Advice Needed (Mature Audiences Only Please)

[cheshirekitty]

Sometimes it's just best to let go. If it were me, I would not tell her and not try to rekindle the friendship. I would not have any contact with him.

Be done with it, let it go, move on.

 

[Kirk]

Just tell the guy to pound sand! The main thing is to get him to stop hitting on you. Besides that, just be honest. Tell your friend if it comes up, don't if you don't feel comfortable now.

Now you must be a real hottie if the guy keeps hitting on you! So go ahead and feel a little flattered!

 

[xmlguy]

I think a true friend would tell her so that she can protect herself legally and medically. How would you feel if she gets HIV or Hepatitus from him in the future, when the information you provided could have allowed her to prevent it? Of course telling her will be difficult, painful, and may affect your future relationship, but so be it. Your need to reconnect takes lower priority than her need to be informed about his behavior, in my opinion. Wouldn't you want to be informed if the situation was reversed?

 

[andy1078]

that is a crappy situation!! I think your HSF needs to know what her hubby did because you are probably not the only lady he has hit on.

 

[HGLightlyj]

I would run - not walk from a friendship with your HSF at this time. Whatever you do, you are in a lose lose situation. Stay clear of this situation.

 

[ols386]

If it were me, I wouldn't tell the friend. I'd probably try and stay out of the whole situation. You probably won't be able to have a friendship with HSF, at least right now, because if you tell her, she may not believe you, and that would be a problem. If you don't tell her, and try to rekindle the friendship with her, then you have the stupid HSFH to deal with. I'd just stay out of the whole mess.....for now.

 

[curly-love]

ok tell the wife she has the right to know. other than that I hope it goes well for you this is a hard thing to deal with.