Am I just being overly sensitive today?

[McKelly]

Probably, but need some opinions from people who don't know her. Just called my girlfriend to ask her if she wanted to buy some Girl Scout Cookies and she said "No, I am starting a diet."

Okay, what about DH and DS and DD that live in the house.

I have never ONCE turned down any of her kids fundraisers, remembered all of their birthdays, holidays, etc. The only thing my kids receive is an E-mail card, which is FINE, because it is acknowledged and that is all that I ask!

Money is not an issue, and I know that diets say don't buy it if you don't want to eat it, but come on, does that even work with a family?!? Not here!

One box?!?!?!? I am really upset right now!! Justified or no?

 

[tar heel]

Just let it roll. Our neighbors didn't buy any Boy Scout popcorn from our son this year. Same neighbors whose son did a People to People ambassador trip last summer and we gave him $25 for his fundraising.

 

[Daisy Duck 5]

No, I think you are right. My aunt always buys popcorn from her nephews even thought she knows she will not eat it. She then usually ends up giving the popcorn to me.
I dont like when people use their diet as an excuse for not wanting to do something. For example we asked my aunt to go out to supper a few weeks okay and she said no I'm on a diet. Well you can get healthy food at the restaurant as well. If she didnt want to go she could of just said no thank you.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Money is not an issue, and I know that diets say don't buy it if you don't want to eat it, but come on, does that even work with a family?!? Not here!

One box?!?!?!? I am really upset right now!! Justified or no?

i'd let it go...I'd be the same way. I have zero willpower, if there are cookies in the house while I'm on a diet...I'll eat them.

and shouldn't your DD be selling these cookies...not you?

I just dont' think people should be forced to purchase things from fundraisers...family or not.

JMO

 

[mickeyboat]

Probably, but need some opinions from people who don't know her. Just called my girlfriend to ask her if she wanted to buy some Girl Scout Cookies and she said "No, I am starting a diet."

Okay, what about DH and DS and DD that live in the house.

I have never ONCE turned down any of her kids fundraisers, remembered all of their birthdays, holidays, etc. The only thing my kids receive is an E-mail card, which is FINE, because it is acknowledged and that is all that I ask!

Money is not an issue, and I know that diets say don't buy it if you don't want to eat it, but come on, does that even work with a family?!? Not here!

One box?!?!?!? I am really upset right now!! Justified or no?

I would have to say not justified. When I am on a diet, I refrain from buying treats that I know will be hard to resist. If the cookies are in the house, I am bound to eat them, so I won't buy them.

Second, it becomes irritating when every time you turn around there is someone at the door or in my office selling something for one thing or another. I am also tired of asking my friends to buy the crap that the schools and other organizations sell in fundraisers. I just delievered cookie dough in the middle of December for the PTA's fall fundraiser, and they sent home another cookie dough fundraiser for January. How much cookie dough do my friends really need? For the Fall fundraiser there were a few people who saw the brochure in my office and who really wanted to buy something, but I didn't buy a thing. I sent in a tax-deductible cash donation of which 100% went to the PTA. I will do that again for this fundraiser.

Maybe your friend has finally decided to put a stop to the fundraiser madness. It will give you an opportunity to stop it as well.

Denae

 

[Lynn CC]

I bought 2 boxes from a girl scout over the weekend but they are still sitting here waiting for someone that wants them. We don't eat any trans-fats and these are loaded with hydrogenated oils. I wouldn't have bought them, but DH felt he should help out the girl scouts. Why can't they sell healthy cookies?
Maybe your friend feels the same way?

 

[poohandwendy]

Yeah, you are being overly sensitive if you are 'really upset' that your friend didn't buy a box of cookies. Seriously, even if she was not on a diet she has the right to say no thanks. But especially with her being on a diet, you should be understanding. You are friends, right?

 

[Planogirl]

Maybe she can't resist them? It's hard to have cookies around when you're just starting a diet.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I think you are being way oversensitive. There is NO WAY I could buy something from everyone of my friend's kids when they are doing fundraisers. I really don't think you should base what kind of friend she is by what she will or will not buy from your kid.

