Advice on Childcare Please

[Tandyc]

Please do not let "the bad apples" spoil the barrel. Most of the Disers are wonderful, supportive, non-judgemental people. I would like to pledge my prayers and support to you and your family. This may be a nice place to come, discuss Disney things and find some "magic", hopefully forget all the real world stuff. A little escape may be just the ticket on a bad day or even a good one.

I hope you feel comfortable continuing to post and feel all the love on this site. Look past the negative junk and allow yourself to have a great time planning this very important wonderful trip you are planning.

Pixie dust and prayers your way!

Tandyc

 

[mrsmariahc]

First of all I didn't jump to judge anyone but specifically parents who use childcare in a way I feel is plain wrong. I never said the OP was doing such a thing, or called her a bad parent or even said "she" was wrong. If you went back and actually read the entire thread I am not the one who started this whole thing, I added my two cents after many others gave their opinions on the subject. My heart goes out to this family, but I still stand by what I said previously as my comments were directed to a very specific group. This is a highly unusual situation and I doubt that any of the people I refered to are in a similar one. The reason I apologized to the OP because what she and her family is going through is so much bigger then all of this, and the only thing she needs at this time is support.

Why did you not read the entire thread before you jumped in with your opinion like that? If you had gone down a few more and read post #5, really read it, I doubt seriously that you would have made those insensitive comments. I knew what she was saying the first time I read that post and my heart immediately broke for her family. I could not believe people still made the comments they did after her posting that.

 

[Willow25]

My heart is breaking for you and your family. I can not believe the cruel people who lept to judgements. There is nothing wrong with people accessing childcare for one night during a vacation no matter the reason. People need to open their minds and hearts. There is no black and white way to do things. Shame on some of you and your cruel remarks.

 

[llazykllamas]

I am not going to apologize for my response. The topic was re: leaving children with a sitter while on a family vacation. I still don't like it. There was nothing said of any specific reason, other than to spend time with husband and talk - while at a show no less. We all have our difficulties. Do what you want, but when you start a conversation around 'the water cooler' be prepared for what ever others want to offer. If you don't want to hear something, don't open it up to the public.

BTW yesterday I had visitors in Class A's on my step. (get my point?)

Like I said earlier: At some time too late becomes just that.....too late

 

[Rowlf]

The topic was re: leaving children with a sitter while on a family vacation. I still don't like it.?

I don't think anyone asked you for your opinion.

BTW yesterday I had visitors in Class A's on my step. (get my point?)

Um, no.

 

[llazykllamas]

\BTW yesterday I had visitors in Class A's on my step. (get my point
Um, no.[/QUOTE]

If you read my earlier post, I had mentioned we were hoping that my husband would be back from Iraq in time for our trip in April Well, he won't

 

[Rowlf]

I'm sorry to hear that.

I'll also refrain from saying anything remotely as snarky as you did upthread, since I am truly sorry that this thread has so much sadness in it.

 

[idreamofdisney24/7]

We checked out Neverland Club before..It was really great!! At the time, my now 11 and 8 year old (then was about 4 and 7) really loved the tour we had.. but, when it came down to leaving them..they wouldn't stay.. Boy, we were wishing and would have paid anything for a dinner alone.. We love them to death and are there for them but sometimes you do need an adult moment.. We never get them when we're on vacation..and, probably never will..I agree..if you can get your child to stay at one of the kids clubs happily, then go for it!! They will probably have more fun there than hanging out with us adults at a romantic restaurant. My husband and I only have fond memories of our solo trips to Pleasure Island during our honeymoon.

 

[jodifla]

Wow. Some people aren't meant for the DIS boards, it would seem.

 

[disneymom3]

I am not going to apologize for my response. The topic was re: leaving children with a sitter while on a family vacation. I still don't like it. There was nothing said of any specific reason, other than to spend time with husband and talk - while at a show no less. We all have our difficulties. Do what you want, but when you start a conversation around 'the water cooler' be prepared for what ever others want to offer. If you don't want to hear something, don't open it up to the public.

BTW yesterday I had visitors in Class A's on my step. (get my point?)

Like I said earlier: At some time too late becomes just that.....too late

So, because you are suffering it is okay to be mean to someone else who you don't even know?

I am very sorry about whatever happened with your husband. I don't know what class As are, but I am sincerely sorry.

I am also very sorry that this woman who innocently posted a question she had no way of knowing was volatile on here got flamed for no reason.

I have used Fairy Godmothers and loved them and have no regrets. The woman who stayed with our kids was great and we would not hesistate to use them again. OP, if you are still bothering to read, please know that my heart is with you and I hope and pray you and your family are able to create many wonderful memories on this trip.

 

[Cruz Family]

I really can not believe how sensitive some of you are being. I dont mean the OP or the people feeling for her. I mean on a public forum you give an oppinion (as did MANY other people) and everybody just freaks out. I'm not going to sit here and ask a question about a sensitive issue and get upset if people give their opinions. Why exactly are so many of you so sensitive about the subject? Is it just because this is such a sad story? Would you be so upset if it was not so tragic? Hum, ya, you would and were. Before we knew the whole story (which I dont think is necessary to give your opininon) many of you already freaked out. I would not have a problem listening to someones idea, like it or not. I am a great parent and I know that, I don't need validation from anyone.

