmom95]

My first son died of meconium aspiration. I have another term for it.

I'm so sorry. I lost a newborn son, as well. It was a different cause, but I wanted to send a

 

[pilesoflaundry]

Dh had a coworker's wife that wouldn't. Didn't matter if dad wasn't home when it happened, he would eventually get home. Nice huh?

It's not fair for either parent to just "not do" something that needs to be done.