 

[can'twait]

Does your troop do "Gift of Caring"? My dd's troop did that last year. Basically it means that someone can buy a box of cookies that the troop will donate to whatever charity the troop chooses. We brought ours to the local senior center. So, if someone says they are on a diet, you can tell them they can buy a box of cookies that will bo donated to a charity. It helps the troop, the charity and the person's waistline. If your friend still declines, then I would be offended, but not for long, because life is too short. Just decline her next sale and call it even.

 

[Ranatra]

Yes, I think you're being a little over sensitive. She might just not want any sweets that she could have a hard time resisting in the house right now. Period.

 

[poohandwendy]

Just something else that came to my head...an interesting observation.

Just called my girlfriend to ask her if she wanted to buy

If you asked your friend if she would buy some cookies, it was a question right? If 'no' was not an option and you were going with obligation, why not just pose it as a demand?

I guess I just always wondered why people 'ask' a question and then get mad when the answer is 'no'. Isn't a question implying a choice?

sorry to go OT, it just got me thinking....LOL

 

[nick262]

Does your troop do "Gift of Caring"? My dd's troop did that last year. Basically it means that someone can buy a box of cookies that the troop will donate to whatever charity the troop chooses. We brought ours to the local senior center. So, if someone says they are on a diet, you can tell them they can buy a box of cookies that will bo donated to a charity. It helps the troop, the charity and the person's waistline. If your friend still declines, then I would be offended, but not for long, because life is too short. Just decline her next sale and call it even.

I agree with this. Aren't they still doing the cookies for the troops thing? I am on WW and will buy a couple of boxes for the troops. But if someone still says no then I would not waste alot of time with them and most likely would not purchase or donate to her childs next cause. I would take the money I would have given and put it toward my own childs fundraiser.

 

[jbdreamer]

I think you are being overly sensitive. My little cousins do fund raisers all the time. I can't afford to support them all.

When asking for a donation, you can't be resentful when someone says no.

 

[alliecats]

Ok, so you always buy something from her kids when they do fundraisers? I think you said that. Well, then I would just remember this next time she hits you up. If she feels comfortable saying no then you should, too! It cuts both ways.

 

[disykat]

Oversensitive. Maybe she assumes since you said yes to her child's fundraiser that you actually wanted the item?

I also have to comment about birthdays etc. It sounds like you are a very caring friend who thinks birthdays etc. are a big deal and celebrates each one. That's great. However, many people really don't keep track of those things outside of their own family and it doesn't mean they don't value their relationship with you. They simply aren't big on those kinds of things.

I really think that if you start not doing the birthday thing or fundraiser thing for her kids - she won't care! Those things probably just are not big on her radar. If she were insisting you do these things and then not reciprocating, that would be very rude. However, just because you do these things doesn't mean she automatically is required to.

 

[Aidensmom]

Even when my own son is doing a fundraiser, I don't ask my mom to buy anything though she would because she would feel obligated, because I know she wouldn't eat/use it and would rather spend the money on something else.

I don't get upset with anyone who says no, and I don't need to know what their reason is. I also don't purchase things for other people's fundraisers so that they will buy from mine, or because I feel like I should. If I buy something from a fundraiser, it is only because I want to.

My opinion is that a friendship is not based on who buys what from what fundraisers, so let it go.

 

[Ziva]

I think you are being way oversensitive. There is NO WAY I could buy something from everyone of my friend's kids when they are doing fundraisers. I really don't think you should base what kind of friend she is by what she will or will not buy from your kid.

I agree!!!! The amount of fundraisers I get asked to buy from is crazy and I can't say yes to everyone.

 

[Kewz1]

I just started WW last week so I would not buy any cookies either. My DH is also participating and the kids could live without it for awhile. There is no way I can handle that kind of stuff in the house at first.

If you choose to buy cookies and other things from fundraisers that is your choice. Just say no next time.

Kristen

 

[taximomfor4]

I would not be upset. When my kids are doing fundraisers, I mention them to family members/friends. They choose whether to buy or not. When their kids are doing fundraisers, I choose whether to buy or not. If I don't want/ need something, I am not going to buy it just to support the cause. Sometimes I will just make a donation, but usually not. In my peer group and family, we have MANY children school-aged...someone is ALWAYS doing a fundraiser. We choose not to obligate each other. And we choose not to keep tabs on who buys from whose kids, etc. Much more peaceful for us, that way.

Beth