allow me to pour my heart out???

[florida-again]

I know I can't post the reason behind all this, but I hope its ok to post this:

BF and I had a fight about 2 weeks ago over something very serious (well, more of an issue than a fight, with me being in the wrong), then we were very very slowly building bridges and were almost back to normal, now something small has taken us back to square one.

Last I heard, BF hung up on me, saying he didn't want to talk to me and needed to think about whether he even wanted to be with me at all. I have no idea if it was said just to scare me, or in the heat of the moment or if he really meant it.

It's late here (1:30am) so I won't hear from BF till at least morning, if at all. I logged off and went to bed but I keep crying so now I'm back up again.

I'm so sad that this could really be 'the end', although we are not married, we have been together for a long time and are very close.

I didn't really know what else to do but come back on the disboards and pour my heart out (again!)

I can't stand the long wait till morning

 

[MsLeFever]

Have a nice cup of warm milk and a bowl of ice cream and I hope that everything is better in the morning!

 

[Cruisin]

I hope tomorrow will be a better day for you.

 

[grinningghost]

Oh, I'm so sorry. As they say "breaking up is hard to do" - no matter which end of the breaking up you're on. Think of it like this, if it's really and truly meant to be, things will work themselves out. Maybe you both need a break from each other.

After a little break, one of two things will happen. Either you will grow to realize that life without him isn't so bad and you might want to pursue new things - or you will come to realize that having him in your life is really what you want. At that point, you can make a more rational decision. I say give it a little time.

Good luck.

 

[tmt martins]

Remember sometimes Prince Charming is just a TOAD but they always revert back for their TRUE Princess
sleep tight Tink may be on the way

 

[florida-again]

thank you all for your kindness....

I've now progressed from small, occasional tears...to fully blown puffy eyed, snotty nosed, loud, obnoxious sobbing....

Although I do calm down when I read a kind reply...a little

yuck

 

[simba928]

Hugs to you. I am sure things will work themselves out. And as some of the previous posters have said, if it is meant to be, it will happen. Everything will turn out ok, though. When this is over with, you will realize that he wasn't the one for you or that he really is THE ONE.

 

[diznygirl]

So sorry.

I know how you feel cuz it happened to me and then-BF. This was him and then I was like I spent the whole night thinking it was over. In the morning BF called. And then I was like

And we've been married 12 years.

Hope it all works out for you.

 

[lovemygoofy]

I hope things get better. Fighting is so hard and learning to fight nicely is even harder. My dh and I actually agree about most everything but it's the small things that always trip us too. I hope you get a wonderful call in the morning

 

[ckret01]

I feel so bad for you! I know what you are going thru and it plain out STINKS!!! In my past when I was younger, I was always the one that was upset and spending half the night crying and wondering if he would still want to be with me in the morning while he was probably sound alseep in La La Land. So I've been there plenty.

The only thing I can say is stay strong and try not to think to hard b/c it's usually not as bad as it seems. Hopefully in the morning you both can make up. to you!!! Let us know how it goes

 

[florida-again]

Well I didn't hear from him this morning. I sent him a text message when I woke up, saying I hope we could sort things out and I loved him.....no reply.

Two hours later I sent another, asking if he'd decided whether or not he wanted to be with me....no reply

I'm so frustrated! Half of me thinks he is simply giving me the silent treatment and will come around. It seems unlikely after all these years that he would simply stop talking to me forever.

But the other, very scared half, worries that he simply does not want anything to do with me anymore. Or perhaps has decided he doesn't want to be with me and hasn't yet had the courage to tell me.

Meanwhile, I still have to get on with my day. I have to give a presentation to a big group in a few hours, and at the moment I can't stop crying.

I wish he'd just tell me either way. I don't like to keep contacting him, it makes him more mad, but I simply don't know what else to do.

Oh and I sent him an email last night, pouring my heart out because I knew he wouldn't have the patience to talk to me about it....

Text him and asked him if he'd read it.....no reply!!!

 

[daisyduck123]

I'm wishing you lots of luck that you'll hear from him soon. I would not try to contact him again..let him make the next move.

 

[florida-again]

Well he replied. Not a particularly friendly reply, but actually not bad.

No cursing or name-calling, just 'leave me alone please, you upset me last night'.

That is a GOOD sign!!!!

 

[SDFgirl]

Well he replied. Not a particularly friendly reply, but actually not bad.

No cursing or name-calling, just 'leave me alone please, you upset me last night'.

That is a GOOD sign!!!!

I hope things work out for you!

I've been in this situation, where you just want to keep calling and calling until you get some kind of resolution. However, as hard as it is, I would give him his space at this point. Obviously he needs some time to think things through.

I think he's more likely to see you in a positive light if you respect his feelings and back off for a day or two.

This happened to my fiance and I when we first started dating. We had a fight, and he said he wanted to be "alone" for a week and think. We didn't break up, but he said he really needed to sort through his feelings. That was the longest, hardest week of my life!! I wanted to call him and email him about 4000 times a day. However, I left him alone except for one or two calls. In the end, he decided that he did want to be with me and we've been happy ever since. I once told him how much I wanted to call him and work things out, and he said that he's glad I didn't...it would have really bothered him that I didn't respect his feelings.

Sometimes men just need to go into their "caves" and think. Read "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" if you haven't already. Lots of good advice in there.

Good luck to you! I hope it works out...keep your chin up...

 

[Frantasmic]

Give him some space. No more text messages, etc. He does need time to think and collect his thoughts.

I know you want definition NOW, but sometimes it can't be given, or is given in haste and then an answer, given to just get someone or thing off your back, is held as your word of honor.

Apparently the rift is fairly great for him. You can't explain it away and your apologies may sound hollow, an effort to placate him rather than really get to the root of the problem.

 

[Bambismama]

Good luck!

 

[Disney Doll]

Well, he has asked for some space, so give it to him. No more text or e-mailing. No phone calls. Give him space.

You said you two have been together for a long time and are close. I can assume that he will contact with his decision either way...it doesn't sound like he'd leave you hanging, or just never call you again, so sit tight.

The Universe unfolds as it should. We may not always understand the reasons why somethg happens, but I truly believe that things happen the way they are supposed to.

 

[keenercam]

Good luck. I hope you will be able to go on with your day and accomplish what you need to do, and give him some space. Hopefully, with some space and time he will remember how much your relationship means to him and will be willing to communicate again. Sending

 

[Toby'sFriend]

personally, I'd give him some space and time.

And I'd use that space and time contemplate whether I wanted to continue a relationship with a guy who thinks my history makes me some kind of Scarlett Letter Woman charity case.

 

[Kylie's Mommy]

Oh, you poor thing! I know exactly how you are feeling right now! Shortly after Dh and I were engaged we got into this HUGE fight. I broke up with him in the heat of the moment and regretted it by the time I got home an hour later. I called him and tried to apologize and work things out but he was still so mad at me that he didn't even want to talk to me. I couldn't believe he would want to actually stay broken up after all we had been through together. I was a mess. I cried all night long. But basically he needed time to cool off, think things over, and realize that he couldn't live without me. A year later we were married! And we are happier than I would have ever imagined was possible. Give it time! If he's worth it he'll see the light. If not, then it's best you find out now!