Admit it, you've been that rude guest!

Why do people use being from New York or any other northeastern state as an excuse for acting rudely? I've lived in NY my whole life, as well as went to college in Arkansas.. I've seen rude and I've seen polite on both ends of the country. Bad manners are bad manners and they can be learned no matter where you live.
 
How do you the moms in the familiar you observed were SAHMs?

My sister had and her 16 year old daughter had a bathroom moment during their first trip 11 years ago. The 16 year old still remembers it. This year when her younger sister and brother(10&8)started working my sister and BIL's nerves, she would tell them" Trust me, you better get it together before she takes you to the bathroom"LOL

While I am not for certain all of them were SAHM's I know quite a few have been. My DW and I like to have conversations with random people while in lines, eating dinner, etc.. We have spoken to a lot of interesting people from all around the world at WDW. :) One of the mom's was in line in front of us for a ride with a little boy that was having a well timed "mutiny" (we were waiting to get on Pirates of the Caribbean) and she turned and looked at my DW and said "Isn't this so magical". :) She was very nice and my DW happens to be a BCBA (Board Certified Behavior Analyst) which the nice lady talked to my wife until it was time to board the ride about ways to help with "episodes" as she called them. After the ride we saw the same woman, child and her husband along with an infant child in the gift shop and the little boy was calm and playing with some of the toy guns. His mother came and chatted for about 10 minutes and then we were off.

That's just one of the many stories I could tell but don't want to hijack the thread. :)
 

This goes back to taking personal responsibility. People who have staked out spots ahead of time, shouldn't be forced to move to accommodate those who waited until the last minute to exit.

I am confused :headache: Are you saying that people should be trapped until the show is over because you don't want to move? I can't imagine that is what you are trying to convey but that is how I read it. I don't want to assume that you would mean that because it's kind of insane that people - sick people, people with kids, people with anger issues, people with other plans, people who saw the show, people who just want to LEAVE should be stuck until the show is over because you don't want to move. I'm sure I misunderstood but if you could clarify that would be great.:hyper2:
 
The time I pull on my big-girl-rude pants is with line jumpers. Now I'm not talking about mom and toddler for potty break, but 5 or 6 or more teenyboppers pushing their way through. I take up as much space as my formidable chassis allows and don't let them pass. I also like to say loudly "now if you get permission from every single person in line I'll let you pass".
 
We went in January over Martin Luther King Day weekend...the parks were so crowded lines were 45 min+ for everything....with no fast passes available (my last spontaneous trip EVER!!!lol). About 20 min into a line for something (don't remember what) my 4 yo had to use the bathroom.....I told my husband to take him and stay out until I called him. I waited until we were about to go into the building, called them, and they got back in line and the world marched on=)

That doesn't bother me. I know kids that age do not have bladder control. It's understandable.

A similar story. We were in line for the Ollivander's wand show at Universal. this was in OCT 2010 so HP world was still pretty new. The line was outside the building and the wait was LONG over 45 minutes... maybe an hour. It was a hot, sunny day and there was no shade. Someone from the party in front is us, sent a member of the family out of line to get a bottle of water. As he came back through the line, ducking under ropes as went, many people (including my MIL!) made snarky comments. It didn't bother bc it made no difference in how long we waited in line. In fact, I think a few other families sent ppl for water after that!
 
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I admit, I'm that guest who passes gas in a queue that has no ventilation at all especially when someone's child is bumping into me or stepping on my toes while their parents are oblivious doing something else. :rolleyes1

OK, where'd that thread about things you'd like to ban go? No cropdusting in the queues!:P
 
I don't know that I'd say it's a phrase used 'for ugly purposes', considering most people use it to put an end to a confrontation. They say it, smile sweetly, and walk away. No more conflict! It can be a tad passive aggressive at times, but real ugliness would be cursing, refusing to quit an argument, fighting, etc... A proper Southern lady is never ugly. :)

Haven't read the whole thread, so maybe someone already mentioned this, but the whole "bless your heart" thing is expressed perfectly by Miranda Lambert for us C&W fans - love that song :)
"Well I've been saved by the grace of Southern charm...I got a mouth like a sailor and yours is more like a Hallmark card,
And if you wanna pick a fight, Well I'm gonna have to say goodnight. I don't have to be hateful, I can just say bless your heart"
 
I have actually had testy moments with cast members where I behaved badly & probably could have been nicer on.

