advice?

[cindys_castle2011]

Okay, I just need some advice.

I'm seriously getting sick of my "best friend". I " that because she really hasn't been acting like one lately. You would swear she's my girlfriend, cause of how she acts. She is getting terribly jealous of my boyfriend, and I don't know why. I'm practically with her all the time, the only time I see him now; she's with me! She freaked out yesterday cause I didn't want to go to a basketball game. The only reason she asked me to come is because she needed a ride... she's trying to sneak around and see this boy that her parents have told her time, and time again that they do NOT want her seeing (he's black) She's using me, to go to every sporting event that his school has, because him and Garrett go to school together. I'm sick and tired of her using me. She never wants to talk to me, unless it's something about that boy. Everytime we talk it's all about him, when I try and bring up something about Garrett, or something in my life, she's like.. ohhh yeahh, so anyways Bryan.. blahblahblah. I'm like wth?!? Garrett and I have been dating for five months, and we both told each other I love you like two weeks ago, we say it because we honestly do. Her and Bryan have been together for about two months, and they've been saying it since they were dating for like three weeks! She heard me say I love you to him the other day, and she rolled her eyes and was like wow. thats funny! She told me yesterday she didn't know if she liked me hanging out with Marybeth (a girl, i went to school with in my hometown, not my lat school).. like really, are you my mother??? Mary and I have been bestfriends since kindergarten, but I left the school and we were to young to have cell phone's so we couldn't keep in touch that well.. thankfully we met up over the summer and we're just beginning to get really close again. and Kelsey is JEALOUS. ugh, I need a best friend, not someone that looks over every decision I make! She can NOT do anything by herself, if she goes to the dollar store, she calls me up to see if I wanna go, cause she don't wanna go by herself..I really don't know if she'll ever be able to be independent! She is so dependent on people it's almost to the point where it's annoying! My parents are loose, but still in the same way strict.. like they dont let me go out every night of the week, and then be gone the entire weekend, and she gets so mad, when my mom says no, you just went out last night. Most of the time I don't even wanna go I just ask so she'll shutup. Then she's like omg, go beg them please!! I'm like oh my gosh, are you that depending on me, that you'll sacrifice me getting in trouble?? I really can not even talk to her about it, because she's like 'omg whatever' and we won't talk for like a day, then she'll text me the next day, and says something like, 'omg guess what Bryan told me last nite!!' I wanna be like Kelsey, shutup. I do not care! Since I'm homeschooled , I'm not close to anyone really except her now, and I guess she's freaking out cause she's realizing how close me and Garrett are getting, and how close me and Marybeth are getting.

ugh, any advise or something?

 

[imabrat]

Advice. It's advice. You want advice, not to advise someone. Sorry, but this is a major pet peeve.

Just stop talking to her.

 

[bananda]

i dont know. she shouldn't be telling you who you can and cant see.

 

[cindys_castle2011]

Advice. It's advice. You want advice, not to advise someone. Sorry, but this is a major pet peeve.

Just stop talking to her.

sorry, I knew it looked wrong. I just couldn't figure out what it was.. this just isn't really my day; I'm usually going crazy correcting people's grammar, and what-not. Sorry again.

 

[imabrat]

sorry, I knew it looked wrong. I just couldn't figure out what it was.. this just isn't really my day; I'm usually going crazy correcting people's grammar, and what-not. Sorry again.

It's alright. It's just one of those days for you, sorry if I came off rude.

 

[gymnastgirlflips]

Wow, she does sound very dependent. Well, I would sit her down and just tell her how you feel and tell her that you feel like she isn't being a good friend. If she doesn't listen to you I say you should just stop talking to her. She's not being a very good friend at all.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I'm really sorry, but I couldn't read all that. It was all jumbled into one paragraph & the lines blurred together when I tried to read it.

I kind of got the jist of it though. All I have to say is, be nice.

 

[wishuponastar2430]

I honestly think that your friend just feels threatened. Maybe because you have a boyfriend now, that you aren't going to be there for as much as you were before.
I could see that because that is how my friends are with me. They constantly argue with me about how I spend way too much time with Stevie (my boyfriend) and I am never there to talk to anymore. Which I personally disagree with because all of my friends know for a fact that I would be there for all of them in heart beat, no matter what.
But some times, you just have to remind them. Reassure them that you are still the same person you were before you got with your boyfriend. And yes you have a new friend, but that new friend isn't going to make you forge your other friends. She isn't going to replace her. You will still have certain things that you can talk to one friend about that you would never be able to tell your new friend.
Also let her know that you do not feel like she is being a real friend, and you feel like you are being used. I totally get that. That is the most annoying thing. It's like "Are you my friend because you need me to go somewhere with you? Or are you really my friend?" It's frustrating. But you have to talk to her about it, or else you will never get anywhere.
We could all give you the greatest advice in the world, but you need to talk to your friend. See where she is coming from with all of this.