Amy's Journal: Comments Welcome!

[traceycooper]

Way to go Amy
Your doing great with your food & exercise
Hope your week goes as good as your great day

 

[lovinaz]

Wow, what an awesome day! That ought to help keep you motivated for a while! I bet today will be wonderful as well and you will kick butt on your weigh-in tomorrow!!!

Not only did your plan work for you before, but now you've got plenty of experts to back it up. Stick with it and you'll surely see some results.

And I'm with Anna. It's nice to share and all, but the cold weather bit HAS TO stop!!!!

 

[Amy&Dan]

Thanks everyone. Today was a bit tougher. I had the most killer headache all day, caused by stress! My son has been having a problem with a friend who has suddenly begun to be a real PITA!!! We have been carpooling with this kid and its been a disaster for months. This was the kid that told his dad my son was looking up porn on their computer during a sleepover when in fact my son was just looking at Disneychannel.com, namely Hannah Montana! Its just constant drama which came to a head today afater som even more weird stuff and I knew it had to stop. I made dh (I love pawning this stuff off on my husband) call and leave them a message that we just couldn't do the carpool thing anymore. We have actually called them three times telling them to please reign their kid in which they promise to do but it never happens. All day I knew we would get a call back with them being upset since they both work and I have been the one to take care of this kid when they need to work late or get held up. Finally they called, and said "okay if he wants to ruin it thats his problem". No idea if the "he" is their kid or mine but I am glad its over. I do feel bad for them. What a nightmare. This was also the kid I found wandering around my house at 2:00 a.m. when he was sleeping over here. He was outside my daughter's room which totally freaked me out. So needless to say, I don't want him over here. Not easy to tell his parents that but at least its OVER! He is one of those kids I have had a very uneasy feeling about, he's just plain weird. And dd hides in her room when he is over which I find very telling.

I did great on food until ds called with the latest thing prompting me to call dh. So I ended up eating four rolls I found in the freezer leftover from God knows when. Major bummer. And the night before I weigh in no less. However, I feel so relieve this thing is over that I am glad I stuck to my guns, rolls or no rolls!

Breakfast: Shake
Lunch: Chicken veggie soup
Snack: Shredded wheat with skim milk
Snack: 3/4 oz of cheese
Dinner: 4 rolls with butter , 4 oz of lean roast beef

No walk today either. I am ready to weigh in tomorrow and see what my rolls did and just get on with a new week.

Anna and Amy: I am sorry about the cold, I swear I didn't send it to you!

 

[lovinaz]

You did the right thing cutting ties with the weird kid. My DS is bizarre too, but at least he's not that bad!!! And other parents tell me he is just so nice and polite when he is over at their house, so unless they are lying, he must be in the acceptable range of weirdness...

How was weigh-in this morning? Hopefully those rolls didn't do too much damage. I guess you can look at the positive side - now the rolls are gone and not there to tempt you!!

Don't let one bad day get you down, jump back on the wagon today and don't look back!

 

[traceycooper]

Well done from extracting yourself from a very awkward position!!
I agree you did the right thing,
as for the rolls - hope you enjoyed every mouthfull

 

[CACruisin']

Sounds like you did the right thing with the friend situation. DD's reaction is definitely important. Kids can key in on things when they aren't "right". As far as stress releasers, coulda been a lot worse than rolls, so don't feel too bad. Just get right back into your healthy eating lifestyle.

Hopefully WI today was ok.

Cold = bad! I do fine with the cold when I'm in the mountains (where is supposed to be cold), but don't do well when it is cold at home.

 

[Amy&Dan]

OMG, the sense of relief I feel cutting that kid out of my life is huge! Amy, my ds is a bit strange sometimes too! And thats why he seemed to attract this wacko kid. But this was the first time in the history of his life he flat out didn't want anything to do with another kid. Usually he is just so happy to have a friend he'll put up with anything. And dd's reaction was the breaker. So that is behind us and I look forward to not seeing the little darling again! The dad even said this happens with all of his friends which made me feel even worse.

