I'm really sorry you are so upset about the A & E situation. I can understand your frustration, but can only offer you my experience and advice. First off, I don't think we've seen anyone on the board admit to acutally waiting the posted time of 5 hours. It's been largely assumed that the wait times are inflated. I have personally waited 2 1/2 hours alone with my 2 year old daughter while they were in Norway (and only one set of A & E could meet at a time). Honestly, the wait was not bad and time passed quickly and my daughter was entertained by the birds and the other kids and the items I brought with us that day.
Since they have moved to MK, I have seen them an additional 6 times (we saw them in Epcot one other time before the movie opened) and out of the 6 times at MK, we had FP+ for five of them. I am an AP who lives close to the park, but as such I cannot book 60 days out like onsite guests, I can only book 30 days out and can only hold 7 days of FP+ selections at a time. I'm sharing that to prove that FP+ CAN be obtained if you are tenacious and persistent enough. Many, MANY onsite guests have an advantage over someone like me ( a whole month ahead of me) and yet, I have been able to get passes to see the characters with my daughter for several weekends including Easter and Mother's Day.
I have seen wait times posted as low as 120 minutes for them (much better than 5 hours) and even on busy Mother's Day weekend, the wait was posted at 155 mins and I assume even that was inflated. One couple I spoke with were at the park at rope drop on Mother's Day, and got in standby and waited only 30 minutes.
One evening, we were in PFTH after 7pm and walked in with NO WAIT and saw Anna and Elsa (without a FP+). This was after their official meet was supposed to be done and they weren't advertised as being there, but it has happened for others besides me.
The truth of the matter is, YES, they are very popular, and a lot of children want to see them, but it is hardly impossible to do so. A lot of people are inflating the situation and making it out to be some chaotic battle to get in line, and it's just simply not. I say this as someone who has photographed the line and times every weekend and witnessed it first hand.
Cast members can only do so much to appease those who are just predicting that they won't be able to see the characters without actually attempting it, and Disney is *trying* to fix the issue with the immense popularity to their meet and greet. The move to MK from Norway DOUBLED the amount of meets A & E can do in a day (There are now two sets working all day) and they added them to the FOF parade so daily guests can see them.