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I have the common secondary fertility. We have a son who is 7 now. We have miscarried four children, last being 2003 when we were 16 weeks pregnant.
I'm having a TAH/BSO April 10th and we are looking to find an agency by summer. Any help would be so greatly appreciated. Thanks all
 
ky34disney said:
I have the common secondary fertility. We have a son who is 7 now. We have miscarried four children, last being 2003 when we were 16 weeks pregnant.
I'm having a TAH/BSO April 10th and we are looking to find an agency by summer. Any help would be so greatly appreciated. Thanks all

Welcome to the DIS and welcome to our thread :goodvibes

You will find tons of support and info on this thread. Are you planning international or domestic?
 
Welcome to our group and to the DIS!

Kim, the title of her post says that she's looking for a domestic recommendation.
 
I received a couple of emails from a friend of mine who is in Guatemala now looking into some orphanages as the agency we used is going to start assisting with Guatemalan adoptions. The conditions there sound horrible.

Her first email:

Departing Philadelphia several hours late and missing our connection in Houston to Guatemala City we had the pleasure of the Houston Sleep Inn. Sleep in we did not. On to the Houston Hobby airport at 7 AM. Finally arriving in Guatemala City at 1:30 PM today. My first impression of the airport area reminded me of a very brief visit I had in 1966 as a small child to the Little Havana area of Miami. I then realized this was one of the better areas of the city. With 5 large 50 pound suitcases filled with donations for the orphanages we made our way outside only to be accosted by more men eager to help with bags, a double amputee selling dollar store fare and children no older than 5 years begging for money. In a sea of many people we are one of only a few sought out by the locals. This was a bizarre experience.

Finally locating our driver, disappointed to realize he speaks no English we are on the way to the taxi. [ many, many single US dollars later] We have the good fortune to find someone speaking both languages well and offer this driver the address of orphanage stop # 1.

Casa Guatemala, locked doors, prison bars all around we ring the bell. We are greeted by a lovely young physician from London. Ali is our translator as we meet our next medical visa children.

Carla, a girl of 12 has terribly clubbed feet. It is unbelievable just to see her walk. Carla runs up and begins to hug us all.

A young man waits as well. He is 20 or so years old. A normal teenager in secondary school until 1 year ago when he rapidly lost his sight. He now see only a ray of light. On to the baby room. Of course I am very excited. 12 beautiful babies. Most with chubby legs and happy in this start bare room filled with nothing but a dozen metal cribs with paper thin crib sheets. I asked the greatest need for the babies. Aside from just about everything they need real diapers. These little brown babies are wearing torn tattered bed sheets for diapers. The babies are clean and well care for despite this third world poverty. Out comes my bag of tricks. The toddlers are like little bugs buzzing around me. Each child receives a new toothbrush and a Mickey Mouse baseball cap, it feels like Christmas and I am the sweaty Santa! More to tell tomorrow.
 

My friend's second email from Guatemala:

Day 2, So many children, babies as small as a newborn, children as old as high school.

Today we began at Hogar Rafael Ayau. This orphanage is owned and run by a group of Orthodox nuns dressed like Muslims. The all black habit has a hood like headdress that has only a hole for the face. A great thought for women over age 50 in need a a neck lift. Madre Ivone was an honest, funny and practical woman very devoted to the 90 some children living at the Hogar. [Hogar meaning "Hearth or heart of the home"] A stop at the baby room began with a hand scrubbing and mandatory white labcoat to protect the babies from germs. In this massive setting [the orphanage is a full city block long] someone is mopping or sweeping at all times. As we walked past the placard there is a fenced area looking like some place at Home Depot where stacks of beautiful tile is waiting for sale. A local company allows the sisters to sell the irregular tiles to help support the orphanage. Now that I am thinking of this it should have looked odd to me but this morning I never took any notice.

Bill (her DH) was busy taking pictures. Later a small girl was calling him Chuckee Cheese! It took a few minutes for us to realize she was only repeating what he has said "say cheese"

On to another orphanage. This building is another block long in a questionable area of town where all officers are guarding small scary looking merchandise stands with sawed off shot guns. I suppose this has all but eliminated the problem of shoplifting! We ring the bell at what could best be called the door to the fort. Bar windows all around to include the second floor. Fenced by a 12 or so foot fence with layers of barbed wire. These folks mean business when the secure the area. Grilled by the board of directors for a long time about our intentions we come to a mutual understanding. We will allow them to approve the family before they will match a child with our client.

Now I am finally allowed to play with babies! Cribs built into the wall like wood fish tanks there is a whole room of infants. On to the toddler room where another dozen toddlers all napping at the same time. Back in the car with Raul, Bill riding shot gun giving directions in Spanglish, Raul nodding all along not knowing one word of English. We finally find the word for MALL. this was not easy. Once in the mall we understand we are out of our price range. Now to add to the humor of all of this the streets have an active " Protesta" a nice word for riot going on. Tires have been set on fire to upset the flow of traffic. No problem for these folks Raul drives on the sidewalk. This is when I decide that in Guatemala "anything goes."

