Am I wrong?

[mylightshines]

Thanks for the reassurance. At least I know I'm not wrong. If he decides to call and apologize, I will have a long talk with him and give them some rules they have to live by.

 

[EthansMom]

You are in the right.

DS agreed to not bring the pets to your house and brought them without even discussing it with you. NO PETS means NO PETS. Tell DS that he agreed to not bring the pets to your house and that if he can't agree to a few rules, then sharing housing isn't going to work out.

BTW, who did they think was going to take care of their three pets while they are gone for school?

 

[mylightshines]

BTW, who did they think was going to take care of their three pets while they are gone for school?

That's just it, they haven't thought about it. That's why I specifically said you can't bring your animals, you need to figure out what you're going to do with them.

 

[Wishing on a star]

You are completely in the right!

You have a small home with one bathroom, several pets, etc... And, they think they can just waltz in.

They are considering making a move, so they think it is okay to give up the roof over their heads and take advantage???

You do not need to enable this any further.

Your son is big enough to loose the pull-ups, put on his boxers, and make the necessary arrangements to provide for him and his wife and 'family'.

I would not take them back in.

I know as a parent, that this is very hard to do.

But, he is a married adult now.
You are not, and can not be, responsible for him.

 

[HonestAbe]

Have your son read this.

YOU ARE 22 YEARS OLD. YOU HAVE A 26 YEAR OLD WIFE. YOU NOW HAVE A FAMILY. I DO NOT CARE WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS THAT YOU FEEL LIKE YOU CAN WALK ALL OVER YOUR MOTHER BUT IT STOPS NOW. GROW UP AND BE A MAN. GET A J-O-B AND PAY YOUR OWN RENT AND LET YOUR MOTHER LIVE HER LIFE. SHE LOVES YOU BUT YOU AND YOUR WIFE ARE TAKING ADVANTAGE OF HER AND IT ISNT RIGHT.

PACK YOUR BAGS, MOVE OUT R-I-G-H-T N-O-W!!!! If you have to sleep in your car, that's YOUR problem. Not your mothers. And when you have to explain to your wife why she has to sleep in a car you can tell her you are being a man and taking responsibility for your own stupidity. Better than ruining your relationship with your mother.

Also, you had BETTER NOT leave those animals on the street. YOU and YOU ALONE took responsibility for them so YOU WILL take care of them. DONT BE A JERK and a @#$%@&&%^....ahhhh you make me so friggin ANGRY.

BE A MAN YOU LOSER PUNK.

 

[Keli]

You know, this is just one the difficult things you have to go through while your children are in that grown-up physically but not quite there maturity-wise stage. Maybe all parents don't face this stage but I sure know an awful lot of them that do.
He is the one that's totally out of line here. Don't second guess yourself. Good luck and I hope everything works out well for all of you.

 

[mylightshines]

Have your son read this.

YOU ARE 22 YEARS OLD. YOU HAVE A 26 YEAR OLD WIFE. YOU NOW HAVE A FAMILY. I DO NOT CARE WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS THAT YOU FEEL LIKE YOU CAN WALK ALL OVER YOUR MOTHER BUT IT STOPS NOW. GROW UP AND BE A MAN. GET A J-O-B AND PAY YOUR OWN RENT AND LET YOUR MOTHER LIVE HER LIFE. SHE LOVES YOU BUT YOU AND YOUR WIFE ARE TAKING ADVANTAGE OF HER AND IT ISNT RIGHT.

PACK YOUR BAGS, MOVE OUT R-I-G-H-T N-O-W!!!! If you have to sleep in your car, that's YOUR problem. Not your mothers. And when you have to explain to your wife why she has to sleep in a car you can tell her you are being a man and taking responsibility for your own stupidity. Better than ruining your relationship with your mother.

Also, you had BETTER NOT leave those animals on the street. YOU and YOU ALONE took responsibility for them so YOU WILL take care of them. DONT BE A JERK and a @#$%@&&%^....ahhhh you make me so friggin ANGRY.

BE A MAN YOU LOSER PUNK.

That's great!! Thanks for the support!!

 

[lizanne]

You know, this is just one the difficult things you have to go through while your children are in that grown-up physically but not quite there maturity-wise stage. Maybe all parents don't face this stage but I sure know an awful lot of them that do.
He is the one that's totally out of line here. Don't second guess yourself. Good luck and I hope everything works out well for all of you.

Well said.

I wouldn't ask for an apology. I always feel that if I have to ask then it's not worth it.

I would try to have a calm conversation (write your thoughts down before you talk with him) and explain how you feel and what the rules will be if you decide to allow them to return. If he gets angry, let him, just try to remain calm and in control so you don't say something you don't mean.

I hope it all works out for the best.