Am I crazy for saying no to some pixie dust? Has anyone else did anything this crazy?

[nduckles]

Let's put things in perspective here. "Decision of this magnitude" "hope it's not your last" You're kidding, right????

As someone who has been married for 24 years, the thought that this is any kind of "decision of magnitude" makes me shake my head. But hey, we're all different.

 

[minniemous]

Thank you. I also apologize if I misconstrued your comment. Let's move on. The problem with the internet, emails, texts, etc is that you can't always tell how a comment was meant like we do with verbal communication. When I said "now should I tell my wife (with an innocent whistling smiling face)" it was meant as a joke. I didn't mean it as keeping secrets from my wife. Maybe it didn't come across the way I intended it to. LOL

I think you are a nice considerate person. If you do think on reflection that you should have taken it you can call disney and explain and I bet if they had another available they would offer it to you again.

People on these boards can go to far and I agree that it is crazy to make assumptions on things that are none of their business. To say that you invited the criticism is silly. You simply invite comment of the subject not your marriage etc.

I see threads all the time to let people know what kind of nice thing they did for someone or someone did for them. I see no problem with your post even if it was intended to say "Hey I did something nice". I think it is great. It was also informative because I never knew they ever called and offered requests. Then again...I have not stayed at a deluxe Disney hotel in a few years.

I have a friend who went to disney and was given an upgrade at check-in and they took the suite. They were a family of more than just two and they greatly appreciated it and loved it. You probably made a family really happy and someone who can really use the extra space. I totally agree if you do not need the space why take it. What are you going to do skip through the extra bedroom? I think it was a great decision that you can be proud of. Right now a family may be so psyched because they have a separate room for the kids and you have created a really special memory for them .....that is really cool!

 

[Traveliz]

I am going to have a conversation with my husband
"dear, if Disney ever calls and wants to up-grade us and I'm not available you say yes, its always yes"

I am having that conversation right now with my husband...

Liz

 

[darkwing818]

I am having that conversation right now with my husband...

Liz

My wife just had the same conversation with me, as we were reading the original post.

 

[Lisaloo]

I would've done the same thing as the OP. I would've felt silly having two extra unused beds in a suite like that, not to mention the very blatant constant reminder that the kids aren't there.
I think it's wrong to criticize the OP for making the decision that felt right and comfortable for him and his wife. Some people aren't obsessed with taking, taking, taking everything they can get and wallowing in unnecessary excess just because they can. That isn't a character flaw or some symptom of low self-esteem as some here seem to suggest. He simply doesn't see the point in all that extra space for two people and figures someone else will be thrilled to get the room.
Unfortunately, OP, what you did is very rare in this day and age.

That said, if someone calls me and wants to upgrade me to a super swank suite at a deluxe from my humble standard room at a moderate, I'll be all over it like white on rice. I won't hold my breath though! LOL!

Who is obsessed with taking everything they can get and wallowing in excess? If this really even happened to OP, he isnt a noble and giving person by refusing just as someone who accepts it isn't a selfish grubber. Geez.

 

[Lisaloo]

double post

 

[ShinyRedGloss]

My wife and I are going to Disney next week to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary. This is the first time we will be there without our children. I decided to splurge and book a club level room at the Grand Floridian. Well I just received a call from Disney. They wanted to upgrade our 1 bedroom king size room to a suite. One bedroom with a king bed, one with 2 queens, plus a living room and a partial MK view and I said NO thank you! I must be certifiable!!!!

I just felt guilty taking that upgrade and wasting all that space. Like I said it is only my wife and I. I told the gentlemen who called to give it to someone who could use it more that we can.

Please tell me someone else out there has done something this "stupid". Now, the real question is should I let my wife know what I did.

P.S. Thank you Disney for being so awesome. I really wished I could have used it.

My SO and I normally travel just the two of us and I would have said no also. If I had kids to a larger group, YES PLEASE. The reality is I spend very little time in my room. It's shower, sleep, and on to the next place.

 

[CinderElsa]

I think you are a nice considerate person. If you do think on reflection that you should have taken it you can call disney and explain and I bet if they had another available they would offer it to you again.

People on these boards can go to far and I agree that it is crazy to make assumptions on things that are none of their business. To say that you invited the criticism is silly. You simply invite comment of the subject not your marriage etc.

I see threads all the time to let people know what kind of nice thing they did for someone or someone did for them. I see no problem with your post even if it was intended to say "Hey I did something nice". I think it is great. It was also informative because I never knew they ever called and offered requests. Then again...I have not stayed at a deluxe Disney hotel in a few years.

I have a friend who went to disney and was given an upgrade at check-in and they took the suite. They were a family of more than just two and they greatly appreciated it and loved it. You probably made a family really happy and someone who can really use the extra space. I totally agree if you do not need the space why take it. What are you going to do skip through the extra bedroom? I think it was a great decision that you can be proud of. Right now a family may be so psyched because they have a separate room for the kids and you have created a really special memory for them .....that is really cool!

I roll my eyes at every single one of them. "I'm the most humble person I know," etc.

