another neighbour advice thread :( asbo?

[scojos]

i live in a very quiet village, we liva around a green and our house "elongates" the green by about 25 ms (the full frontage of the house)
our neighbours have to walk along this to get to their house, never been a problem except she has gone back to uni to retrain, and is leaving 16 yr old son on his own.
16yr old son has a moped which he thinks it is ok to drive straight up the path to his house, and have his mates round drinking and smoking in his front garden (which is literally 3m away from my boys bedroom).
I have spoken to mom a few weeks ago and told her this is doing my head in, mom is rarely home, she is either at work or at new boyfriends, sons dad babysits, but he is a waste of space, out drinking, coming home very drubnk and very loud at 2am...) he doesnt see that his sons behaviour is inappropriate. mom says she understands this is inappropriate, but when shes not here....
today, right outside my window 10 teenagers have been shouting obseneties (my dd7 and her friends were out on their bikes), so i went out and spoke to him, told him i was at the end of teather, and that i couldnt cope with the bijes/swearing/constant noise anymore.
he was (obviously) a bit hacked off, but they then left...
what do i do? i feel like the evil hack who complains everytime they make a noise, but its affecting our quality of life, i cant even hear the television when they are outside...
i have called the council, waiting to hear from them, but does anyone have any advice/info on anti social behaviour..?
thanks
tracy

 

[Dollyrar]

I feel really sorry for you, as we went through a similar thing recently.

You have handled the matter impeccably so far. You have tried to calmly appeal to your neighbours good will by making them aware that the negative and anti-social activity they are engaging in is causing you stress and loss of sleep. This has failed to achieve the desired and socially acceptable result.

Begin to take a log of any times and dates when this activity takes place. If there is any noise outside your home after 11:00pm, then call the police and advise them that there are youths congregating outside your home. Tell them that you believe they are drinking under-age. If they attend, make sure that they provide you with a crime reference number.
In the meantime contact your local environmental health unit immediately in order to make them aware of the issue, and they will assign a member of staff to deal with your case. Call them as soon as any further incidents take place. Daily if so. They should also put you in touch with a local ASBO officer.

Hopefully the first time that the mother receives notification that she is being investigated in this way or when the Police attend her home will either shame her, or at least force her to start acting like a decent parent.

I'm bloody sick of the way that people in this country don't seem to have any respect for each other anymore, and I refuse to live in a society like that. Do not be intimidated by these idiots and let them ruin your life. Call the Police if they ever intimidate or threaten you or your property.

Good luck x

 

[natalielongstaff]

I'm bloody sick of the way that people in this country don't seem to have any respect for each other anymore, and I refuse to live in a society like that.

You are not alone believe me !!

Tracey i hope this issue gets resolved quickly for you

 

[scojos]

I feel really sorry for you, as we went through a similar thing recently.

You have handled the matter impeccably so far. You have tried to calmly appeal to your neighbours good will by making them aware that the negative and anti-social activity they are engaging in is causing you stress and loss of sleep. This has failed to achieve the desired and socially acceptable result.
Begin to take a log of any times and dates when this activity takes place. If there is any noise outside your home after 11:00pm, then call the police and advise them that there are youths congregating outside your home. Tell them that you believe they are drinking under-age. If they attend, make sure that they provide you with a crime reference number.
In the meantime contact your local environmental health unit immediately in order to make them aware of the issue, and they will assign a member of staff to deal with your case. Call them as soon as any further incidents take place. Daily if so. They should also put you in touch with a local ASBO officer.

Hopefully the first time that the mother receives notification that she is being investigated in this way or when the Police attend her home will either shame her, or at least force her to start acting like a decent parent.

I'm bloody sick of the way that people in this country don't seem to have any respect for each other anymore, and I refuse to live in a society like that. Do not be intimidated by these idiots and let them ruin your life. Call the Police if they ever intimidate or threaten you or your property.

