am I being weird?

[mtemm]

here's the situation. I belong to another board for moms with kids born the same month as mine. there was a mom on there who is having some tough times. he baby is due for his next carseat, actually technically was too big for the carseat he was in. she and her husband could not afford one...she was hoping in another month, but it really sounded like it would be a struggle. While I have never been in her shoes, I have had hard times in the past, particularly when I was just out of college, laid off from my first real job, and struggling to make ends meet. I offered to buy her a carseat, and after several e-mails back and forth did just that. told her I ordered it, sent the tracking number, and haven't heard anything since. I am not looking for anything, but I guess maybe I would have liked a thank you? just an e-mail saying thanks would have been great.

am I being weird? I really don't want anything in return, I just wanted to do something nice for someone. is it wrong to have wanted a thank you?

 

[mrsgus06]

As a mother of 6 kids, I would like to thank you for helping.

 

[HollyJoy]

I certainly don't think that a simple Thank You is too much to ask for! I don't think you're being weird at all.

 

[mtemm]

thanks, I'm not really looking for kudos or anything, I feel kind of weird just posting this like I'm looking for a pat on the back or something. that's not it. I guess I'm a little hurt, I don't know. don't know if its odd that I feel this way.

congrats on your 6 kids! don't know how you do it...my 3 are overwhelming at times

 

[mickeyboat]

I don't think you are being weird at all. It is only common courtesy to thank someone for their kindness. You are a special person for doing that for your e-friend.

If I were you I would zip her a little note and ask if everything arrived o.k. Maybe she has just been too busy to get a message to you. Does she live in an area that has had weather problems later - maybe she is out of power. Maybe she is out of town or her computer is on the fritz.

Again, you are a wonderful person to do that for her.

Denae

 

[mtemm]

I do have the tracking number and it is due to come tomorrow. I think what I will do is e-mail her over the weekend and make sure its the right one, etc.

I have seen her posting on the boards so she's definitely on-line.

I think I'm going to e-mail her and if there is no response, well, so be it. I didn't do it to do anything more than help someone in need, and I accomplished that. think I need to work on letting go a bit

 

[binny]

nope youre not being weird. Maybe she is waiting till it arrives though? I dont know. I would be full of Thank you's during the whole process, but thats just me.

 

[Lachesis00]

This happened to me...

An online friend was going through IVF and insurance didn't cover something she needed... I didn't know how much but I was TOLD it was a lot. So I sent $50... knowing she had been trying a long time (we'd been on boards together for 4 years).

She never said thanks, never said she got it, nothing. She did get PG. Ended up NOT needing a lot of whatever it was... I often wondered what happened to the $
About 6 months later she said "Oh did I not thank so in so and proceeded this huge list". I was very angry and very hurt. $50 is nothing to sneeze at. I am still bitter about it to this day... There is a lot more to the story that makes me bitter.


Anyways I think the LEAST someone can do is say thank you....

 

[snoopy]

I can't even fathom why she would not feel the need to say thank you.

And sorry, I don't buy this "a thank you is not necessary" mentality. It IS necessary, but unfortunately has become a dying art.

 

[Shugardrawers]

If it hasn't arrived yet my guess is that she's waiting until it arrives. A lot of people say they will do something and then never follow through. Give her a day or 2 after the tracking says it arrived and then if she still hasn't contacted you go ahead and ask if she got it. That should prompt her to remember her manners. Give her the benefit of the doubt at the moment since she hasn't yet received it.