Weigh in today was good, I was down 1.6 So I have lost three pounds in two weeks. I can really live with a 1-1.5 pound loss per week. Heck if I keep that up, I could lose another fifty by next Christmas! Normally when I lose that little I am bummed but today I took it with gratitude. Esp. after all of those rolls last night! DD told me I looked like I was a shark the way I was mowing through those! Great lesson to my daughter: watch Mommy power eat refined carbs with butter to alleviate stress! At least I wasn't knocking back martinis which is what I wanted to do!

Food today:
Breakfast: 2 pts bar
Lunch: Tortellini w/ marinara sauce: 10
Snack: ff popcorn: 2
Snack: Carb Control yougur: 1
Snack: two small tangerines: 2
Dinner: Rumbi Grill Salad: 8, chips and salsa: 3
Total: 28
One diet coke, one iced tea, one cup of herbal tea

I have put my dinner in before the fact but I know thats what I am going to eat. Maybe writing it down will make me stick with it. Although I always get this at Rumbi Grill. Since I have never done bad there, I feel like its safe bet for eating out.

My leader told me a helpful tip today. She said figure your breakfast points then go ahead and figure what you will have for dinner. Then you know exactly how much you can eat throughout the day. Makes sense. Breakfast and dinner are usually okay, its the 12 hours in between that kill me. So I know from the get go what I am having points wise for the evening than I can plan ahead by working my way back. We'll see. I came in very good on points this week and even with last night's roll binge, didn't go over on my total amount of points/flex points. I need to bump up the water (at 60 oz so far) and the fiber.

And I did get a 30 minute walk today. I feel good, may it please continue! We leave for California five months from tomorrow. A 1.5 weekly average loss would put me at around 30 pounds. But then again, I almost hate to figure that since I never make any of my long range goals! But there always a first time right?

 

[lovinaz]

What a great weigh-in!!!!! You are right, 1.5lbs per week is the perfect rate to lose, because there is more of a chance it will stay gone!

I feel bad for that kid's parents. Obviously he has some issues and if all his other "friends" give him the boot, the parents should be taking him to a counselor to see what the problem is...

I find that if I write things down I am more prone to stick to the plan as well. I am back to putting my stuff on FitDay, and it helps to do it the day before as opposed to doing it later, when it already might be too late! That is a great plan to figure breakfast and dinner, then "play" with the time in between.

And yes, there IS a first time for everything, you need to tell yourself that not only CAN you make your 5 month goal, you WILL!!!

 

[toystoryduo]

Amy,

I'm sorry to hear about the situation with your DS's ex-buddy. I think you did the right thing.

Great job on the loss this week! Keep it up and you WILL make your goal, Amy!

Have a great Thursday!

 

[traceycooper]

Well done on the 1.6 loss

Thats definatly a good way to go, gradual but constant
Hope the working out your points in advance works for you, it certainly sounds a good idea!
Have a great week

 

[toystoryduo]

Hi Amy,

Hope you had a wonderful day today!

 

[CACruisin']

Congrats on the loss! Those are lbs you need to never see again.

 

[Amy&Dan]

Thanks so much everyone. I had such a rough day yesterday. Food was fine but my daughter is really struggling in school. She tries so hard and one of her teachers is a real you know what. Can't stand the woman. She had written some very unkind things on my dd's papers. It hurts because she tries so hard and can't help it that she doesn't do A work. The other teacher is wonderful however and I talked to her today and felt better. I also had a bunch of other things come up, none of them very pleasant, all to do with family etc. Just a really hard day. Fast forward to today which I spent all day with my mom and it was a food nightmare. Went out to lunch to her favorite place (think independantly owned Denny's), nothing healthy so I got a cheeseburger and fries. I ate the whole thing. Then my mom got pie which of course she couldn't finish so I did. Dinner was supposed to be Country Buffet but I said I was too full, so my dad took my dh and kids while my mom and I stayed home. I had a few almonds and about 5 chips and called it a day. I did manage to drink 80 oz of water today plus two diet cokes. I will figure my points tomorrow, I'm too tired now. I think I'll just look up Denny's on the WW site and see what their cheeseburger meal would be. I know I plowed through quite a few flex points which will leave me with very few if any for the weekend.

