all stressed out!

[mishtb]

Last night we had the biggest argument........ so upset.. we are having an intimate wedding which includes 5 days hotel and park tickets. well since this is not only our wedding but vacation, plus our 2 yr old first time I want to go to the parks at least every day (except for the day of our wedding).

Well, my in-laws are going a day earlier than us, plus they are not buying any park tickets (they are not planning on going to the parks)..

so I was talking to my DH and he asked why we have 5 day passes and do I expect to go to the parks every day.. I told him yes I am going to the parks and the 5 day pass came with our package. So he said we're not going to the parks each day, if we have wedding guests that are not planing on going to the parks then what are they suppose to do all day - by themselves. That he's not going to the park if his family does not, he'd rather hang out with them, cuz he feels its wrong to leave them on their own.

Am I wrong here - I mean I don't get why their going for an extra day if they are not going to do anything, plus this is also my vacation and I want to enjoy it..... I don't want to stay at our hotel or downtown disney and only have 2 1/2 days at the parks. He's driving me crazy........ please tell me it will be all better soon....

 

[we3disneygo]

hopefully he'll change his mind when he gets there! hope it all works out!

 

[janine]

I am sure he will. It could be said that the inlaws may prefer to hang out 'on their own'. Has he thought of that?
My parents enjoy total silence when they go away. They holiday in the remote parts of Scotland for 6 weeks every year. Next year they will be coming with me to Disney (there is an enormous difference here). I know it isn't their thing and they may prefer to just lie by the pool all day. They wouldn't expect me though to stay with them, and I am sure they wouldn't want to hang out with us all day.
It can still be nice to meet up each evening for a wonderful dinner.
You never know anyway his parents may change their mind once they get there.
Don't worry, it'll all work out I'm sure. good luck.

 

[Disneyrsh]

I'd chalk a lot of it up to pre wedding stress, I'd do a lot of smiling and nodding right now and once you're done with your wedding it'll be a lot easier to work out the dynamics of meeting up with them, etc.

You may not want to spend all day in the parks, every day.

We've been a ton of times and we never stay in the parks all day because it wipes us out (and we're in good shape and in our 30's) to spend all day in the parks and then go back the next day.

So it'll probably work out fine and you may discover that they'll buy a ticket or two, and you'll probably take some time off from being in the park.

Hakuna Matata! (make it your mantra for the next few weeks!)

 

[fun2bmomof3]

I'm sure it will all work out once you get there. You might be able to interest his parents in Epcot; especially the World showcase. Maybe a family trip to visit the world showcase, have dinner and watch illuminations would be nice. If they are unable to walk that, you can get motorized wheelchairs from there for them to use. (That is what we'll do for my parents at our vr).

Have you or him been to Disney before? He may not realize all the wonderful aspects of the parks. On our first trip My dh thought all the parks were going to be like going to Six Flags everyday and he didn't want to do parks everyday either. But once there he changed his mind and we were at the parks everyday. He now lives for the parks.

You might also want to think of spending time by the pool. Disney resort pools are not like regular hotel pools. We really enjoy time at the pool. My kids including my 18 month old is crazy for the water slides. Also keep in mind that 2 year olds still need their nap and rest time. Some swear by going back to the resort for naptime. Personally I prefer to let then nap in the stroller. Because they are cranky on the way back to the resort, then once in the room it takes forever to settle them down, etc. But we don't stay real late at the parks so that they can get a good nights sleep before getting up again early the next morning. Or if we stay to watch the fireworks or something we sleep in the next morning.

I'm sure it will all work out for you.

crissy

 

[Coloradogrl]

Why would you in laws go all the way there and not get tickets? Can they not afford them? I guess I just cant imagin going all the way there and NOT going to WDW! Maybe if its a cost issue you guys could buy the tickets for them?

 

[kegafford]

My in laws are coming and not going to the park everyday. I am sure of it but to us that might be a bonus for us. If we want to have us time they will take the kids for us Maybe see if you can leave the kids with them and take a little alone time for yourself art the parks

 

[rosiejo]

Are they staying for the whole five days you didn't say. And if this is to be your honeymoon too then why do you want to hang around the hotel with your new in laws?

I can't imagine why people go to Disney and not go to the parks - unless you go regularly - do they understand what they'll be missing - the look on your two year old's face will be worth every penny the tickets cost...

 

[shellncesar]

The way I look at it is that you invited them to the wedding. It is not your job to entertain them. Plus, I dont think you would be spending all the time they are there with them. There is less to do outside of the park than there is inside. I say stick them with the kids for a couple hours and go do something romantic with your new hubby. It will be nice for them to visit with the kids and for you two to get away. I dont feel it is your obligation to spend time with them every waking second, especially since this is not a planned family vacation for them. If they were visiting at your home I could see your fiance's point. Try compromising about the time spent with them. But remember it is your honeymoon and vacation with your new family. that is why you are there.

 

[SetzKitten]

It is not your job to entertain them

My thoughts exactly! I'd tell them what you're planning to do each day and extend an invitation for them to join you. If they say no, then they're on their own to entertain themselves. Plus, if my DH told me he'd rather spend time with his parents than with me on our honeymoon, well, never mind what would happen, let's just say it wouldn't be pretty.

 

[MApigletfan]

We are having an intimate wedding and we have a bunch of guests coming that are not buying tickets and I don't feel obligated to entertain them. I am taking care of them the day of the wedding from the wedding to the reception, lunch and then a dessert party - I feel this is enough. My fiance's parents, my mom and aunt, and his brother, sister and their spouses are all flying down the day before and most are flying home the day after. I told them all are plans and they are more than welcome to join but if they don't want to spend the money on tickets then that is their decision. This is our wedding, and our family vacation and I plan on spending it as I want. I am sure things will work out, and like one poster said, maybe they would like time alone to enjoy the resort. Keep smiling everything usually works out in the end