Am I a Nutbag?

[MOMTOCUTESTDOGEVER]

Whenever someone knocks on my door and I'm the only one home, or it's just me and DD, I refuse to answer. I just hide and pretend I'm not there.

I'm doing it right now.

It's kind of weird, but over the years I've gotten to where I feel like it's such an invasion if someone knocks on my door or comes to my house unannounced. If my parents come over, they have a key and just walk right in, but we're all okay with that. I don't think I'm unsociable or anything, but I just don't like people knocking on my door.

Am I nutty or what? PLEASE tell me I'm not alone in this.

I admit that I do the same thing. I don't feel safe answering if my DH isn't home.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I never open my door to someone that I don't know, however I always go to the door to tell them I'm not interested. I have a loud barking dog, so most of them don't want me opening the door, anyway.

I would never ignore someone at the door because they could be casing the house seeing of we're home. We had a break-in one time and the person came to the door and knocked. We weren't home (and we didn't have our noisy dog then) and they broke a back window and helped themselves to whatever they could find. They'd previously gone to a neighbors house, but she was home so they went elsewhere (which is how we know that the guy was knocking first to see if someone was home).

The funny thing that happened in the break-in is that they found some Disney Dollars that one of my kids had, but they thought it was fake money and they wadded it up and dropped it on the floor. Figures that a thief wouldn't be a Disney nut!

 

[aprilgail2]

I admit that I do the same thing. I don't feel safe answering if my DH isn't home.

I have seen people say this a lot and I just wonder what happens if/when your husband dies before you...are you all going to lock yourselves in the house forever and never answer the door or leave the house again???

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

I don't answer the door unless I know someone is coming over or I expect something from UPS/FedEx. I never thought about being afraid to open the door. I'm usually in my pj's if I'm at home and the house may possibly be a mess I also figure it's my door and I don't have to answer it if I don't want to.

 

[raammartin]

Whenever someone knocks on my door and I'm the only one home, or it's just me and DD, I refuse to answer. I just hide and pretend I'm not there.

I'm doing it right now.

It's kind of weird, but over the years I've gotten to where I feel like it's such an invasion if someone knocks on my door or comes to my house unannounced. If my parents come over, they have a key and just walk right in, but we're all okay with that. I don't think I'm unsociable or anything, but I just don't like people knocking on my door.

Am I nutty or what? PLEASE tell me I'm not alone in this.

You are not nutty --- and you are not alone. I do it too.

 

[lilostitch]

I have seen people say this a lot and I just wonder what happens if/when your husband dies before you...are you all going to lock yourselves in the house forever and never answer the door or leave the house again???

Of course not. We still go out, I don't think anyone said or implied that they didn't. We just don't open the door unless we are expecting someone/or we don't know the person. What is wrong with that? I think it is called being safe.

 

[Lisa L from MI]

I never open my door to someone that I don't know, however I always go to the door to tell them I'm not interested. I have a loud barking dog, so most of them don't want me opening the door, anyway.

I would never ignore someone at the door because they could be casing the house seeing of we're home. We had a break-in one time and the person came to the door and knocked. We weren't home (and we didn't have our noisy dog then) and they broke a back window and helped themselves to whatever they could find. They'd previously gone to a neighbors house, but she was home so they went elsewhere (which is how we know that the guy was knocking first to see if someone was home).

The funny thing that happened in the break-in is that they found some Disney Dollars that one of my kids had, but they thought it was fake money and they wadded it up and dropped it on the floor. Figures that a thief wouldn't be a Disney nut!

I was just going to post this!! My good friends house just got broken into a couple months ago. What the guy did was knock on doors in the neighborhood (if they answered, he had a fake sales pitch and some fake calling card)....but as in my friends case, they were not home (it was the middle of the afternoon)...they do not have a dog either.

 

[Serena]

I have three dogs. They help a lot with making me feel safe.

 

[Disney Doll]

I look out the window and see who's there. If it's someone I want to talk to, I open the door. If it's a stranger, I don't open the door, but I also don't hide.

 

[Stacerita]

Add me to the nutbag group!

Its not like I dont ever answer my door, but I dont feel the need to if Im not expecting anyone. My neighbors all do the same thing so its not unusual. I dont want to buy anything and I dont want to be preached too either. So the salesman and JWs can knock all they want. If for some reason my door is open when the come up, they will be in for a surprise since my dog dislikes anyone coming to the door. Besides, when im at home i almost always in my jammies. Trust me, no one wants to have me open the door like that.

 

[Marseeya]

I have seen people say this a lot and I just wonder what happens if/when your husband dies before you...are you all going to lock yourselves in the house forever and never answer the door or leave the house again???

I lived for 27 years without a DH, and a year during our marriage when we were separated. I go places just fine. I just don't answer the door.