I do feel better about dd, the other teacher assured me that she is doing okay and to ignore the comments from the other teacher, thats what she does, ignore her all the time! It just stinks because dd read them and was beside herself and feeling very rotten. She's well aware that school is very hard for her and doesn't need catty reminders! My friend suggested we go by and egg the teachers house tonight! That would be a hoot if I got arrested for vandalizing my daughter's teacher's house!

 

[traceycooper]

My friend suggested we go by and egg the teachers house tonight! That would be a hoot if I got arrested for vandalizing my daughter's teacher's house!

Sounds like a great idea

On a serious note though, those negative comments will not be good for your DD self esteem & confidence, & it could even effect her performance, i would seriously consider taking further action to stop the teacher writing these comments.
We are not allowed to write negative comments when marking (school policy)
just positives & sometimes what we have worked on
e.g. when listening to a child read i may write: 'lovely reading, we looked at remembering to take a breath when we reach a full stop'
or when marking written work - 'you tried really hard, we talked about presentation' etc....

Hope everything works out

 

[CACruisin']

I'm glad the other teacher could give you some insight into DD's teacher. That is really hard to deal with. At least you know that the school/teachers are aware of the problem. It is really demoralizing for DD though. You have a lot of stress going on right now. Just take it one day at a time and don't give up when you have a bad day. Have you been able to walk any? I remember that was a good de-stressor for you.

 

[lovinaz]

I'm sorry to hear you had such a rough day. You did do a good thing by avoiding the buffet though. And hopefully the points situation will not be as bad as you think. That' what flex points are for, right??

I have never seen a nasty remark on either of my kids papers and I am appalled that is happening to your DD! Between that and the attitude towards your DS when you went on your cruise, I think there is plenty of egging that needs to happen! It's making me mad and they aren't even my kids!!! I think you should talk to the snotty teacher and if you don't get anywhere, take it to the principal. It's just uncalled for. Have you ever considered tutoring for DD?

Hang in there and don't let the bad stuff get you down. Remember how awesome you felt all last week and try to get that feeling back!

 

[toystoryduo]

Amy,

I'm sorry it was such a rough day for you WISH sis..... You did a great job avoiding the buffet though!

I'm so sorry about what your DD's teacher did. To write an unkind comment on her paper is completely uncalled for. Kids at this age need to have their self esteems built up,(especially by their teachers) not torn down. I am so sorry that your DD has to go through this. I can't remember what grade your DD is in, but I did teach fifth grade a few years ago. If you need anything, please let me know and I will help if I can.

I hope that Sunday was a restful and relaxing day for you. Have a great week ahead WISH sis!

 

[Amy&Dan]

Amy, I have thus far dropped 7K on tutoring for dd. I don't think it helped a bit. She seems to "get" things in her own good time. I think many of the teachers in our district are just way stressed as CSAP testing is upon us and it rules their lives. Still, don't take it out on the kids! I know dd is smart, school is just not easy for her and it probably never will be.

Tracy: Thanks for the good thoughts, it was very upsetting to dd. She is very sensitive about this, partly because her best friend is a gifted student and the inevitable comparisons always come up. And poor Maria always comes out the loser in those competitions. Breaks my heart!

Anna: One day at a time is my new mantra. It seems too often that things just keep changing so thinking too far in the future is just wasted effort! I was glad I talked to the other teacher who thinks moving dd to another school next year might not be a bad idea. Otherwise she will have this teacher full time for basically an 11 month school year. I have a week to decide what to do.

Tracey: I wish our school would take that stance against putting those type of comments on the papers. If my daughter was a slacker who didn't care that would be different. But she tries so hard and it hurts her. I asked her how it made her feel and she replied she knows this teacher thinks she is dumb and gets tired of her rolling her eyes and telling her how "this is easy stuff, anyboy can do it". Nice huh?