Nice things someone did for you, yes, absolutely, tell everyone. We could all use a little boost.

 

[mom25kiddos]

Well on behalf of the person who was next in line for the upgrade offer (as I assume they offered it to someone else given you said no)-thanks! We are staying at GF with my parents and our five kids-two rooms, and my sister and her family in another. I hope someone shares this kind of pixie dust with me!

the posts about the implications for the marriage have me giggling, I mean if saying no to a room upgrade sets of a marital feud then you got bigger problems to contend with! OP: I am sure you will have a lovely trip in the room you wanted, enjoy and come back and tell us all about it.

 

[Happy_2_B]

Let's put things in perspective here. "Decision of this magnitude" You're kidding, right????

As someone who has been married for 24 years, the thought that this is any kind of "decision of magnitude" makes me shake my head. But hey, we're all different.

The room that was turned down goes for about $1000.00/night MORE than what the OP already has booked. For me, and me alone, it is an important decision since over a 5 day stay the value difference is right around what an average family of 4's entire weeklong vacation staying in a value resort at DW would cost. But like you said, though- we're all different.

 

[BuckeyeBama]

I ain't did nuttin dat whacked - nevuh.

 

[PetePanMan]

The room that was turned down goes for about $1000.00/night MORE than what the OP already has booked. For me, and me alone, it is an important decision since over a 5 day stay the value difference is right around what an average family of 4's entire weeklong vacation staying in a value resort at DW would cost. But like you said, though- we're all different.

Wow, hard to believe the price difference is $1000/night but let's assume it is accurate. Perhaps you were exaggerating to make your point or would your marriage really be ruined as implied in your post even though you were still staying in a one bedroom concierge level suite?

 

[Happy_2_B]

Wow, hard to believe the price difference is $1000/night but let's assume it is accurate. Perhaps you were exaggerating to make your point

He is not in a suite- he is in a standard club level room. Perhaps I'm not exaggerating- here is an example for 2016 at the same time period (9/13- 9/19 approx.)- same rooms. Can't compare for this year because the 2 bedroom suite is gone and no longer shows up online- so I used 2016. Compare the standard club room to the 2 bedroom suite:

Main Building- Standard Room- Club Level $918.00 per night
Outer Building- 2 BR Suite- Club Level $1974.00


As to the rest of your post- well, you won't bait me into a response- I already worked through my error in judgment with the OP and have moved on...

 

[Magpie]

The room that was turned down goes for about $1000.00/night MORE than what the OP already has booked. For me, and me alone, it is an important decision since over a 5 day stay the value difference is right around what an average family of 4's entire weeklong vacation staying in a value resort at DW would cost. But like you said, though- we're all different.

I wasn't going to weigh in, because your apology to the OP was really classy. But I do have to stick my hand up here and say that this would not be a decision of ANY magnitude in our household. In fact, my husband said exactly that last night when I was discussing it with him. If I'd said yes or no on his behalf, it'd be no big deal either way to him.

The idea that this would cause a partner to contemplate divorce, except in the most light hearted and teasing sense, is frankly very surprising to me. I'm glad to read a lot of folks are discussing this with their partners, because I'd sure want to know if this is one of those deal breaker issues!

The op isn't losing any money in this deal. So who cares what the value of the upgrade is? Why should he be forced to take an extra room that he doesn't want or need, when he can pay exactly the amount and get precisely what he does want and need?

 

[Magpie]

Oh... my husband just brought up a really good analogy. Sometimes when he rents a compact car, he'll be offered a free upgrade to a larger car at the counter. And sometimes he turns them down because, for any number of reasons, this time he just doesn't want to drive a big fancy car. He wants what he asked for - a nice, ordinary compact.

If the OP had his kids along he'd likely have jumped at the opportunity. But, he doesn't. So he opted for something more compact, but still awfully nice (club level!).

 

[ANforever1030]

Wow... interesting responses!

It seems some folks think the op was ungrateful, possibly even harming (or at least thoughtlessly inconveniencing) the resort somehow by not freeing up the room he'd actually booked and paid for! Seriously, I can't imagine Disney won't be able to upgrade someone else.

Other folks think he should keep this like a shameful secret, never telling his wife. Isn't it possible she'd agree with his reasoning? I know my husband would (in fact I just asked him, confirming what I already knew). Even if I disagreed I can't imagine being angry about it, considering they've already booked club level at the GF! Really, how much more luxury do two people need?

People saying he needs to learn to accept gifts gracefully, like he'd somehow done something horribly rude and uncouth, and probably makes a habit of rejecting his birthday presents, if they aren't precisely what he asked for.

And comparing it to insisting on paying for free water or parking deliberately out of the way? How is that even remotely related? If anything, it's more like politely declining a refill on your soda, because you're no longer thirsty.

I generally expect drama and controversy on this board, but this one actually surprised me. Clearly it's a sensitive subject with some folks!

I agree with your statement. It's not the end of the world and he definitely made a decision that fits his lifestyle. However, if my DW2B and I were offered this room right now we would probably accept it, of course, it is our honeymoon.

