Aggravated With People Who Can't Return a Wedding Response Card...

[TwinMom7]

Am I the only one who gets aggravated by people who can't put a self-addressed stamped response card into the mail? Out of 200 invitations, we probably had 30 people who didn't return their response.

My first thought is to just FORGET them, but here we are - on the phone calling each and every one of them. We're having assigned seating, and I'm scared to death that someone will show up and not have a seat/placecard.

OK - this is my RANT of the day!

 

[Arabella Figg 2003]

I feel your pain. been there, done that, bought the t shirt.


according to the experts, the response card isn't even necessary -- people are supposed to respond to the invitation on their own.

but if I didn't send the cards, along with the self addressed stamped envelope, I suspect I would have had to make even more phone calls!

unbelievable.

 

[binny]

yikes! Thanks for reminding me! we need to figure out or plans for a friends sons wedding Thanks


ps ummmmm I hope you get it all figured out!

 

[onecoolmama]

i totally hear you. Out of the 550 people that were invited we called I think about 50 of them. I hear you..it's like...dont they think you have other things to worry about then having you worry about them.


Very Rude!!!

 

[Hillbeans]

Originally posted by onecoolmama
i totally hear you. Out of the 550 people that were invited we called I think about 50 of them. I hear you..it's like...dont they think you have other things to worry about then having you worry about them.

Holy cow! I don't even know 550 people!

 

[onecoolmama]

I have a big family...

 

[TwinMom7]

We had 422 people invited - THANKFULLY, only 350 are coming!!!!

 

[arminnie]

Wouldn't you just love to mail out a postcard that says

"Since we didn't hear from you we are assuming that you are NOT attending and have removed your name from the guest list."

 

[TwinMom7]

OH arminnie....I LOVE IT!!!!!!!

If I only had the NERVE!

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

What's even worse is when people respond that they're coming and then don't show up. Don't they realize how much each plate of food costs???? That really burns my toast.

 

[TwinMom7]

Yep....and with the Bell/Placecards to be picked up as they enter the hall, and taken to their assigned table - I'll be able to tell who those "no shows" are!

 

[2bemarried]

Originally posted by DisneyAddict_M
What's even worse is when people respond that they're coming and then don't show up. Don't they realize how much each plate of food costs???? That really burns my toast.

I had that happen with several of our guests What REALLY peeved me was great aunts telling my mom they were coming to the wedding when they didn't even receive an invite (yes people...I left you off the list for a reason!)

 

[cynsaun]

Originally posted by 2bemarried


I had that happen with several of our guests What REALLY peeved me was great aunts telling my mom they were coming to the wedding when they didn't even receive an invite (yes people...I left you off the list for a reason!)

Hey! I didn't get one!

 

[monkeyboy]

Originally posted by cynsaun
Hey! I didn't get one!

you can be my "and Guest"

 

[Pin Wizard]

It is very annoying...and rude. Personally, I don't remember making any phone calls...guess all my people got back to me. I don't know if my parents made any calls or not. Oh! Dad did to his brother. Turned out my cousin had a track meet or something that day. They didn't show.

 

[Mishetta]

I feel your pain! We had to call some of our invited guests too for our wedding! The funny thing was that I felt embarrassed calling them when it was "they" who should have been embarrassed. My DH said that maybe they were waiting for a better offer for that day, so they weren't going to commit that they were coming to our wedding!

 

[stinkerbelle]

By far it's the rudest thing someone can do.

I took the time to put a stamp on that envelope - you better return it!

I had to call a bunch of people I got "I'm not coming - I thought I made that clear by not returning the card" (I'm sorry - did you not see the line ___regrets?) and "Of course I'm coming! I didn't need to tell you that!" (Well - did you notice the ___fish ___chicken ___beef options? What the heck do you want to eat?)

I even numbered all mine - so even if I couldn't read the handwriting, I could figure out who was whol Of if they put down 7 are attending when I only invited 2 (um - who are these 5 extra people you are bringing?)

now...after going through all that last year - when we get a wedding invite, DH and I decided w/in 2 days if we are going/what we are eating and return that sucker.

 

[SnoWhite]

Also been there, done that.

I got the same thing, either "we didn't send it because you should have KNOWN we were coming", OR "we can't come so we didn't send it, we figured you would know that." UGH

If you put a stamp on it, for heavens sake, send it back. All it takes it a walk to your mailbox to put it in. Not that hard.

We ended up having quite a few people that said they weren't coming, not show. We also had a few people that said they couldn't come...show up. So no matter how hard you plan there is always going to be some discrepancy the day of.

Good luck

Lisa

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Originally posted by stinkerbelle

I even numbered all mine - so even if I couldn't read the handwriting, I could figure out who was whol Of if they put down 7 are attending when I only invited 2 (um - who are these 5 extra people you are bringing?)

That happened to me too! We invited exh's friend and her mother. When we got the reply card back, she put down her sister's name next to theirs and said 3 would be attending. Ummm...maybe there was a reason we didn't invite her? Geeze, some people sure have nerve.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by DisneyAddict_M
That happened to me too! We invited exh's friend and her mother. When we got the reply card back, she put down her sister's name next to theirs and said 3 would be attending. Ummm...maybe there was a reason we didn't invite her? Geeze, some people sure have nerve.

we had invited 4 from one family - DH's aunt/uncle 2 cousins (who we rarely see)

the reply came back with 6 listed...I was like "who?"
DH had his father call - apparently it was the aunt/uncle, their granddaughter (we were not having children at the reception) and 3 other people we hadn't invited...so very odd...