Advising a friend - How to convince your wife

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So I've got a friend considering DVC, but getting a no can do from the wife. She's spooked by the economy. I'm really close to the wife, but am getting questions from the DH.

Anyway, I think he's trying to figure it all out, before he convinces the wife. The problem is that he can't figure out which resort would be best and how many points they would need.

What would be the best resort for a family with 2 adults, and 2 sons (currently aged 8 & 10), but going on 18 and 20? Can you sleep 2 strapping young men on a single sleeper sofa?

They currently only get vacation for the weeks of July 4th and Christmas. I don't see them going to Disney for Christmas. They stayed with us at Boardwalk before. I think they liked it, but liked the looks of Beach Club better. I think they would have trouble justifying the cost of BC. They also drive down so OKW and SSR might not be a problem. The wife would also like the SSR decor.I think AKV and VWL would be real possibility too.

The DH really liked the 200 pt. contract at Vero for $10k. He liked the $$. I've given him the pros and cons and told him to look at pictures. But of course, he's a guy.

So, if you were making the pitch...what would you try to sell the wife on??
 
Honestly, I wouldn't try to convince the wife. If you and she are the closer pair, then she'll ask you if she really wants info. She's probably just about ready to strangle her DH for bringing it up. And if a woman has a gut feeling about finances or anything else for that matter, then you go with that gut feeling.

An aside: If I were only able to visit WDW on Christmas or July 4th, then I'd never visit much less buy into DVC.
 
I would guide them in the direction of one of the disney properties that are up for re-sale for an amount that they are most comfortable with. I can completely understand that the financial impact is the #1 priority and after that I would remind them that with the booking window and all of the resorts that are available to book that they will really have numerous choices for their vacations going forward. It seems like obvious advice but that is what I would say. Good luck!!
 
They may be more comfortable buying a small resale contract that they can comfortably afford - then add on more points later. Also make sure she knows that if for some economic reason they need to sell they can recoup a large part of their money. And small contracts are easier to sell than large ones.
 

I too can understand her economy fear. What tough weeks! and prime as well... I would guess that home resort and 11 month booking would be a requirement.

One thing you might could offer is for them to buy points this year and have them transferred into your membership for booking and safe guarding purposes. Also giving the ecomony time to recover. (But keep in mind for you it burns your only opportunity to transfer in points that year.)

I think the small purchase idea is the best way. Since I'm not a fan of sofa beds either... I could see them really enjoying a 2 bedroom... even if it was every third year. But only if it wasn't a stress to their finances and along with that... their marriage!
 
If they go, I would suggest getting the points at a new property that has the 2 full baths and the 2 sofa bed set ups in the living room in a 1 bedroom. I think the kids would be OK if they each had their own sleeper. AKV resale could be a good fit for them.
Bobbi:)
 
I'm giving advice that contradicts myself:

If the wife is hesitant due to $$, IMO you have done enough, I would just answer any questions they have and not "try to convince her" if she is reluctant.

Not knowing what your relationship is exactly with your friend and his wife, but say they do wind up making the purchase, she is somewhat reluctant but goes along, then somethign unfortunate happens and they get in a financial bind, she could resent you for it and it may strain your friendship.

Just my 2 cents.

(Contradicting myself as in telling you that you should back off, but yet giving you advice at the same time)

No harm intended with my advice btw, just don't want to see anyone potentially lose a friend. :wave2:
 
I agree with the others here in that I wouldn't try and talk the wife into this. My advice for your friend would be to just wait until his wife is ready. With the large amount of inventory that DVC is going to have for sale in the next year and with the economy the way it is I think there might be some pretty good deals available from Disney in 6 to 12 months.
 
If you have to try that hard to convince someone it isnt a good idea to buy. DVC is a big investment and for those that mutually agree on it and are happy about it...it brings joy. But if one person in the family or the couple is unhappy or is forced it can bring resentment and "I told you sos" and things like that. Just give them the basic information of what you know if they dont have that already and let them decide together.
 
DVC will always be there. I remember some friends telling me about it 5 years before we ever considered purchasing. It just wasn't the right thing for us at the time, on several fronts, and I would have been annoyed to have someone pushing it.

I do like the idea of offering to rent them points for their next WDW stay. Actually seeing a friend's 2 b/r villa while we were visiting WDW is what sold us in the end.
 
So I've got a friend considering DVC, but getting a no can do from the wife. She's spooked by the economy. I'm really close to the wife, but am getting questions from the DH.


She might be right, especially about their situation.

Anyway, I think he's trying to figure it all out, before he convinces the wife. The problem is that he can't figure out which resort would be best and how many points they would need.

Did you tell him to buy where he wants to stay?


The DH really liked the 200 pt. contract at Vero for $10k. He liked the $$. I've given him the pros and cons and told him to look at pictures. But of course, he's a guy.

200 pts. for 10K doesn't seem realistic.


So, if you were making the pitch...what would you try to sell the wife on??


Good luck. Keep us posted.:goodvibes
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Hey everybody:

Thanks for the input.

Sorry for the secrecy...its my DSis and her DH (BIL).

They stayed with us at Boardwalk 2 years ago. That trip was a bit of a disaster, because our OTHER SIS hated WDW.:grouphug:

This SIS and BIL went back last 4th of July and loved it!!!
I don't think they loved All Star Sports.
[The sports nut kids even told them that they liked Boardwalk better.]

Sis and BIL are pretty secure in their jobs, but well this economy is really spooky.:crazy2:

I agree with buy where you want to stay, especially when they would need to go. BIL just didn't have a clue. I kind of know how they work. She always says NO, and then he checks it out, comes back with the details, and she says YES or NO. The 1st answer on purchases is always NO with Sis.

I think the final issue with SIS is slimeshare reputation. First me and my DH went nuts, and now her DH is nuts too. :rotfl:

I really liked the thought of point transfers. There really isn't much risk in that. Will I have any trouble getting the transfer and then putting it in their name?
 
I really liked the thought of point transfers. There really isn't much risk in that. Will I have any trouble getting the transfer and then putting it in their name?

Someone else can better advise you... I've not done a transfer... just explored it. I was thinking Sis/BIL would buy(I guess it maybe called rent) the points they need from a DVC member offering a transfer on the rental board and ask the seller to be put the points in your membership account. Then you would make the reservation for Sis/BIL in their name.

My first DVC visit was on rented points. Then I purchased DVC membership... because of all my fears of potential renting problems. I would think a transfer would have less things that could go wrong. But yet... still plenty of complications! For a sister or good friend... who could plan well and understand all the basic DVC concepts... it would be worth it.
 



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