Adoption Updates

[skoi]

At least you still have your sense of humor! to you on your quest. I hope that the rest goes easily for you and that you receive an acceptible refund from your agency.

Well if you can't laugh... And as Roger Rabbit says, "Laughter is a powerful weapon. Sometimes it's the only one we have." Or maybe Mel Brooks said it. Or something like it.

Anyway- obviously our boy was NOT in KZ and I had misgivings even as we were flying over to Germany. Sometimes we should listen to our gut.

Julie

 

[Emmaline Lola]

And glad to hear how everyone is progressing.

Our news is not good. Kazakhstan was a disaster from the time we got out to the region- plenty of bad behavior and deception on the part of the in-country team (we weren't shown any children in the age range we specified, they insisted there were none when we knew there were, etc), and little support from our agency at home. We even went to two regions. We had to come home when my elderly father was very ill (he's pulling through for now, but has terminal cancer) and when we tried to contact the agency about returning to finish our process, they were reluctant to make arrangements, so we won't be completing our adoption. We're hoping to get some money back, but our agency isn't helping saying it's up to the staff in KZ.

Anyway- we realized that wasn't where our boy was, and are soldiering on with another country- one we had discussed initially but rejected because my family would have "issues" with it-- Ethiopia. We'll be taking our two big kids, but not our little one, because we think the trip will be too hard on her, and it'll be distracting to have her and the new child(ren) if we can adopt a sibling group of two for that initial bonding period

So thanks again. Now that dad is getting out of the care center, I hope to have more Distime.

Julie

Julie,

I pm'd you ages ago about the picture of the Chinese theme park in your signature.......and you responded to me.

We are LID 4/3/06 in China waiting for a daughter. We have a bio dd 2 years old. I am so sorry to hear your news regarding your adoption in
Kazakhstan!

Saying a prayer for you that you find your son very, very soon!

Catherine

 

[monami7]

Just wait until we go to Ethiopia and we go out to the middle of nowhere to meet birth relatives. She'll be lucky a crocodile doesn't bite her butt.

Julie

OMG ROFLMAO
That was so funny you should take her to Haiti too!!!
Heidi

 

[monami7]

Fellow China moms to be - I cannot believe there were only 2 days of LIDs referred this month

2 Days was definitly hard to digest. WE ARE SO CLOSE WHY NOW!!!!!
Well I guess our little Rory isn't ready to come home yet. At least that is what I keep telling myself.

 

[scarlett873]

Oh Julie...I am so sorry...I know exactly what you mean about listeing to your gut. I know, without a doubt, that my first daughter is in China...there is nothing that anyone can say or do to make me think otherwise! I just know that's where she's at!

Yeah...the two days was very hard to digest this round. I sincerely hope and pray that there are surprise referrals or something!!

Gosh...this is going to be agony...we're not even logged in yet! GAH!!!

 

[Emmaline Lola]

I have read some rumors that the 2 LID's that received referrals this month had a very large number of families logged in, somewhere around 800........if this is true (a big if) it is not such a bad thing.....if only we could find out if this was true!

catherine
lid 4/3/06

 

[skoi]

Thanks for all the support. I missed coming by here.

For all you China moms-to-be, it's our fault the wait is so long, I'm sure. We're just really bad luck. When we started our process in May 2005 the wait from LID to referral was 6 months. We were LID 11/05, and our group hasn't gotten referrals yet! The only reason we have Madalyn home is because she was a special needs adoption, and we were processed very quickly because of that.

Hang in there guys! Maybe things will be speed up again.

Julie

 

[scarlett873]

Awww Julie...I'm sure it's not YOUR fault...lol...

 

[Micheme]

Hi ladies, Just dropping by to post that it is my little princesses 4rth birthday. So today my thoughts are with her birth mother and what she must have went through on this day and in the days ahead.

Does she know that her little one is being loved and cared for?
Does she know that her little one will want for nothing in her lifetime?
Does she know that her little girl is the light of so many persons lives who love and adore her?
Does she know that her sacrifice made myself and dh the happiest and most grateful people in the world?
Can she feel her little one laugh across the ocean and feel her happiness?

Tonight we will talk to Hannah about her Chinese mommy, something we have discussed so many times. I know I will be holding in the tears thinking does her birth mother made the right decision for her child.

Good thoughts for all of those still waiting, I wish your hopes will soon be a reality.

 

[RUDisney]

Awww Julie...I'm sure it's not YOUR fault...lol...

Come on Brandie, you mean it's not ALL her fault.

(I'm commenting like this since she's already shown she has a sense of humor.)

