Amazon wedding registry

[schmitty]

Would you like using an amazon.com wedding registry to buy for a bride and groom?

 

[bballmom56]

Sure. Why not? If it is things they want or need, it's no different from any other registry in my view.

 

[Ember]

So long as the registry information wasn't included in the invitation, I'd be happy to use it.

 

[ilovefh]

Yeah, sure! It's no different than any other registry. Although I just heard you could make an amazon registry. Some women that are due around the same time I am were talking about it. Who knew!

 

[Hannathy]

Yes I love Amazon! and it is nationwide so it is easy for everyone. They are also fabulous for keeping track of your shipping and the progress of your order and you can usually find free shipping!

Wish every bride used Amazon.

 

[schmitty]

Good to hear. I was wondering how people would percieve an online registry. I figured it would be so much easier than going to the store to buy gifts.

 

[bballmom56]

Good to hear. I was wondering how people would percieve an online registry. I figured it would be so much easier than going to the store to buy gifts.

The last three weddings we have been to have all had online registries. They used Bed, Bath and Beyond, JC Penney, Macy's, etc. It made it so easy.

 

[golfgal]

Good to hear. I was wondering how people would percieve an online registry. I figured it would be so much easier than going to the store to buy gifts.

Which is exactly WHY I would like it-shop online, ship to the bride/groom, done. Actually you can access pretty much every registry online these days anyway.

I don't even care if someone puts registry information in a wedding invite because I am going to get them something anyway and it saves me the trouble of trying to figure out where they are registered but I know a lot of people get offended by that.

 

[TheBigBadWolf]

Yes, I would like and and use it. I bought a baby gift off the Amazon gift registry tonight. I had emailed my friend and asked where she was registered since I couldn't find her on Babies R Us or Target baby registries. I was surprised to hear she was registered on Amazon! So many of the items in her nursery were from Amazon. It made it very easy for me to find the perfect gift for her (she lives 700 miles from me). I love Amazon for their reviews of items, free shipping, no tax, and their easy checkout.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Absolutely! Someone posted about the benefit that it is nationwide--actaully the benefit is bigger than that We live in Germany and it is expensive teh ship things back to teh US, so most gifts we buy end up being bought online (many, many from Amazon) and shipped directly to the recipients. So, it has the benefit of being WORLDwide

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

I am old school. I don't like using wedding registries of any kind when buying wedding gifts. They are now common, but it still feels tacky to me. Yeah, I have heard all of the arguments in support of them and can't argue with them, but they still feel tacky.

We decide what we want to buy the couple, then check the wedding registry. If they have what we were going to buy them listed and not yet bought, we buy the item on the registry (as long as it is in the same price range). If it isn't listed, we usually buy it anyway.

We just check the registry to eliminate duplicate gifts, not to buy them what they want.

 

[luvmy3]

So long as the registry information wasn't included in the invitation, I'd be happy to use it.

Just curious why this bothers some people. The whole point of a shower is to give gifts so whats wrong with putting a registry card in the invitation?

OP, I think its a great idea, I love Amazon and I'd rather shop there than go out and search for items on the list in the stores.

 

[golfgal]

I am old school. I don't like using wedding registries of any kind when buying wedding gifts. They are now common, but it still feels tacky to me. Yeah, I have heard all of the arguments in support of them and can't argue with them, but they still feel tacky.

We decide what we want to buy the couple, then check the wedding registry. If they have what we were going to buy them listed and not yet bought, we buy the item on the registry (as long as it is in the same price range). If it isn't listed, we usually buy it anyway.

We just check the registry to eliminate duplicate gifts, not to buy them what they want.

Actually, wedding registries ARE old school. People have been registering for china and such long before you were born. Haven't you heard relatives say "well, they will be picking out China patterns soon"

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Actually, wedding registries ARE old school. People have been registering for china and such long before you were born. Haven't you heard relatives say "well, they will be picking out China patterns soon"

Not in most places. This really didn't become common across America until the 90s (china aside).

 

[tlbwriter]

Not in most places. This really didn't become common across America until the 90s (china aside).

Really? I got married in the 80s and everyone asked me where I was registered. And I live in the middle of the U.S., so everything gets here last.