I don't want to be bothered; is that so wrong? I am a graduate student and I sit home most days doing my school work on the computer or trying to read a book that I'm having a hard enough time getting through anyway. My phone rings at least 10 times a day (between my mom needing things, other friends and family members, wrong numbers & sales pitches) and there's usually at least 2-3 knocks on my door. If it's someone dropping by unannounced, they'll learn to call first (that's rude anyway). If it's a salesman, they can eat dirt. If it's a criminal, they'll get a faceful of teeth from the dog. If it's a stranger needing to use the phone or something, there's a convenience store a block away. If it's someone official looking, I will answer (that's only happened twice that I can recall).

What kind of people are knocking at your door? Doesn't it interrupt you or bother you?

 

[aprilgail2]

What kind of people are knocking at your door? Doesn't it interrupt you or bother you?

People that knock on my door are usually my friends or neighbors popping over to say hi and hang out a little while talking or having a cup of coffee....occasionally its a kid selling something and other times its the gas and elecrtic meter reading guy having to get into the basement to read the meter or the water company guy coming in to read the meter...I like people popping over, guests are always welcome to stop by. None of my neighbors, family or friends calls first, nor do I hen I stop over there......we are friends and friends are welcomed anytime, we dont go by the formality of calling first...

 

[Marseeya]

People that knock on my door are usually my friends or neighbors popping over to say hi and hang out a little while talking or having a cup of coffee....occasionally its a kid selling something and other times its the gas and elecrtic meter reading guy having to get into the basement to read the meter or the water company guy coming in to read the meter...I like people popping over, guests are always welcome to stop by. None of my neighbors, family or friends calls first, nor do I hen I stop over there......we are friends and friends are welcomed anytime, we dont go by the formality of calling first...

I just don't live in that kind of neighborhood. We're amiable with one another, don't get me wrong, but we're not friends.

My parents come over all the time, and just let themselves in -- well, my dad now, as my mother's homebound. My sister lives out of town, so she calls first just to make sure I'm home.

All my friends live out of town too, so they call first for the same reason.

All our meters are outside the house, so that's not an issue.

I guess if I had the same kinds of people coming to my door that you had, I'd be more inclined to want to answer.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I was just going to post this!! My good friends house just got broken into a couple months ago. What the guy did was knock on doors in the neighborhood (if they answered, he had a fake sales pitch and some fake calling card)....but as in my friends case, they were not home (it was the middle of the afternoon)...they do not have a dog either.

Hopefully some people who don't go to their door will take note at what we are saying. The last thing I'd want is someone thinking that I'm not home and breaking in. That's when some break-ins go bad....I know, break-in's are never good, but I had nightmares after ours because it was in the afternoon when I was usually home. I had my DD at the dentist, but there were times that I'd be doing errands and wouldn't quite be home yet and she'd let herself in. If it would have been one of those days she would have been surprising the guy. Gave me shudders to think about.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

If someone knocks on my door 97% of the time, I am expecting them. Scott's cousin has a truck so loud you can hear it coming a mile down the road, so when he pulls in I know it's him and open the door when he knocks

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

Not worried about the breaking in thing - we have a very large dog - and I always watch out the window to see who they are and watch as they leave.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

No I never answer the door when I am home alone during the day. When the ds were little I would never answer the door either, sometimes I would go through the garage and answer it that way as the ds could lock another door from the inside if they had to for their safety. I never have a repairman etc. come over unless dh is home. There are just too many weirdos around here. Now that the ds are older and bigger I let them see who is there and we decide whether we will open the door or not. I also keep my shades generally shut in the front of the house. I am not giving anyone any idea of what is in my house and what they would like to help themselves to one day etc. For halloween I sit on the porch and hand out candy, I do this to also make sure our lovely neighborhood teens dont try to egg or shaving cream our house or cars etc.

Well, here is a little update from the news. Last night there was a home invasion right in the next town, like 2-4 am. There were like 4 guys, they didnt catch them, but they found the shot gun they left in the peoples yard. So I guess the news has verified that I am not a nut bag. I am just rightly concerned for my familys safety.

 

[crz4mm2]

Nope. You're perfectly normal. We do that here too

 

[skiwee1]

I have seen people say this a lot and I just wonder what happens if/when your husband dies before you...are you all going to lock yourselves in the house forever and never answer the door or leave the house again???

I don't answer the door to anyone that I don't recognize. What's wrong with that? Who could I possibly be missing if I don't answer? The only ones around here that I don't recognize always end up as someone selling something. I don't need that.

 

[AnaheimGirl]

C'mon everybody, sing along...

I'm a nutbag, he's a nutbag, she's a nutbag, we're a nutbag; wouldn't you like to be a nutbag too?

I don't mind if it's friends or neighbors knocking, although mostly it's neighborhood kids looking to play with dd, not neighbors who want to come in when I might still be in my jammies. If it's someone we don't know, I don't answer it, either, and I sometimes hide a bit because we also have windows on the sides of the door and I hate that they can see in. (I don't know why I haven't bought some kind of covering for those yet!)

I like the idea someone posted about not opening the door, but just talking through it to let them know we're not interested. Why didn't I think of that before? It seems so obvious, now.