Last trip I took to WDW with my son and his grandparents, I had two separate bad experiences with character "handlers" in photopass lines where I probably was a jerk. Let me preface by saying, yes I know these lines are on a schedule and have set times in are in the daily schedule. I honestly really don't follow these too closely, I like to just find what I can find in the parks- I prefer to ride the attractions more than anything, but if my kid sees a character he really wants a pic with, and the line isn't physically blocked off and doesn't lookhorrendous, I'll go for it.

So, all that said, The first incident was us literally just walking in the front door of Hollywood studios- and right away in the entranceway there is a reasonable looking line with Goofy taking photos straight away. Our family and another who entered right before us get in the line at the same (other family is immediately in front of us). Within 20 seconds here comes the handler who gets right in my face (and not the people in front of me)- "Excuuuuuse me! This line is closed!". I was just like of like "um, ok, didn't know, just got here", and the handler was like "well, you should look at the schedule next time, goofy's scheduled time was 9:30 to 10am, and I guess this was about 10:02 when I got in line. I was like "well what about them?" referring to those who got in front of me at the exact same time, and the handler just asked them if we were "with them" and they said no, and insisted I leave while they could stay. At this point I pretty much gave this dude my "death look staredown of doom" as I slowly walked away. Didn't say anything or yell, but I wanted to.

In hindsight, obviously this cast member was just doing his job, he has to cut off the line at some point, and he doesn't know one group from another. Probably should have just said "My bad" and moved on, but having this be the first experience walking into a park just kind of rubbed me the wrong way.

Later on in the same trip, we were at Magic Kingdom in the new Fantasyland, there was Gaston taking pictures out in front of his tavern- get in his line- the same thing happens, i'm told by this handler lady the line is closed after hopping in. This time I'm like "ok no problem" and leave the line. However, Gaston was being particularly funny in his unique Gaston way and I wanted to just observe his antics for a minute.

So I'm standing probably 20 feet away off to the side, far from the line, no where near the picture takers, Gaston or interfering with anyone, just watching, and not ten seconds pass where the same handler lady is at me saying "excuse me, you need to move on". I was honestly dumbfounded, I gave her a "really?" look and just decided in my head "whatever, I'm watching Gaston for a minute." She proceeded to just hover and insist I move on while I kind of just pretended to not hear her. I don't know, maybe I was out of line, but no one would mistake me for a line jumper or someone trying to mob the character, I kept my distance. I wasn't blocking any paths or anything like that. I think my paid ticket allowed me the right to observe Gaston for a minute. I know some of you will probably slam me as being entitled, but I honestly felt like that lady was just abusing her power and decided to herself that in no way was I going to get to see Gaston since I dared to enter her line after she closed and potentially delayed her smoke break or something.

So, yeah, there you have it. I griefed the photopass people a little bit, probably should have just moved on in both cases. But at least I didn't yell or scream at anybody :)

I think the cast members were the rude ones in both of these scenarios! In the case of the Goofy handler, placing blame on the guest for not checking the schedule (and expecting the guest to know the line is closed without having been told so) isn't appropriate. That would've rubbed me the wrong way too! A simple, "I'm sorry, the line is closed for now but Goofy will be back at x time," would've been a much better response from the CM. And in the second scenario, you'd clearly left the line! There was no reason for the CM to approach you again unless you tried to reenter the line.
 
A reminder when you want to leave during Fireworks and Parades - stores. You can walk from Casey's through the Emporium inside, and have A/C to boot!
 
Guess it's true confession time. We've had many, many (lost track at 50) trips to the World and has been our "happy" place. Recently, however, we have noticed a growing trend where CM's are instructed (prior to fireworks, usually) to tell the crowd to "move forward" or "crowd together" to make room for more people. For whatever reason this "cattle mentality" just seems so un-Disney like and, much to to the chagrin of my spouse I refuse to move! I've staked out my spot for the fireworks and I see no reason to move. I have even begun to encourage those around me to "stand their ground".
Yes, I know yaw'll think I'm nuts...and, honest, I'm a pleasant person the rest of the trip ( except for witnessing child abuse...won't tolerate that) but Disney seems to increasing the number of bodies allowed in the parks and there are times we actually feel overwhelmed. We have cut down on he number of trips we take now. So I guess I have become that rude guest... Wonder what Walt would think?

Ha! This happened the last time I was at the Candlelight Processional! Everybody who had, like us, purchased the Dining Package and gotten guaranteed seating, had FINALLY been seated. A CM came to the front with a microphone and told us all to move in and bunch together so the people waiting standby could sit together instead of having to fill in the gaps in the rows. A bunch of people in the audience called out that that would mean moving behind pillars, and why should we who had paid extra for seats give up good ones to people who hadn't? She started getting huffy and said "WE need to make room and let everybody in!" People called back out, "Let them in! They can sit behind the pillars!"

Finally, that's just what they did.
 
I have to say, I can't remember ever being truly rude or out of line. Of course I have been cranky and such but never to the point of getting snippy with anyone or acting in such a way I regretted it later.

I would think my biggest "rudeness" fault would be possibly accidentally cutting off a slow walker. We tend to walk pretty fast, and I just can't deal with people who stroll along, oblivious to anyone around them, and usually forming a nice big roadblock so no one can pass. When I go around them I always look over my shoulder to make sure I'm not cutting anyone off but of course sometimes it does happen, and I apologize and go on my way. It may sound mean but if your group is going to go at the pace of a sloth, please move to the right and let people pass, or don't get upset when they cut around you!

At Disney, like in daily life, I just try to remember things don't always go how you want it (like getting a specific room view) and people aren't always nice and cheery, some are just miserable fuddy duddies. If I get a room overlooking the parking lot or perhaps a maintenance shed...oh well. I'm not going to be sitting in my room gazing out my window - I have Disney to do! I try not to let that get to me and get me worked up, especially on vacation. Of course I get annoyed at line jumpers and impolite people and the like, but if it's something that goes against rules or what have you, I'd rather not be that rude guest myself and instead talk to a CM about it and see if they can help the situation.
 
I did, but being a seasoned Pirates water toucher, I know the exact spot to do it safely while satisfying my OCD.

Okay maybe this was rude on my part...on NYE I firmly told a child behind me on IASW he shouldn't put his whole hand or even fingers in the water because he could get really hurt (I spared the gory POTC details, he was young!). However, his mom had been scolding him the whole ride for it, and besides not wanting to get stuck on that AGAIN after being stuck on it for 1.5+ hours as a child (it's as horrible as you would imagine), I thought his mom might enjoy some backup from a stranger. It was also annoying to have to hear her yell at him the whole time, so yes I was a bit annoyed in my own right and it reflected in my tone. I generally NEVER correct someone else or their kids unless it's clear they're about to get very injured. However, after they got off she approached me when he went up to his dad and actually thanked me for it! She said he had been refusing to listen all day but seemed embarrassed a stranger also told him to behave, though I didn't actually say that, just warned him. As soon as I did he pulled his fingers out of the water and was quiet the short rest of the ride!

I always have the urge to touch the water but have never been brave enough. I'm also betting I'm the one who gets caught and scolded by a CM over the PA system!! I would just be mortified hahaha but that's my own anxiety talking there. I'm sure as a kid I did it!
 
Oh and with the "everyone move closer" forget it. We were at LMA at HS and it was a hotter-than-hades type day. We climbed up the far left bleachers and found our seats (end of the row to get air flow!) and they keep packing people in! I wasn't going to "slide" over and relinquish my end spot (I stood and let other people sit in the center of the hot, sweaty hoard. And under no circumstances am I going thigh-to-thigh with a hot, sweaty, stinky stranger. Thanks but no. rude or sensible?
 
I must live under a rock b/c I didn't know about the "bless your heart" thing. Thats funny. I thought it was just a saying.

I was rude to a CM by accident two years ago. We had eaten on the ddp at Kona but were paying out of pocket for DD's meal (she was only 2) and my husband's drink. It was busy and our server seemed rushed. We had MBs in the test phase and he scanned it for the meal credits and I "thought" to charge the OOP stuff to the credit card on the account. We left cash for the tip. It wasn't until we were home that I realized my credit card had never been charged by Kona Cafe. What we left as a tip would have covered her noodles and his beer, but would have left him with a poor amount left over. I contacted Guest Services attempting to get them to help me to fix it, I even remembered his name. But they said they would make a note of his excellent service but couldn't do anything about the tip. I still feel really bad about it. I like to unplug on vacation and I refuse to check email, go on the internet, etc. Maybe now I need to reevaluate that. If we had still been onsite when I saw the error, maybe we could have done something.
 



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