AGGHHHH Kids did I over react??

[kaylajr]

DD is 12 and thinks she is 20

she asked to go to a friends house overnight
we said OK and DH dropped her off at 2

around 4 she calls to see if she can have tylenol she burned her finger and it hurts

DH asks to talk to friends parents
they are not there
and wouldn't be back till 9 or 10

the Parents thought we knew this

we did NOT
I would have never let her go

So i drove up and got her

when did you let your kids spend alot of time without adult supervision???

 

[becjlek]

No, I don't think you did at all. I would have done the same thing. The fact that your daughter got burned is proof enough.

 

[C.Ann]

I think 12 might be a little young - especially since she managed to "burn" her finger.. LOL How did she do that, anyhow?

Of course right now I'll bet you're being told you're the MEANEST mom ever!! LOL

 

[cepmom]

Of course right now I'll bet you're being told you're the MEANEST mom ever!! LOL

she can't be....I am the meanest Mom ever don't you know??

kaylajr...I think 12 is a little young to be left without adult supervsion that long also...you did not overreact

 

[kaylajr]

They were cooking dinner I guess not sure of all the details yet


she is feeling pretty guilty right now

but I told her i didn't care if i was a popular MOM

i was a memeber of the DIS mean Mommy club

 

[Tinkerbellish]

I love how it seems around here my friends and I are big time rebelious girls living the fast life! Haha.

When I was 12 I wound hang out my friends out with out the parents out for 3 or so hours, but not for that long! Now almost 3 years later we hang with out parents around for a long time. I guess our parents think we're responsible and mature I guess. =/

 

[2angelsinheaven]

Your the Worst mom ever... j/k You absolutely did the right thing. Thank God it was only her finger and not worse.

 

[kaylajr]

I love how it seems around here my friends and I are big time rebelious girls living the fast life! Haha.

When I was 12 I wound hang out my friends out with out the parents out for 3 or so hours, but not for that long! Now almost 3 years later we hang with out parents around for a long time. I guess our parents think we're responsible and mature I guess. =/

During the day
and if I know in advance i let her spend a short amount of time with out
parents because i DO trust her
BUT 7-8 hours and with out them telling me and lying to the other parents saying i knew was my BIG issue I DON"T tolerate lying

 

[disneymom3]

she can't be....I am the meanest Mom ever don't you know??

kaylajr...I think 12 is a little young to be left without adult supervsion that long also...you did not overreact

No, no no. I am the meanest mom in the entire world so you two don't have to worry! Hey, maybe we can get our kids together and they can compare notes

I would have gone to get her too. Did DD know the parents wouldn't be home? That little piece of omitted information would have some serious repurcussions around here!

ETA--ahhh sounds like she did know the parents weren't going to be home. Yeesh, that is a bigger issue.

 

[kaylajr]

I would have gone to get her too. Did DD know the parents wouldn't be home? That little piece of omitted information would have some serious repurcussions around here!

EXACTLY
and she says but I told you

NO WAY she did cause we wouldn't have let her go

 

[Sparx]

You did the right thing, she shouldn't have lied.

 

[cruisnfamily]

dropped her off at 2....wouldn't be back till 9 or 10...the Parents thought we knew this....we did NOT
I would have never let her go


when did you let your kids spend alot of time without adult supervision???

OK, so the question is would I let my child spend 7 to 8 hrs unsupervised? Well, it depends. And by the way I also have a DD12 going on 20. Many, many of her friends stay home alone all day while parents work. So, I guess it is somewhat acceptable by this age. HOWEVER, I would not drop DD12 at a friends house to spend 8 hrs unsupervised unless I knew the child in question very, very well. As well as the neighborhood they lived in. There are certain friends of my dd's that I would allow this with, without question, there are other friends that I would NOT allow this with, no matter what. Another HOWEVER is the fact that you didNOT know the parents were not going to be there. I would definitely want to know this ahead of time so I had time to make an informed decision.

In your exact situation, I would have done exactly what you did.

Amusing side story. DD12 spent the night at a friend's house over the summer. The friends mom went to work the next day and I knew this was happening and OK'd it. I went to pick DD up. Called her about an hour ahead and told her when I'd be there. Got there, and it's raining out, really hard! I run to the door and bang, bang, bang on the door. Ring the doorbell. Go to my car and call both dd's cell phone and friends house phone. All with no answer. This goes on for about 15 minutes. I am LIVID! Finally, I decide to go around to all the windows and see if I can see DD in the house. I walk around back and there are she and her friend, jumping on the trampoline in the pouring rain with the radio blasting. Well I tell you what, she got it but good and never ever again will she be at that particular house unsupervised! Jumping on a trampoliine with no adult even home, IN THE RAIN, with the radio blasting, all at the time she knew I was coming to get her. Poor judgement all the way around on that one!

 

[Lil_Tink]

I being 14 may be allowed to but it depends on the person and place..But you didnt overreacht.

 

[mom2boys]

You did the right thing. I would have been livid. My kid would have been in trouble. I don't leave my 11 yr old home alone for that amount of time. He doesn't cook when I'm not home - cooking includes the microwave & the toaster oven. Wonder what those parents would have thought if the girls had accidentally started a fire?

BTW I AM the meanest Mom. Ask my 10 yr old.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

They come home when they aren't smart enough NOT to call you....duh...
"Mom I burned myself, can I have Tylenol, oh and btw her parents aren't home."

 

[MN Dis Fans]

I would like to join the DIS Mean Mommy Club . My DS is only 10 and hasn't tried to stay alone with a friend for an extended time - yet. I also do not allow any cooking.

 

[MerryPoppins]

I think you did the right thing. I leave my kids alone, but they are older. We still have a rule that no friends can come over while we're away and they can't go visiting when the parents are away. The rest of the time we're pretty flexible. I have really good kids, but I just think without supervision things happen. And if they didn't tell me the truth, heads would roll. They know that.

 

[ckckc2000]

Hi Kayla-I think you did the right thing-knowing in advance is one thing,but finding out about it after a small(thankfully) injury is another

We just went out last night and made our 18yo stay home til we got back from dinner-he wasn't pleased but after they broke a lightbulb screwing around realized why we had him stay home(and you know my DS/DD are 12/10)

And no you aren't the meanest Mom,that would be me

 

[MeanLaureen]

MeanKayla - that's what happens when you work this close with me for a couple of months!

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

When you picked up your daughter, does that mean you left the other little girl home alone? Maybe her parents thought that the two 12-year olds could take care of themselves and watch each other, but are going to come home and find their little girl all alone. I guess it's not your problem, but I would have felt weird leaving the other girl alone.