 

[bumbershoot]

OP,don't feel bad-during Year of a Million Dreams,some Guests actually TURNED DOWN the ultimate upgrade-a night in the CINDERELLA CASTLE DREAM SUITE!!!!

In my family we had those discussions. And we would have turned it down, too. The time given in the suite first would cut your park day short, and then was basically sleeping time. We go to the parks to go to the parks, and wouldn't have wanted to stay up half the night exploring the suite and taking baths in the huge tub and all that. We would have wanted to sleep. You're then booted in the early morning. This does not sound like fun to me! Didn't sound like fun to DH, and it wouldn't have made much difference to DS since he was young anyway, so we had planned to turn it down.

Other folks think he should keep this like a shameful secret, never telling his wife. Isn't it possible she'd agree with his reasoning? I know my husband would (in fact I just asked him, confirming what I already knew). Even if I disagreed I can't imagine being angry about it, considering they've already booked club level at the GF! Really, how much more luxury do two people need?

Seriously.

I like that people are using this as a springboard to discuss in their households! I brought it up with DH, and at first he said he would of course say "yes" to the upgrade. But then I said "couples only, what is the use of that space" (or something to that effect), and he saw my point. So now he knows that I wouldn't be interested, and I know that he halfway WOULD be interested. So we know.

reading this thread and all the different answers, I get the feeling that people wont take upgrades if they are a solo or just a couple. Its like people don't feel they deserve special treatment.

Nah. For many of us (and we've said this), we don't see the point of all that space. What can two people use all that space for? Right now I'm visiting my relative who has built a 7000 sqft house for just the two of them. Part of it is a guest house for the allergic ones in the extended family b/c they were tired of keeping their cats out of the guest rooms in their old place. When they are all alone in the house, it feels cavernous to them. I could *never* live like this. I want a house with a decent amount of space and many rooms, but I wouldn't want this much space. I'd rather spend the extra money on travel.

We all have our priorities, and we don't all agree on what luxury is, what an upgrade is, etc.

Your feelings on this topic are perfectly valid, but so are the feelings of people who would choose differently. You're not selfish for wanting to take it, just as I'm not "living a life of regrets" for wanting to turn it down.

Exactly.

I'd have taken the upgrade in a second, and I wouldn't have asked the internet to validate the decision I knew was right for me.

He did the rolly-eye emoticon after it. He was being silly.

The room that was turned down goes for about $1000.00/night MORE than what the OP already has booked. For me, and me alone, it is an important decision since over a 5 day stay the value difference is right around what an average family of 4's entire weeklong vacation staying in a value resort at DW would cost. But like you said, though- we're all different.

How does the value of it change a decision? They aren't giving you the money and the room.

Oh... my husband just brought up a really good analogy. Sometimes when he rents a compact car, he'll be offered a free upgrade to a larger car at the counter. And sometimes he turns them down because, for any number of reasons, this time he just doesn't want to drive a big fancy car. He wants what he asked for - a nice, ordinary compact.

Absolutely. Sometimes you want that big car; DH snagged a minivan from the Emerald Aisle on this trip we're on, because my family's big SUV was recently totaled and they haven't replaced it, but needed to haul some things. Other times you just want the little car, the midsize you booked through National's Emerald Aisle. Just depends on your needs!

On my cruiseline of choice they have a section for preferences. One of them is the preference to NOT be upgraded at all. So far I have always chosen that, because I choose unique, interesting rooms that I WANT to experience. In March I *want* our panoramic oceanview on Freedom; I don't want to be upgraded to even an owner's suite. I want the room I chose. An owner's suite wouldn't feel like an upgrade to me.

However, if my DW2B and I were offered this room right now we would probably accept it, of course, it is our honeymoon.

Which is awesome.

For me and my husband, we didn't want to have anything we couldn't do again. So instead of scrimping and saving and selling plasma to get an over the water bungalow in Bora Bora, we went on an Alaska cruise. It's all a matter of personality! Good to know your personality and that of your partner.

 

[stitchfan75]

Dh and I have been married 15 years. I had to laugh so hard about this being a marriage ending decision. Really? It's Disney World. When I asked what he thought his opinion was the same as the OP, a waste of space for 2 people. We would rather "pay it forward" and trust that someone who can use it will be offered the upgrade.
Personally I'm just hoping for an upgrade to a savanna view bunk room at AKL!

 

[Robo]

Dh and I have been married 15 years. I had to laugh so hard about this being a marriage ending decision. Really? It's Disney World. When I asked what he thought his opinion was the same as the OP, a waste of space for 2 people. We would rather "pay it forward" and trust that someone who can use it will be offered the upgrade.
Personally I'm just hoping for an upgrade to a savanna view bunk room at AKL!

Translation:
"I'd love to accept an upgrade for something that I can use and enjoy."

A (distantly) similar situation would be if you were offered a free "Kitchen Sink" dessert at Beaches and Cream
after just finishing a major multi-course meal.
I'd appreciate the thought, but I just can't really use the gift.

 

[PetePanMan]

I am absolutely convinced all of our responses will be studied as part of someone's college thesis (philosophy, psychology, economics etc. - take your pick)