Actually, I win the "Badwife" award, and it has nothing to do with SI

[MScott1851]

I officially declare myself the baddest "badwife" ever. Or should I declare my husband the WORST ever? You decide:

1. We agree that we are NOT exchanging Christmas presents. We are building a house, and all extra money should go towards that. We are taking a weekend trip soon, and agree that that trip is our present to each other. So, I get home from work on Christmas morning, smooch him, and climb into bed. Well, when I get up that afternoon, he has me about $500 worth of presents, while I stand there holding a box of Nestle Treasures and a card for him. Badwife #1.

2. We agree that we are NOT exhanging Valentines's presents, We close on the house next month and are having to PAY taxes, so all extra money should go towards that. We do, however, have a big night planned for Saturday night. I have a new dress, new shoes, and new lingerie planned. Thursday night, my mom is put in the hospital, so I go home and stay up most of two days with her. I drive back to Memphis late Saturday afternoon, and plan on taking a little catnap, then getting up to go get Clint at least a card before we go out. I wake up still in my blue jeans on Sunday morning at 4am. He ended up renting a movie and ordering pizza by himself Saturday night while I slept. I of course, didn't make it out to get him a card, but I had chocolates, roses, and a movie I wanted on the kitchen table. He said he knew I was tired, and needed to sleep since I had to work on Sunday, so he cut my alarm off and let me rest.

So am I really that bad of a wife? Or can he shoulder some of the blame? I am feeling particularly down about this right now.

 

[CEDmom]

Ok, you win . Seriously, I wouldn't worry about it and you can still make it up to him. Think about how surprised your DH will be to come home from work one night in the near future with his favorite dinner waiting for him and you dressed to the nines . Valentines Day can be so stressful for people because of all the expectations. Here's your chance for a great surprise .

 

[Chattyaholic]

I don't think you're a bad wife at all, and your DH definitely sounds like a "keeper!"

 

[Keli]

You are not a bad wife and your dh sounds like a great guy. But I would plan something really special for him because he certainly deserves it. A special evening or weekend or even get him tickets to see a favorite team, just anything you think he'd really enjoy.

 

[Serena]

Oh yes, your hubby does deserve a treat and I'm sure he would love for you to make it up to him. Plan something special, a night out, tickets to something, his favorite dinner, and you.

 

[Kimickey]

You are not a bad wife at all. I think DH is a wonderful guy and totally understood how are you were feeling Saturday night. Somtimes our body does things that our mind wants us to do other things. Your body needed sleep so that is what it did. You did not blow DH off, so do not feel bad. I would just try again this weekend to go out if time permits.

 

[wilderness01]

Valentine's Day=Hallmark Holiday in my opinion.

It means more to me when I get flowers "just because" on any given day and not just because my husband feels like he has to because of a "love" holiday. Blah!
I have read your trip reports and you sound like a good wife with a good marriage. Hope your mom is doing better. Don't be so hard on yourself.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

Your husband is a wonderful man and you are a caring daughter. You both are lucky to have one another.

Lori