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She sent some pictures that I won't post so as not to jeopardize anything. Please understand that these kids are beautiful! They are clean and look healthy.

I hope that the agency can get this off the ground so Tatiana can start helping families bring these Guatemalan children home, too.
 
ky34disney said:
I have the common secondary fertility. We have a son who is 7 now. We have miscarried four children, last being 2003 when we were 16 weeks pregnant.
I'm having a TAH/BSO April 10th and we are looking to find an agency by summer. Any help would be so greatly appreciated. Thanks all
Hi! :wave2: We adopted domestically and absolutely loved our agency, but we are in Colorado. Personally, I prefer to deal with an agency in my own area. When you adopt in another state, you have two states' laws to deal with (and they can be quite different), travel, finding an agency near your home to do the homestudy, anyway...

So, sorry, I know nothing of any agencies in Kentucky, but here's how we found ours:

Went to the National Adoption Information Clearinghouse and searched for licensed agencies within my state. Then, narrowed it down to agencies near our home. Then, we came up with a list of questions that were important to us, and got on the phone. We narrowed it down to two very quickly from there. With those two, we visited their offices. One had an information night once a month or so, where we were there with several other couples and they explained everything about how the process works with them. The other did the same thing individually. We chose the one whose philosophy matched our own, and away we went!

Good luck, and feel free to ask any questions.
 
Kim-

We didn't use an IA doctor with our referral for Madalyn. We knew she had health issues, and had a good understanding of them. We're not sure if we're getting a referral for Kazakhstan or if we're going to travel blind. The clinic at Children's is supposed to be good.

Julie
 
RUDisney-

Thanks for the info. We're considering Guatemala along with Kazakhstan, mainly because we have three kids at home, I homeschool, and our newest daughter has only been with us 2 and half months, I'm going back to school, and can't really leave all that for 3+ weeks.

If you have any further updates from your friend, please let me know. Also- could you share the pictures privately? You can email or pm me. We're looking at one hogar that's outside of Guat. City- waiting to hear back from them. The agency we were considering for Kaz has told us we could get an older boy from Guatemala.

We're seriously praying and thinking hard about where we should go. I wish we could adopt an entire horde of kids! Maybe if we hit the powerball...

Julie
 
I'm VERY happy to finally announce that after a 2 year adoption process, I've finally brought my two daugthers home! The wait was very hard but it's all worth it!
 
Sandy22 said:
I'm VERY happy to finally annouce that after a 2 year adoption process, I've finally brought my two daugthers home! The wait was very hard but it's all worth it!

party: Congrats!!!! That's wonderful... and such an inspiration to those of us still in the process. party:

Post pics when you can!!! :goodvibes
 
Sandy22 said:
I'm VERY happy to finally annouce that after a 2 year adoption process, I've finally brought my two daugthers home! The wait was very hard but it's all worth it!

Congrats Sandy!! It's about time!! :cheer2: :yay:
 
Sandy22 said:
I'm VERY happy to finally announce that after a 2 year adoption process, I've finally brought my two daugthers home! The wait was very hard but it's all worth it!

HOORAY!!!! :banana: :banana: :banana:

I'm soooo happy for you!! How has the transition been?!
 
Congratulations on reaching the finishing line! I hope your daughters bring you nothing but happiness! I'd also like to see their pictures!
 
Sandy22 said:
I'm VERY happy to finally announce that after a 2 year adoption process, I've finally brought my two daugthers home! The wait was very hard but it's all worth it!


Sandy! How wonderful! I have never opened this thread before and I guess I was supposed to today so that I could see your good news!

Best of luck and congrats!
 
Sandy22 said:
I'm VERY happy to finally announce that after a 2 year adoption process, I've finally brought my two daugthers home! The wait was very hard but it's all worth it!
Congratulations! :jumping1: :jumping1:
I'm so happy for you! :goodvibes :banana: :banana: :banana:
 
Congratulations Sandy!!!

My DH & I are not adopting, but I wanted to join this thread as I am an adopted child. :teeth: Adopted children are special ~ we were CHOSEN! :thumbsup2

No, I'm not an "international" adoption. And I'm now a 34 year old mother of 2 who is very very grateful to *both* of my mothers ~ the one who chose to give birth & the one who chose to be my MOM.

I wish all of you the very very best with your new families :grouphug:
I hope to read the entire thread soon.......
 
Sandy22 said:
I'm VERY happy to finally announce that after a 2 year adoption process, I've finally brought my two daugthers home! The wait was very hard but it's all worth it!


Congratulations Sandy! Two years is a long time. It should make us all feel lucky! (Except happybratpack who should have been to China and back with us except BCIS was soooo sloooowww)

Julie
 
Congratulations Sandy! How wonderful! :sunny:

As an adoptive parent myself, I get so excited so see happy families united!
 





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