Good luck x

thanks, i have just caught the mother on a rare apperance, and she said the following.
as i am the only person complaining they cant be that bad
she will not tell them to move on during the day, although she accepts the language is not appropriate with young kids.
her son has told his mates to watch the comments (they made some nasty comments as i left them earlier)

so now they are back outside my house and shouting (clean language this time)
i have 6 mopeds going up and down the street outside my house.
thats all ok...???
i feel like crying, i need to go and get my daughter but dont even want to leave the house

 

[wicket2005]

No advice but sounds like you do with a hug, so sending you one of those x

 

[cherjp]

do you have a community police officer that you could talk to for advice? We had a similar situation next door for 3 years so I know where your coming from . Although we are in scotland I think the process might be the same, we had to keep phoning the police who would come out and deal with it, then contact anti social behaviour number and report it, the difference with our troublemaker was that he was responsible for most of the crime in our town at that point and that although he was under 16 he had a police file bigger than a telephone book!!
Eventually they moved away. Be careful though and remember your safety is paramount!

 

[florida sun]

I cant even begin to think what a nighmare this must be for you, my mum was going through a very similar thing a few months back and was besides herself, so you have my sympathy We have a number to call here in Wales - a 24 hour help line 101, but Im not sure that it is yet availble throughout the country although I know they have expended it to certain areas of England.

Its what they call a non emergency police help line that deals with noise pollution and a number of other things, they were extremly helpful and came around quite quickly.

 

[mandymouse]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this, it must be a nightmare for you. I hope it gets sorted soon hun

 

[scojos]

thanks for your support guys, florida sun has edited my post but i cant work out why, sorry if i wrote something inappropriate, though i do hope you were not editing my spelling as you ll be here all night
as mom has said they are doing nothing wrong as its "day time" i have just had about 15 of them running around on the green, though they seem to have gone now, phew!
thanks for your kind thoughts, i just needed to know i was not being unreasonable, hey they think my front garden is fair game
though they have been "good" and kept off it today

 

[florida sun]

thanks for your support guys, florida sun has edited my post but i cant work out why, sorry if i wrote something inappropriate, though i do hope you were not editing my spelling as you ll be here all night
as mom has said they are doing nothing wrong as its "day time" i have just had about 15 of them running around on the green, though they seem to have gone now, phew!
thanks for your kind thoughts, i just needed to know i was not being unreasonable, hey they think my front garden is fair game
though they have been "good" and kept off it today

Sorry hon, should have pm'd you, just in a rush, it was nothing at all you had written, just something you quoted from somebody else's post, that needed cleaning up

 

[jjk]

Sorry your going through this I hope things improve for you

 

[gemmybear83]

Hi, I am really sorry your having to go through this

Your local Council may have a team or officer who deals directly with private sector ASB complaints and will liase with the police. Its also worth contacting them as well.

As the property privately owned or rented as this can sometimes make a difference?

 

[buzz for boys]

No advice but wanted to send you a hug !!

 

[joolz1910]

As the property privately owned or rented as this can sometimes make a difference?

That's what I was going to ask too. The council can evict people for anti-social behaviour in extreme circumstances. You shouldn't have to put up with this. Surely your neighbour realises that you aren't just a moaner or you would be complaining all the time. Sounds like she hasn't really got a grip on this lad of hers. The police could come and check up on their mopeds, whether they were roadworthy, had tax etc

 

[scojos]

Hi, I am really sorry your having to go through this

As the property privately owned or rented as this can sometimes make a difference?

they are council tennants, ours is privately owned, but ex council

No advice but wanted to send you a hug !!

thanks louise

 

[gemmybear83]

If they are Council tenants it is MUCH easier to solve this. Go to the housing department at the Council and complain, your neighbour will be signed up to a code of conduct

Hang in there - but now you have said this its honestly 100% easier to solve this. The Council has responsibilities as a landowner and landlord

 

[scojos]

If they are Council tenants it is MUCH easier to solve this. Go to the housing department at the Council and complain, your neighbour will be signed up to a code of conduct

Hang in there - but now you have said this its honestly 100% easier to solve this. The Council has responsibilities as a landowner and landlord

"
im going to ring them tomorrow following her "its ok" attitude today.
shouldnt you be writing my wedding invitation?

 

[gemmybear83]

"
im going to ring them tomorrow following her "its ok" attitude today.
shouldnt you be writing my wedding invitation?

 

[scojos]

 

[Netty]

I hope you get this sorted out soon, and resume back to your normal quiet life. As said get the council involved, give them a ring they will give you help and advice as this sort of behaviour is no longer acceptable thank god