Micheme, what a nice thing to think of on your DD's birthday. I often wonder if my kids' birth mom thinks of them, or if the alcohol has stripped them from her memory.

 

[scarlett873]

Come on Brandie, you mean it's not ALL her fault.

(I'm commenting like this since she's already shown she has a sense of humor.)

Happy Birthday Hannah!!

I know I often think of what my future daughter's birthmother will go through in making her decision. I couldn't imagine being put into the same situation...

 

[skoi]

Micheme: Great post, very moving. Happy birthday to your princess.

RUDisney and Brandie: Well, it's probably partially our fault because we're bad luck. Usually, when we go on vacation, some disaster happens somewhere nearby, so we have a complex.

 

[scarlett873]

Micheme: Great post, very moving. Happy birthday to your princess.

RUDisney and Brandie: Well, it's probably partially our fault because we're bad luck. Usually, when we go on vacation, some disaster happens somewhere nearby, so we have a complex.

 

[RUDisney]

RUDisney and Brandie: Well, it's probably partially our fault because we're bad luck. Usually, when we go on vacation, some disaster happens somewhere nearby, so we have a complex.

In that case, we're planning a birthday trip for our DD next month. Can we count on you to stay home?

Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure you're not walking around with a dark cloud over your head. It just seems that way sometimes.

 

[skoi]

In that case, we're planning a birthday trip for our DD next month. Can we count on you to stay home?

Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure you're not walking around with a dark cloud over your head. It just seems that way sometimes.

Definitely! We usually travel in September, which seems to be the month of hurricanes and terrorist attacks. Though we did travel to Italy one spring when there were anti-American riots (involving a court case where a Marine pilot had hit a gondola, but was acquitted of murder), and then there was our trip to Los Alamos, NM area and a few days before we traveled there was a horrible wildfire that burned down half the town, including the house next door to my in-laws....

However- our last few trips have been disaster free! I think Madalyn is good luck.

 

[kdibattista]

Hi everyone...

I'm so sorry I have been MIA. It has been quite a month. My husband had a lot of issues with travel to Kaz. That coupled with other reasons left us not sure what to do. We decided to take a break to regroup.

Fast forward to today... a few hours ago... I'm pregnant according to 2 pregnancy tests. I have so many mixed emotions that I'm not sure what to do with them. I was hesitant posting this because I don't want to be insensitive to those who suffer with infertility. We never pursued fertility treatments because we knew we were meant to adopt. Our chances to conceive were slim but there was a possibility. We figured if it happened we would welcome the extra blessing and we are. We are thrilled. We are still going to proceed with China although I have to see how this would come into play. I know that we could have this baby and still be ready to go to China with how long that process takes but I'm not sure we are allowed to submit anything while pregnant.

So, anyway... sorry if I'm rambling... I'm still in shock

 

[Tink561]

Hi everyone...

I'm so sorry I have been MIA. It has been quite a month. My husband had a lot of issues with travel to Kaz. That coupled with other reasons left us not sure what to do. We decided to take a break to regroup.

Fast forward to today... a few hours ago... I'm pregnant according to 2 pregnancy tests. I have so many mixed emotions that I'm not sure what to do with them. I was hesitant posting this because I don't want to be insensitive to those who suffer with infertility. We never pursued fertility treatments because we knew we were meant to adopt. Our chances to conceive were slim but there was a possibility. We figured if it happened we would welcome the extra blessing and we are. We are thrilled. We are still going to proceed with China although I have to see how this would come into play. I know that we could have this baby and still be ready to go to China with how long that process takes but I'm not sure we are allowed to submit anything while pregnant.

So, anyway... sorry if I'm rambling... I'm still in shock

Check with several agencies. Some will allow you to proceed being pregnant and some won't. It is NOT a China rule to make you wait, it is agency specific.

Congratulations!

 

[PhotobearSam]

Congratulations. I was a surprise after my parents adopted my brother...It's going to be great.

 

[belle&beast]

Congratulations! I have a family member who adopted from China while she was pregnant. They had gone through lots of failed fertility and domestic adoptions before they attempted to adopt from China. They decided to try one more time during their adoption process, and she had twins. However she did not travel to China and I am not sure if it was health related or China's rules.

I am not sure how far you are in your paperwork process, but it seems that it is taking a long time to bring these little girls home, so maybe you would still be ok. My friend is waiting for her little girl and her LID is November 11, 2005. When she started the process they were told it would be about 9 months, so it is considerably longer than they ever imagined. Good luck in whatever you decide, and again, congratulations!

 

[Tink&SquirtsMom]

Congratulations Kim,

I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy.