We used WHFC (loved them) and have heard nothing but really great things about AAI. Of course ethical is most important (by far) but I still hope the wait goes by quickly for you guys. We were told 18 months from start to finish last year and it was just six total for us (makes a big difference that we were waiting for a toddler). He's been home since July and is such a joy. We're celebrating his 3rd birthday this month.Congratulations Jenn!!! So happy to see another Ethiopian adoptive family here.
Hi all. I break down in tears every time I see this thread pop up on the first page. I try so hard not to look at this thread but temptation always wins.
I am a birthmom twice. The first one I placed is now 21( she is listed in my sig)she came back to live with me at 16(long story). My other DD that I placed is 15. Although I have contact with her family I try to keep a further distance because she is so happy and content with her parents.
I need to tell y'all though, even though it has been so long the hurt never goes away. I love each of my daughters and placed them for adoption because I love them and I wanted what was best for them. I won't lie and say I think about them every day but I do think about them often. The hurt is overwhelming sometimes and certain things do trigger it....like this thread. I am not putting this thread down or complaining...please don't get me wrong. I'm so happy for each and every one of you. But I am going to ask too, that you please keep birthparents in your prayers. We are not bad people, we truly love our children, and the hurt is undescribable. It helps to talk about it, but there are also a lot of people who automatically think we are bad people for what we did. They don't realize that we made the most unselfish decision a person could ever make. We are often judged harshly and often times by adoptive parents. It's often hard to find someone who can listen when we need to talk. So please, pray for a birthmom today.
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Hi all. I break down in tears every time I see this thread pop up on the first page. I try so hard not to look at this thread but temptation always wins.
I am a birthmom twice. The first one I placed is now 21( she is listed in my sig)she came back to live with me at 16(long story). My other DD that I placed is 15. Although I have contact with her family I try to keep a further distance because she is so happy and content with her parents.
I need to tell y'all though, even though it has been so long the hurt never goes away. I love each of my daughters and placed them for adoption because I love them and I wanted what was best for them. I won't lie and say I think about them every day but I do think about them often. The hurt is overwhelming sometimes and certain things do trigger it....like this thread. I am not putting this thread down or complaining...please don't get me wrong. I'm so happy for each and every one of you. But I am going to ask too, that you please keep birthparents in your prayers. We are not bad people, we truly love our children, and the hurt is undescribable. It helps to talk about it, but there are also a lot of people who automatically think we are bad people for what we did. They don't realize that we made the most unselfish decision a person could ever make. We are often judged harshly and often times by adoptive parents. It's often hard to find someone who can listen when we need to talk. So please, pray for a birthmom today.
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as he will turn 13 next week and knows far more than I ever possibly could. I want them to know that they are safe and happy. They'd love to go back to Russia some day to see their other siblings who may still be there and to see their birth parents.
Amen! I wholeheartedly agree! We don't even know who our daughter will be, but I am already grateful to her mother for her sacrifice. Her sacrifice is giving me the most precious gift anyone can give. My heart breaks for her now because, most likely, she has not yet gotten pregnant and not had to make that decision. She's going to go through something that I could never even imagine...so as RUDisney said up there...anyone who thinks badly of birthparents are dunderheads! Until you've lived it, you don't know...Everyone who has an adopted child is indebted to the birth parents. Without you, we'd not be parents, Mselly13.
You made the conscious decision to give your children a life that you could not provide at that time. My kids birthparents had them taken from them because they couldn't give up vodka to take proper care of their kids. To date, they have had 9 children, that I know of, taken from their home. I often wonder how often they think about these children. If they pray for them.
We pray that they can break free from their alcoholic ways, but, there is little AA in Russia, if any. The chances of this are slim. I hope that there is something that tugs at their hearts sometimes that lets them know that the two children we have are smart, beautiful, truly good children, even though Ivan challenges me to believe this sometimes
Anyone who would believe that your decision was anything more than loving and brave is a complete dunderhead.
