Another wedding invitation wording ?

[ckret01]

I am getting married in 3 months and need desparately to order my invitations. I have spent hours on wedding boards and randomly looking up what the correct wedding invitation wording should be and I am more confused as ever. Some sites say that if the parents are paying for the wedding their names are listed and some say if the bride and groom are paying for the wedding then just their names are listed but you can also put your parents name on the invitation out of respect for them.

Then some sites say that there is a difference on what you put on the invitation and that if you are "hosting" a wedding then that is the name you put on the invitation and not who is "paying."

I do not understand the difference between hosting and paying for a wedding. And which one is correct?

What did you use on your invitation when you got married and why?

 

[mtemm]

even though we paid for most of our wedding ourselves, we chose to go with a more traditional wording (mr. and mrs. x request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter...)

for the rehearsal dinner, my mil couldn't afford to host but we still wrote out invites as if she were the host.

just felt right to us. we have had friends who have done the "together with their parents..." which was nice, too.

I don't think you can go wrong. just go with what you like, with what feels right. don't worry about who is doing the actual paying.

good luck and congrats!

 

[crz4mm2]

We paid for our own wedding.
I worded the invites the traditional Mr and Mrs _________ are pleased to announce the marriage of their daughter to Mr. ___________ son of Mr and Mrs___________ at 2 pm on May 27, 1979 at the home of the Bride's Grandmother.

 

[JKMastalski]

My Parents paid for 90% of the wedding and his parents paid for the videographer & Photographer. We worded it like this:


Mr. & Mrs. James _____________
request the honour of your presence at the
Wedding Ceremony of their daughter

Jennifer Lynn_____________
to

Joseph Francis______________
son of Mr & Mrs. Jospeh___________________


I thought it was really nice to include his parents on it.

 

[SDFgirl]

My parents paid for about 80% of the wedding, my in-laws paid for about 10% (they offered because they have such a HUGE family) and DH paid for about 10%.

Since we were older when I got married (I was 29, DH was 28), we didn't feel quite comfortable with the whole "parents giving daughter away" feel of things. So we went with this (I really liked it!!):

Just an example - NOT real names ...

Alice Jane Smith (that would be me )
and
Steven James Jones (DH)
together with their parents
Mary and David Smith (my parents)
and
Susan and Charles Jones (DH's parents)
request the honor of your presence
at their marriage
Saturday, the ninth of June
Two thousand and five
at six o'clock in the evening
Church Chapel
222 Church Road
Louisville, Kentucky

 

[Mrs.Toad]

even though we paid for most of our wedding ourselves, we chose to go with a more traditional wording (mr. and mrs. x request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter...)

for the rehearsal dinner, my mil couldn't afford to host but we still wrote out invites as if she were the host.

just felt right to us. we have had friends who have done the "together with their parents..." which was nice, too.

I don't think you can go wrong. just go with what you like, with what feels right. don't worry about who is doing the actual paying.

good luck and congrats!

I agree with this. I don't like the idea of basing the invitation wording on who is paying for the wedding, because I don't think it should matter. We used traditional wording, "my dad requests..." and "son of dh's parents..." because we liked including them both, regardless of who paid.

 

[golfgal]

It really comes down to what you want. I think a lot of the traditional 'rules' have gone by the wayside since more and more brides/grooms are paying for their own weddings. We have gotten invites with wording such as "Jane and Joe finally are tying the knot, come see us at...." to the very traditional 'Mr. and Mrs. Smith request the honor of your presence....".

We paid for our entire wedding but still went with a fairly traditional wording:

Mr and Mrs. Smith
and
Mr and Mrs Jones
Request the honor of your presence at the Wedding Mass of their children
Jane Ann
and
John Michael​

etc.

 

[mt2]

I had 2 sets of invitations. The 1st set (DH and I picked out together) was Bride name and Groom Name along with ours parents .....

We did this because of all of the different names of parents due to remarriages on all sides.

My IL's had a fit!! Apparently their co workers didn't realize there was another marriage MANY MANY years ago. The co workers wouldn't have known who we were.

They paid for the second set of invites since my side already paid for the 1st set.

That was a nightmare.

 

[Amberle3]

We paid for our own wedding, and actually didn't include any parents on the invitation. We just did:

Bride
and
Groom
Request the honour of your presence at their wedding

We did that not because we wanted necessarily wanted to exclude the parents, but because MIL is a control freak and we were already having enough problems with her wanting to take over the wedding. We knew that if their names were on the invitation that she'd view it as confirming her right to take charge of everything.

 

[Imzadi]

Just make sure that if you do include one set of parents names on the invite, that you include BOTH sets of parents.

My parents were soooo P.O.ed when my soon to be SIl accidently forgot to put their names on the invite, but did put her own parents down.

Their rationale was that they were going to invite relatives & distant friends of theirs they hadn't seen for a while. This is customary in my culture to do, to use a wedding as a gathering/reunion for people you haven't seen in a while. Even if these people don't come because they don't know the bride & groom too well, it was respectful to have invited them. BUT these people would get the invite listing a whole bunch of people they didn't know, (save the groom, who they might not remember where they know him from.) They'd have to rely on the envelope's return address listing my parents' names.

Plus, my parents were P.O.ed because it's not like the groom was an orphan. If her parents were listed, out of respect, they should have been too. It had nothing to do with who paid for the reception.

 

[MareQ]

My parents paid for 100% of my wedding - in addition my parents were separated so this is how I had it worded it.

Mrs. Blah blah blah
and
Mr. Blah blah blah
Request the honour or your presence at the Marriage of their Daughter

Mare Blah Blah Blah
to
.....

 

[becka]

Our wedding ended up being paid about 1/3 by us, 1/3 my parents and 1/3 my DH's parents. We did the wording in a pretty traditional way.

Mr. and Mrs.... My parents
and
Mr. and Mrs.... DH's parents
request the honour of your presence
at the wedding of their children
Me
and
DH
at 1:00 pm on Saturday, May 24th .......​

 

[MrsToad]

Our son and his DF are getting married soon. All of us are chipping in on the wedding costs. Future DDIL's mother died of a long illness just as future DDIL and DS started dating. If the parents' names were included on the invitation, she didn't want to omit her mother's name yet didn't want to say the "late Mrs. X" either. So, given the situation, they went with "FDDIL name and DS name, together with their parents, invite...." which I think is a fine solution. Everyone invited will clearly recognize either DS's or DDIL's name on the invitation so no problem there.

This decision certainly depends on your individual circumstances. Best wishes for your wedding.

 

[PhotobearSam]

Mr. & Mrs. James _____________
request the honour of your presence at the
Wedding Ceremony of their daughter

Jennifer Lynn_____________
to

Joseph Francis______________
son of Mr & Mrs. Jospeh___________________

We did it the same way but with our names of course..

I love the traditional things about weddings so it was great with us.

I love seeing traditonal wording on invites. My cousin got married to a doctor and had a super luxurious wedding but her invitations looked horrible. It sets the mood for your wedding.

Congratulations

 

[poohs_hunny]

Advice: watch the Everybody Loves Raymond episode where Robert purposefully screws up the invitations so that he won't have to help with the wedding. Hilarious, and any wording you choose after watching this will sound great!