Food this weekend, not so great. We went to church as always on Saturday night. Had a great sermon all about being content with your lot vs. changing things you can to make your life better. It was very motivating, hey I even took notes. But then proceeded to go out for Mexican on a very empty stomach and just blew the diet right out of the water. Three soft steak tacos with guac plus some chips and salsa. I am surprised I didnt' eat the table too! Yesterday was apparently National Tribute to Carbs at my house! I had: two donuts (cake variety), some doritos, some popcorn and a bowl of squash soup. Oh and a bowl of very high fiber cereal that is actually 0 points. Points for the day were 28, right on target but not come by very healthfully! Today has been better. Also, I did make my goal of walking four times last week. I am hoping for five this week. TOM is just about here, I can feel it coming on which may explain my need for salty carbs.

Ijust felt really depressed all weekend, I think the thing with dd's teacher started it off wrong. Also a part of this whole thing with the teacher was that I called a friend to cry on her shoulder but didn't get much in the way of understanding. I weigh in on Wed. and still hopeful to be down a pound to keep my 5 pounds per month average goal alive and well!

 

[toystoryduo]

Oh Amy,

Sweetie, I'm sorry you had such a tough weekend. The situation with your DD, your friend's comments and TOM coming.... Yikes! I am so proud of you for staying in your point's range! Sure, the food wasn't all veggies and fruits, but you stayed in range. Celebrate that, Amy! Be proud of that!

As for your DD.... If your daughter has any chance that she may have this teacher for a full 11 months next year, then you may want to seriously consider changing schools for her. Your DD is trying her best right now and if this teacher can't recongnize that then he/she could further hurt your DD's self esteem. I know it's a tough situation. You know your DD best and I am totally confident that whatever decision you make for her will be the best one.

Sweetie, please be sure and take good care of you! Sending you some for a great weigh-in this week! Take care!

 

[Amy&Dan]

Tracy, thanks so much, you always know just what to say. I am so torn about changing schools for dd. I did this in kindergarten, she had a teacher that was not so great and kept insisting dd should be the head of the class since she was the oldest. They tested her ENDLESSLY and found nothing wrong, she didn't qualify for special ed. But the end result was that at age 6 dd felt very bad about herself, hated going to school and knew she could never please this woman. I ended up moving her (per pediatricians advice) about a third of the way through the year to a small private kindergarten. We also ended up tutoring her to the tune of seven thousand dollars. I know we did what we thought was right but I always knew that on some level dd thought she was somehow being punished by being made to leave her school and friends and felt different. Then I took her back to the same school and for grades 1-3 she was truly blessed with the BEST teachers. Unfortuantely the wonderful teacher ds had for fourth grade retired (darn him anyway) and they brought this other teacher in. I fear that if I move her again, that will just add to her feelings of thinking that she is not good enough to stay in that school. And who knows, I could move her only to end up with another rotten teacher. You never know. And I only have until Feb. 1 to make my decision. Her regular teacher said she could really see the benefit of moving her but also sees the same concerns dh and I have. I think somebody forgot to tell me that being a parent is REALLY friggin hard! One good thing, is that her main teacher this who is wonderful will be her social studies and science teacher next year. So she will still have that influence. But for the bulk of the day she will have the other teacher. I mean right now she only has her for two classes and its amazing how that affects her whole outlook. Ahh, sorry to rant again, but this thing is weighing heavy on my mind. It'll all work out in the end. My mom said the other day they never worried about that when I was kid, you just sent your kid to school and baked cupcakes for the parties and were kept in the dark. Sounds pretty good to me!

Here is my food for the day. Within points but a bit carb heavy.

Breakfast: Atkins Shake (3)
Snack: Protein Bar/milk (5)
Lunch: Veggie delite pizza from Papa Murphy's (w/o weird garlic cream sauce): 5
Snack: Popcorn: (2)
Snack: High Fiber cereal w/ 1/2 cup skim: (1)
Dinner: Lasagne (7), salad (1), garlic bread (4), steamed veggies (0)
Total for the day: 28
4 servings of veggies, no fruit
Water: 64 oz, one diet coke, one cup of green tea