? about teacher's comment to dd???

[we3disneygo]

dd 11 left school on Monday with a sore throat and cold. she is a figure skater and at our rink Oksana Baiul was coming to promote the ice wars show, I went ahead and took her to the rink, she was the first in line for autograph and pic. a reporter from the paper saw she was the first in line and interviewed us........next day article in paper........yup....all about dd11 , etc. yesterday her school raked leaves in the neighborhood(it's a private Christian school) a teacher made a few comments to her while i was standing there.....oh you left school but meet Oksana......he said it a couple times I thought his comments were outa line if he had something to say he should have said something to me in private when other classmates weren't around. what do you think?????? should I talk to the principal? or wait and see how he treats her in his class? thanks for advice.

 

[DisTeach1]

I would let it go. I actually don't think he was out of line. I actually agree with him, in a way. So, she was sick and couldn't stay in school, but was able to stand in line, in cool fall weather for an autograph? I'm a teacher, and this would make me shake my head.

 

[poohbear1029]

Adults can say stupid things to kids!! When I was a girl scout about 25 years ago, we were collecting the pop-tops of soda cans for dialysis. Well I forgot mine at that meeting and the leader said, "At least its not your kidneys"

About the same age my 3rd grade teacher was watching ALL of us slide down an icy hill. Well, I hit my head and then another kid landed on my head. I went to her dazed and that's when she said to me, "That's what you get". Well, you're the teacher, if you didnt want us to be doing that, you have the authority to stop us!! Turned out I had to leave school early because I had a concussion.

It is unfortunate your child got caught doing something "fun" on a sick day, but if the teacher had a concern about it, she should have called you or asked the child about it more discretely.

 

[NMAmy]

I also don't think he was out of line. This is just at my house but if you're too sick to go to school, you're too sick to do anything else. Particularly since your dd showed up in the newspaper, I can understand him saying something to her about it.

Kind of like calling in sick to work and then being caught on video catching a ball at the big baseball game.

 

[Marseeya]

She's 11 and I think she can handle comments like that. It's none of his business anyway.

 

[Twinkles6892]

I think it's none of his business what she does outside of school.

 

[mickeyboat]

Don't take this as a flame, because it is not meant as a personal attack, but I can see why the teacher may have said something to your DD. Not that it was right, but maybe understandable.

If my kids ever call to come home from school, they will go home and rest, they won't be allowed to play. If I were you, I would have probably told DD that if she came home from school, she would not be allowed to go to see Oksana.

The teacher has the impression that your DD, with your help, feigned being sick so that she could leave early to be first in line to see Oksana. That is behavior that he does not want to encourage from your daughter or the rest of the class.

Denae

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Oops, busted....

I would tell your DD that they took a risk going that they would be spotted and they were big time. I know that she didn't leave school early to go to the rink and seeing the skater was already planned (and I can't blame you for going), but I also don't see something terrible with the comment.

 

[allie&mattsmom]

I really don't feel he was out of line. He is her teacher. That would be majorly frowned upon at our school. My 8 y/o DS came home sick Tuesday with a stomach ache, by the evening he was fine. He had a basketball game that evening, but even though he felt better, and DH is the coach of the team, he was not allowed to play. My husband went and coached & Matt stayed home. We just feel if you come home/stay home from school, then no activities, etc.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

I do think it was uncalled for but I'd let it go if doesn't say anything more.

 

[Wishing on a star]

While I can understand the teachers concern...
Perhaps he even felt the whole 'illness' was a lie???
And, I can understand a bit of curiosity....
However, I do feel that it was questionable to approach it the way he did.

As a parent, as long as I am abiding by school policy, then I do not feel like teachers have the right to 'watch my back' and make judgemental comments.

Basicly, it is my business, not his. If I personally show up to the school and check my child out for any reason. That is MY decision. Just because the teacher may not be in agreement with my decision, does not make it Okay to make it an issue. Even if I slipped and made a BAD decision, still does not give the teacher the right to make it an issue.

To the OP, as of now, it has only been the 'fishing' comments....
So, unless he says anything else, I would probably just let it slide.
If he happens to make comments to your DD, or any further comments in front of classmates or other parents, then I would definately want do something to address your concerns.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

What he said was the truth. To go and say something to the principal would end up being embarrassing for you and your dd.
Let it slide, quietly by.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Allie and Matts mom,

While I support your policy...
It is NOT the teachers business or responsibility!
Just because he is her teacher does not give him any rights when it comes to me as a parent.

(The school does have the right to enforce school attendance policy... but the teacher has no personal right)

What happens after my child leaves the school grounds with me, is MY business.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

I don't feel it was out of line.

If I lied about the reason for pulling a kid out of school, our Christian school would probably ask for a parental conference to talk about teaching children to be deceitful.

 

[momof3disneyholics]

I would just forget about it. If she did have a sore throat then she should have been at home. When my kids are home sick they know that they are home for the day, and no outside activities are to take place. No soccer games, no video games, and no meeting famous skaters. It shows them that they can't just play sick.

 

[MinnieM3]

I think he was Ok for saying that, but not the best choice. If your DD was soooo sick she couldn't hang around in school for the rest of the day, my rule is also, you're too sick to go do anything else, especially something in cool weather that involves standing in lines outside (ie, not sitting in a room, laying down, etc.). I think your DD should have stuck it out unless she had a fever over 100 or was throwing up. Again, I don't think the teacher made the best of comments, I'd certainly have questioned your DD's' actions after leaving sick.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Allie and Matts mom,

While I support your policy...
It is NOT the teachers business or responsibility!!!

What happens after my child leaves the school grounds with me, is MY business.

But what happens off of school grounds while school is still in session and she should be in class IS the school's business.

 

[Wishing on a star]

But what happens off of school grounds while school is still in session and she should be in class IS the school's business.

Therein is our disagreement.

It is me and my child.
Once I check my child out of school, the school has NO rights to tell me what I can and cannot do.
Just the thought that they might think they do makes me cringe.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I guess we'll agree to disagree then, because IMO, if you're checking your child out of school early AND lying about the reason you're doing so, then the school does have a say in that.

 

[leighe]

It is me and my child.
Once I check my child out of school, the school has NO rights to tell me what I can and cannot do.
Just the thought that they might think they do makes me cringe.

I think the problem here is because the child was checked out because she was sick and then ended up in the paper because she got to meet a famous ice skater. It stands to reason that if you told the school you were checking her out because she was sick then she should be at home sick. Otherwise be prepared to deal with the consequences. The school has to have some kind of attendence policy. I don't think the teacher's comment was such a big deal.