 

[mjmcca]

I really don't understand why some people here find this such a hot button issue. I don't think 1 or even 2 nights out of a family vacation is really such a big deal. As i said in another post its not like she was looking for the service to take the kids to the park everyday and not spend time with them. I knew reading the first post that there was another meaning behind the OPs words. By her second post you would have had to really have an agenda not to realize that she had a serious reason for wanting to be alone with her DH

 

[Cruz Family]

I really don't understand why some people here find this such a hot button issue. I don't think 1 or even 2 nights out of a family vacation is really such a big deal. As i said in another post its not like she was looking for the service to take the kids to the park everyday and not spend time with them. I knew reading the first post that there was another meaning behind the OPs words. By her second post you would have had to really have an agenda not to realize that she had a serious reason for wanting to be alone with her DH

First of all if you have worked in child care as long as I have you would undstand why this is "such a hot button issue". There are good and bad people in every industry and sadly child care is no different. As for the OP's 1st. and 2nd. post I don't know about yours but my crystal ball is a bit hazy and I still dont see it. And finally oh yes I do have an agenda. I dont like the idea of leaving a children with a stranger (whom I know nothing about), in a new place, so I can go have a quiet dinner with my husband. Shame on me and my horribly evil agenda.

 

[Bob P]

Can I respectfully ask the moderators to lock this thread? Or at least will people please stop replying to it so it will disappear?

As the first one who replied to the OP, I think her question has long since been answered.

This board is not a place to judge others. It's a place to ask and answer questions. Why someone wants to do something is irrelvant, unless it's something against WDW rules or illegal. The OP asked a simple question, and I (and several others) gave her the answer she was looking for. We did not lecture or take this off on a tangent.

Please, let this be the final post one way or another. Now that the OP has an answer, there is no reason to keep this thread going.

Bob

 

[Rowlf]

I am a great parent and I know that, I don't need validation from anyone.

Yep. I am too, even though my son is in day care and we, HORRORS!, use babysitters at home and on vacation. Why do you feel the need to insert your opinion when it WASN'T ASKED FOR?

If someone had asked, "Hey, I'm thinking about using KNO, but I'm not sure I'm okay with it. What do you all think?", then that would have been a different story. But that was NOT what was asked.

If you can't see the difference between these scenarios, then there's something really wrong.

 

[mom23boys]

I did say I didnt want to go in to personal details but there are a couple of you who seem to think I am a bad parent for wanting two hours away from the kids ears to discuss things.
I have cancer, things have been very tough for us all but it looks like things are going to get harder and I wont be around for my babies this time next year. I have begged and pleaded with the consultants to allow me permission to travel as I feel my family needs some quality time together, not to mourn but to celebrate my life on earth.
Now as I explained we have no family here so my husband and I do not have any time to ourselves, my time is with the children 365 days 24hours. All I need is a couple of hours quality time with my husband where we can discuss future, have a cry, etc, these are things I don't want my children seeing or hearing, we haven't even approached this with my children yet and we need to know how. So please stop your judgements you don't know me you don't know my family, I didnt call for your comments which have deeply upset me and I will never post to this group again. My children mean the world to me, how do you think I feel knowing I wont see them grow up

I am so sorry you are going through this. My heart aches for you. I hope you have a great holiday and your kids have memories that last a lifetime.

I

 

[Cruz Family]

Okay my first post was 22nd. in this tread. Again I added my opinion after many, many others gave theirs (and yes some were about wether or not people should use childcare) the only reason I continued to post is to defend myself.

Bob P is correct, lets just end the thread!

 

[lil mermaid]

I did say I didnt want to go in to personal details but there are a couple of you who seem to think I am a bad parent for wanting two hours away from the kids ears to discuss things.
I have cancer, things have been very tough for us all but it looks like things are going to get harder and I wont be around for my babies this time next year. I have begged and pleaded with the consultants to allow me permission to travel as I feel my family needs some quality time together, not to mourn but to celebrate my life on earth.
Now as I explained we have no family here so my husband and I do not have any time to ourselves, my time is with the children 365 days 24hours. All I need is a couple of hours quality time with my husband where we can discuss future, have a cry, etc, these are things I don't want my children seeing or hearing, we haven't even approached this with my children yet and we need to know how. So please stop your judgements you don't know me you don't know my family, I didnt call for your comments which have deeply upset me and I will never post to this group again. My children mean the world to me, how do you think I feel knowing I wont see them grow up

I am sorry to hear of your situation.

You don't owe anybody an explanation, least of all an anonymous poster on an internet discussion board.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

 

[mrsmariahc]

I am not going to apologize for my response. The topic was re: leaving children with a sitter while on a family vacation. I still don't like it. There was nothing said of any specific reason, other than to spend time with husband and talk - while at a show no less. We all have our difficulties. Do what you want, but when you start a conversation around 'the water cooler' be prepared for what ever others want to offer. If you don't want to hear something, don't open it up to the public.

BTW yesterday I had visitors in Class A's on my step. (get my point?)

Like I said earlier: At some time too late becomes just that.....too late

No, the topic was whether or not she should use the Neverland Ranch or an in room babysitter. Not, how do you feel on the concept of leaving children with a sitter while on vacation.

You must have a cold heart to say such things, even now after she clearly explained her situation.

 

[sara74]

There are SO many things I could say as a working mom of two (almost 3) but I will ONLY say the one that is relevant to Disney.

If I am to convince DH to invest in DVC on our first trip - how else am I to do it without getting a sitter for a night and taking him out for a grownups night at Disney? I'm asking him to fork over $ for the next 40 years - and I am hoping that the kids won't still be living with us then! (not because they are 'baggage', but because at 44, 42 and 40 we will have done something wrong if at least one of them hasn't gone out on their own yet!)

To the OP - thinking of you, thinking of your family and hope you have a magical vacation. You are in my heart.