
Just need to vent here- about Expo $- My MIL has lived with us for 13 years now. We usually get along alright- I haven't hurt her yet

- today she crossed the line- My Dh would not get on board until I got paid- we've been married for over 14 years now. Good marriage except for one thing- I can't work due to health issues of our kids. That means that his paycheck pays all of the bills. He's Ok with that, I'm ok with that- it's OUR money and OUR kids so we are happy doing what we do and sharing OUR money.
OK- she's always making comments that when she retires she will get to sit home and watch the kids- and I can take a turn going to work

yeah after they are all in high school and ele school- what's there to do all day then

She forgets that I supported my Dh all the way through college, I worked as a sales manager in the local bank- I'm not stupid or low witted in the $ managment department.
Anyway, DH is in charge of ALL of the bills and loans ect.. I have a say he takes good care of things- not late, some bills paid early - very responsible. She comes home tonight to see me on the computer working at catagorizing electronics for Dh to get started on his videos which I FINALLY talked him into doing-I told him that I would do all the leg work and it wouldn't take long for him to get the videos done- the $ is supposed to go into MY/the household account ( anything without interest- doctors, school needs, vacations, car care ect... )- every payday I get down to like $6 or $8 and hope nothing bounces. So, all he has to do is the review- I did all the leg work- model numbers, cost and so on, today for 33 products, I wrote cheat notes for him so all he has to do is basically read the review for 1 min each.
She comes home tonight and says, "What have you been up to today? I thought that all of the August videos were done." ( What that really means is why are you sitting on your bottom "playing" on the computer all the time ) I say that I'm getting these ready for Dh to....she cuts me off and says, "Don't you think he has done enough work today, and I think that it's good that he can use this money to pay off his school bills!" Who made her in charge and decided that she could determine where MY money goes? We already pay all of the house bills ect... AARRRGGGGHHHHH!

WE decided that he would go back to school and get his master in business to allow for upward mobility. His work pays for the class course if he get A's or B's- all A's so far for him, but we still have student fees, books and any extras needed- that's why he has school bills at 40 years old!
I held my tongue- I really tried, but I told her that if she wanted to use "that money" to pay off his bills then she could donate her money to the cause. It seems like I'm not allowed to have any "extra" money at all EVER- every penny has to be alloted or used for paying bills!
She doesn't know this but this money was already going to pay medical bills/ credit cards- I'll be darned if I'll let her know where it goes - I don't like her knowing all of our $ business every second. We have a book with all of the balances and account numbers in our drawer- I know what's up but I don't worry with paying the bills- so I'm not in the dark. When we got a home equity loan to pay off and combine bills, he had all the say as to where the money went- I was good with that because, like I said - he's very responsible. However, if I come into /earn money, then I have no say according to her rules about where it goes-
Ok, I feel better now! Thanks for letting me vent-

I guess there'll be no fireworks tonight- all it does is upset the kids and me and she just goes into her room ( it's like an apartment ) and chills while I have to calm down the kids.
The preacher forgot to add -until death do you all three part in the wedding vows

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Oh, Dh is her only child so everything automatically goes to him if there any windfall ect.. well, in her perfect world it does-