She's never really spoken about what happened...and I don't blame her. She does have 2 beautiful children though!!! I LOVE reading her blog! Oh...and she's expecting a little miracle too...she just announced it on her blog!
Amen! I wholeheartedly agree! We don't even know who our daughter will be, but I am already grateful to her mother for her sacrifice. Her sacrifice is giving me the most precious gift anyone can give. My heart breaks for her now because, most likely, she has not yet gotten pregnant and not had to make that decision. She's going to go through something that I could never even imagine...so as RUDisney said up there...anyone who thinks badly of birthparents are dunderheads! Until you've lived it, you don't know...
I'm so happy to hear that Madeline is home and doing so well! I thought of you guys when we saw something on one of those news shows (Dateline or 20/20 or something like that) about Guatemalan adoptions right around the new year. It completely broke my heart and I prayed that you weren't affected by any of those horrible people. I know of another family in the blog world who had a very negative experience with their Guat adoption. They did successfully adopt their son, but lost a potential daughter.
Anyway...RUDisney, I can't believe that Ivan is about to turn 13! I remember their pictures that you had in your signature when I first found the DIS! Those kids can't possibly be aging!!
She was with the same agency as I - what happened was absolutely horrible. Hi all. I break down in tears every time I see this thread pop up on the first page. I try so hard not to look at this thread but temptation always wins.
I am a birthmom twice. The first one I placed is now 21( she is listed in my sig)she came back to live with me at 16(long story). My other DD that I placed is 15. Although I have contact with her family I try to keep a further distance because she is so happy and content with her parents.
I need to tell y'all though, even though it has been so long the hurt never goes away. I love each of my daughters and placed them for adoption because I love them and I wanted what was best for them. I won't lie and say I think about them every day but I do think about them often. The hurt is overwhelming sometimes and certain things do trigger it....like this thread. I am not putting this thread down or complaining...please don't get me wrong. I'm so happy for each and every one of you. But I am going to ask too, that you please keep birthparents in your prayers. We are not bad people, we truly love our children, and the hurt is undescribable. It helps to talk about it, but there are also a lot of people who automatically think we are bad people for what we did. They don't realize that we made the most unselfish decision a person could ever make. We are often judged harshly and often times by adoptive parents. It's often hard to find someone who can listen when we need to talk. So please, pray for a birthmom today.
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Whenever I think of my future daughter's birth mother I cry. The courage and immense love of birth moms is immeasurable! I pray for my future daughter's birth mother every day.At least DH and I aren't getting any older. Ivan is taller than me now. That was his goal. Now, he's aiming at being taller than his Dad.Anyway...RUDisney, I can't believe that Ivan is about to turn 13! I remember their pictures that you had in your signature when I first found the DIS! Those kids can't possibly be aging!!
....TIA
Hi all. I break down in tears every time I see this thread pop up on the first page. I try so hard not to look at this thread but temptation always wins.
I am a birthmom twice. The first one I placed is now 21( she is listed in my sig)she came back to live with me at 16(long story). My other DD that I placed is 15. Although I have contact with her family I try to keep a further distance because she is so happy and content with her parents.
I need to tell y'all though, even though it has been so long the hurt never goes away. I love each of my daughters and placed them for adoption because I love them and I wanted what was best for them. I won't lie and say I think about them every day but I do think about them often. The hurt is overwhelming sometimes and certain things do trigger it....like this thread. I am not putting this thread down or complaining...please don't get me wrong. I'm so happy for each and every one of you. But I am going to ask too, that you please keep birthparents in your prayers. We are not bad people, we truly love our children, and the hurt is undescribable. It helps to talk about it, but there are also a lot of people who automatically think we are bad people for what we did. They don't realize that we made the most unselfish decision a person could ever make. We are often judged harshly and often times by adoptive parents. It's often hard to find someone who can listen when we need to talk. So please, pray for a birthmom today.
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I'm so happy for you!