 

[pyrxtc]

I didn't say yes or no since it all would depend on the situation. I would like the registry on Amazon so I could get an idea of what they wanted and buy it locally if they lived locally. If they didn't live locally, I would still check prices on other websites and for coupons on other sites to check cost before buying it anywhere. I know that most of family still doesn't have internet and even if they do, it is just basic e-mail and nothing else so it wouldn't go over well here.

 

[Ember]

Just curious why this bothers some people. The whole point of a shower is to give gifts so whats wrong with putting a registry card in the invitation?

Since you asked, it's because you invite people to an event, not gifts. To me it's the difference between: "I would love to have you at my party!" and "Come to my party, get me a gift, and I want THIS!" which comes off as little more then a spoiled child demanding presents.

I personally feel that it is not the job of the recipient to choose their own gift. Their job is to graciously accept and to say thank you. So while there are arguments to be made about getting someone what they want, I feel it reduces the gift to little more than a transaction where the guest pays a demanded fee. Plus, it irritates me that people spend so much time thinking about their own gifts. There is no way to not come off as selfish when you spend all your time pondering how to get only what you want out of your loved ones.

That said, I have no issues with a registry. But the information should be provided when asked for, not before. And if, heaven forbid, someone get a gift they didn't really want, maybe they should consider the intention of love behind the gift, rather than bemoan the fact that it wasn't what they wanted - had the money been theirs to spend. Which, of course, it wasn't.

 

[luvmy3]

Since you asked, it's because you invite people to an event, not gifts. To me it's the difference between: "I would love to have you at my party!" and "Come to my party, get me a gift, and I want THIS!" which comes off as little more then a spoiled child demanding presents.

I personally feel that it is not the job of the recipient to choose their own gift. Their job is to graciously accept and to say thank you. So while there are arguments to be made about getting someone what they want, I feel it reduces the gift to little more than a transaction where the guest pays a demanded fee. Plus, it irritates me that people spend so much time thinking about their own gifts. There is no way to not come off as selfish when you spend all your time pondering how to get only what you want out of your loved ones.

That said, I have no issues with a registry. But the information should be provided when asked for, not before. And if, heaven forbid, someone get a gift they didn't really want, maybe they should consider the intention of love behind the gift, rather than bemoan the fact that it wasn't what they wanted - had the money been theirs to spend. Which, of course, it wasn't.

It actually does sound like you have issues with the concept of a registry, but thanks for answering.

I guess I see things differently. I don't mind registry info being included, in fact I prefer it so that I don't have to track down where the person is registered. I also don't have any issues with someone picking out items they want for their new married life or the new baby on the way, and I would rather get them something that they aren't going to end up throwing on the top shelf of a closet until its time to give it to Goodwill. Its not selfish, its just part of their planning. The reason you invite your loved ones to your shower is to "shower you with gifts", so I can't see it as demanding a present, its just what is traditionally done, and yes its expected, but again thats the whole point. I also don't assume that the recipient only wants me there for my gift or will bemoan what I give if it wasn't on the registry. They may not want it, or use it but that doesn't mean they don't appreciate it. Granted, there are exceptions to that, but I am fortunate enough to not have any friends or family who have given me reasons to think otherwise.

 

[Ember]

It actually does sound like you have issues with teh concept of a registry, but thanks for answering.
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No, I have issues with how registries are used. They should not be used to hit people over the head with the recipients material demands for gifts. But rather to offer suggestions when asked for. Providing registry information should only be done at the givers request. It's really no different than verbally inviting someone to your home and then saying, "By the way, you'll be bringing the dessert, and we want that strawberry cheesecake from the bakery on 5th Ave. So just pick that up on your way."

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

No, I have issues with how registries are used. They should not be used to hit people over the head with the recipients material demands for gifts. But rather to offer suggestions when asked for. Providing registry information should only be done at the givers request. It's really no different than verbally inviting someone to your home and then saying, "By the way, you'll be bringing the dessert, and we want that strawberry cheesecake from the bakery on 5th Ave. So just pick that up on your way."

I think this comes pretty close to how I feel, also. My wife and I refused to do a registry because we didn't want anyone to assume that we expected a gift. We were just happy that they came - some from very far away.

Those that asked what we wanted/needed, we answered - but never without them having asked. Think about it like this - In Christmas Vacation, Clark decides to help cousin Eddie buy his children something for Christmas. Well, Eddie says someting like, "Wow! What a surprise!" Then pulls out the long list of things that he wanted Clark to buy him and his family. This is what a gift registry seems like to me.