AM I insane? Why would a 14 year old be at an all night rave? Sad- so sad

Tiffster7

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I don't know if this has been seen or discussed. The shootings were horrible- but why is a 14 year old at an all night rave? 14 years old is so young for no adult supervision all night and hanging out with people they barely know. Yes- some kids sneak out and do things they shouldn't but this child had the blessing of a parent to attend something like this. I'm so sorry for their loss, but (and perhaps I will be flamed) where does bad parenting come in?


SEATTLE, Washington (AP) -- Kyle Moore dropped his 14-year-old daughter off at a Tacoma bowling alley Friday night, knowing she was meeting up with older friends for a ride to a dance party in Seattle, one with a zombie theme.

He didn't kiss her for fear of smearing her black and white makeup -- a get-up that would enable her to get into the "Better Off Undead" rave for a discounted price, $15. He didn't hug her for fear of getting the makeup on himself.

But he did tell her he loved her as she left the car, and he's thankful for that. By early the next morning, Melissa Moore became the youngest of six people massacred by a gunman at a house party.

"She liked the dancing, and she loved to meet people," Kyle Moore said Monday as he stood outside the home where she died. He was wearing one of her T-shirts; it still smelled like her, he said.

The gunman, Aaron Kyle Huff, 28, was armed with three guns, more than 300 rounds of ammunition, a baseball bat and a black machete, and told guests as he blazed away, "There's plenty for everyone," authorities said Monday.

Huff, 28, was "clearly intent on doing homicidal mayhem," Deputy Police Chief Clark Kimerer said. When police confronted Huff, he put a shotgun in his mouth and pulled the trigger.

Investigators said they had no idea what triggered the assault. Toxicology results will not be available for several days and a search of Huff's apartment didn't turn up any notes or literature that might point to a motive, Kimerer said.

Police said the victims, many of them dressed up as zombies, had met Huff earlier in the night at a rave called "Better Off Undead" and invited him to a party at their rented home.

That's where Melissa Moore ended up after the rave. Her friends couldn't find her after the dance party broke up and went home. The ninth-grader went on to the after-party at the blue, two-story home on Capitol Hill.

Morning found her sitting on the porch with two young girls she had just met. One was cold, and Melissa offered her coat. The girl took it. In it were Melissa's camera and cell phone.

Just after 7 a.m., Huff, who had briefly left the party, returned fully armed. He blasted Melissa and one of her new friends, 15-year-old Suzanne Thorne, in the head, police said. The other girl -- the one wearing Melissa's coat -- escaped, along with more than two dozen others.

By Saturday morning, her father was worried. He tried calling his daughter repeatedly, but her voice mail always picked up on the first ring. He began driving frantically around her familiar haunts. He drove to her friends' homes, hoping for news. He had learned of the shooting, and he had a bad feeling.

Finally, with the help of detectives, the girl with Melissa's coat was able to charge the cell phone and extract Moore's number. The girl told Kyle Moore what happened.

He smiled sadly Monday as he thought of one of his daughter's last acts: giving her coat to someone she barely knew. It was just like her, he said.

"If she had her last dollar she'd give it to you," he said. "As long as you treated her right, you had a friend for life."
 
You know when I read this article earlier I thought the same thing.Way too young for that scene. Im sure the parents will always be asking"what if"
 
very sad. Seems there so many of these non-parenting parents out there lately. :sad2:
 
I can't imagine losing a child, how awful. It wouldn't be something my 14yo DD would be attending, my line would have been drawn at the going from the bowling alley with older friends. Every family has different approaches and just because this family didn't make the same choice I would have doesn't hold them in any way responsible for thier daughters death.
 

As the mother of a 14 year old dd, no way would I let her go to an all night party. The closest that she has ever come to an all night party is occassionally our local skating rink will host an all night party and lock the kids in for the night. A police officer is there the entire time, however, Shelby has never stayed the entire night.

I am very cautious where I let her go without us. We are at the Outerbanks, NC right now on vacation. Earlier she wanted to go to the beach by herself. I wouldn't let her. All I could imagine was visions of Natalie Holloway.
 
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So sad. A young girl like that shouldn't be at an all night rave. What happened to cerfews and being home by a decent hour? I was an adult the first time I went to an all night rave. My first and last. It was not a place I particularly enjoyed. To many undesireable people for my taste. Granted, I enjoyed the dancing there, but that was about it. 14 year olds have no business being there.

There was definately a breakdown in parenting here. Not saying it was the parents fault, but why did the girl not call her parents when she lost her friends at the rave? And then she went on to another party alone instead of calling home for a ride? And why did they parent not go looking for her or call her till after 7am?

My parents still get nervous when I go out. And if Im going to be somewhere all night or not going to be coming home it gets them all jittery. And Im an adult who has lived a life. I still call them when I go out and get home late, or to check in after a date. And truth be told, if I went one place, and then plans changed and I was going another, they would know. Its not good to have no one know where you are at.
 
at 14 I was allowed at an all night skate, but that was adult supervised, and the doors were locked. this was a rave, a rave usually includes Ex and other drugs. An after party? oh hell no. I'm sorry that this family lost their daughter, and others lost their children, but in truth they should have had this child at homw where she belonged.
 
I'm not saying it's the parents' fault, that is squarely on the shoulders of the shooter. But, as parents, we have a responsibility to keep our children safe. Allowing a 14 yo child to stay out all night is irresponsible.
 












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