Am I weird?

[Mermaid02]

"Precious Boy" sounds like something a predator would say.... not saying the OP is one....and the guy in question is 18- but I think that is why so many of us are thinking this is strange. Very creepy

And with what the OP has posted in the past.... your lucky your dh just gave you a look... mine would have shown me the door!

 

[Heidict]

You had a crush on an 18 year old for a few years? That is very weird and wrong on so many levels. It is gross when an older man looks at a teenager and says it and it's still gross when an older woman looks at a teenager and says it. It doesn't matter what sex the older person it.


Then on top of that you have a history of cheating on your husband, which you were so lucky he forgave you for, and you go and say something like that? Seriously?

JamesMommy, you really need to get into some solo counseling. I am not saying that to be mean, but it is obvious that you have some problems that you need to work on. For the sake of your son, your marriage and yourself.

 

[Disney Doll]

I think given your entire circumstance it is probably not the best decision you could make.

 

[RitaE]

I'd have to go with self-destructive given that your marriage is already on shaky ground in regards to your infidelity.

Some thoughts are best left inside of the brain.

 

[declansdad]

Given your previous thread about you and an ex, I think your husband should now be wondering why he gave you another chance.

 

[Metsfan520]

Having a crush? Not weird, not at all.
Having a crush on someone since he was a kid? weird
Saying it out loud? kinda weird
Saying it out loud, with the husband you cheated on in earshot? really weird
Calling the crush "precious"? over the top weird

Posting this all on the internet? A big mistake if your DH ever wants a divorce.

 

[snapppyd]

Without reading the other responses (which I am sure were:

He's 18 - what's the problem?

She said it's been going on for years. She said she already cheated on her husband.

I sometimes think trolls really can have thousands of posts

 

[KAMLEM]

He's been teasing you for years about an 18 year old.. so since the boy was like 14/15/16-ish I didn't think the original scenario was all that weird.. but that definitely made it cross wayyyyy into weirdo land, with no chance at coming back.

Worse than weird, just plain wrong and inappropriate.

Think the OP will ever come back??

 

[Metsfan520]

Worse than weird, just plain wrong and inappropriate.

Think the OP will ever come back??

I doubt it.

 

[horseshowmom]

Well, I'm with the majority. I do think it's odd for a grown woman to call her child's 18 year old teacher her precious boy. I think it's very strange that this has apparently been going on for years (by the poster's own account). And I can't in my wildest dreams imagine saying something like that to my husband (just like I wouldn't appreciate it if it came out of his mouth about some teenage girl or anybody else for that matter). If the added post is correct, the OP needs to be very careful about her impulsive behavior.

 

[allison443]

You had a crush on an 18 year old for a few years? That is very weird and wrong on so many levels. It is gross when an older man looks at a teenager and says it and it's still gross when an older woman looks at a teenager and says it. It doesn't matter what sex the older person it.

I agree...imagine if someone came on here and posted that their husband has openly had a crush on a female teenage babysitter for the past few years since whe was 15 or 16, and thinks she's so cute and sweet, and called her his "precious girl" Would anyone think that wasn't weird??

 

[Luv2Scrap]

How interesting it would be to hear her DH's POV on this one...

not to mention Precious Boy's POV!

 

[diznygirl]

Worse than weird, just plain wrong and inappropriate.

Think the OP will ever come back??

In a couple of months with a new thread about how her husband up and left her without any warning at all.

 

[Metsfan520]

In a couple of months with a new thread about how her husband up and left her without any warning at all.

and then people will post links to this thread or the original thread about the marriage, and on and on......

 

[james'mommy]

I doubt it.

I have no problem coming back and posting on this thread. All I asked was if it was weird. I never asked you people for advice on my marriage. This guy has been my son's instructor for 3.5 years. I never said I thought he was hot the whole time. He's always been a sweet and respectful guy the entire time I've known him. He's grown up alot. He's a very handsome guy. And he's legal. My DH is fine with the fact I have a little crush on Patrick. He's got a crush on one of the female instructors. It's not like I'm planning on running off to Mexico with him.

 

[Mermaid02]

I have no problem coming back and posting on this thread. All I asked was if it was weird. I never asked you people for advice on my marriage. This guy has been my son's instructor for 3.5 years. I never said I thought he was hot the whole time. He's always been a sweet and respectful guy the entire time I've known him. He's grown up alot. He's a very handsome guy. And he's legal. My DH is fine with the fact I have a little crush on Patrick. He's got a crush on one of the female instructors. It's not like I'm planning on running off to Mexico with him.

That just sounds so creepy.

 

[Scurvy]

All I asked was if it was weird.

I think that would be a "Yes".

 

[ckay87]

I'm trying to put myself in your shoes. I have a son who is 17. He has many friends who are 18. I have known them since they were little. They have grown up to be fine looking young men. I would say that. Maybe if I felt compelled to call them "my precious boy" for any reason, it would just be out of motherly-type affection. But to refer to that sentiment as a "crush" ..... EEWW!! No!

Oh geez, a thousand times No!

 

[declansdad]

I have no problem coming back and posting on this thread. All I asked was if it was weird. I never asked you people for advice on my marriage. This guy has been my son's instructor for 3.5 years. I never said I thought he was hot the whole time. He's always been a sweet and respectful guy the entire time I've known him. He's grown up alot. He's a very handsome guy. And he's legal. My DH is fine with the fact I have a little crush on Patrick. He's got a crush on one of the female instructors. It's not like I'm planning on running off to Mexico with him.

Wasn't there a suggestion for an open marriage on your other thread? It almost sounds as if you have gone this way.

 

[RitaE]

ok I'll try to answer in a polite way.

People (even married people) experience physical attraction - that is a fact of life. It is not weird to have a physical reaction to somebody.

However you (as a married woman) have a professional relationship with this ... I'll be generous and call him a young man although I really want to say boy.

Young Man

He is your child's instructor. It is a business relationship and he deserves to be treated as such ... a business relationship. Making up pet cutsey sexually charged names for him and actually using them oversteps the boundaries of that relationship.

What you are doing is not all that different than an older man getting his jollies peering down the blouse of a teen waitress and and calling her his little sweet thing. It comes dangerously close to crossing the line toward sexual harassment. He is at his JOB and he should not be put into the position of having to defend himself from what is very likely unwanted familiarity.

And that does not even begin to address why your husband is giving you a look over it ... even though he is just fine with his adulteress wife panting after other men in his presence. right.