ABCs of Trip Reporting, Pt. 2-Life Can Be Crappy and Then You Move On (3/7)

[Poolrat]

I think I have my days straight with your trip so I believe I know what happens later.

I recall a conversation on how there were a lot of charges to Mary's card.
That and a lost room.


Looks like the Mayor of Main street ws getting a little friendly there.


Yes Jordan the trip was Early Sept. 2010.

We are hoping she will be done before peepfest.


Take your time Liesa- it helps us all keep up.

 

[glennbo123]

Driving up to our new place, I was immediately soothed with the lush, well-kept and manicured grounds, and knew without a doubt I was going to LOVE staying here.

I think you already know that I'm a big fan of POR. I love staying there...it's a little cramped with a family of 5, but I love the resort.

That's funny -- LeeAnn didn't have to stand on her tiptoes...they must have put you in the extra-high ones.

Looks like the Mayor of Main street ws getting a little friendly there.

I noticed that too.

 

[tinacaplan]

POR looks so pretty and it sure looks like y'all (sorry, can't help myself) had a great morning.

 

[jedijill]

Congrats on the special news! I hope that future MIL (can stand for mother or monster! ) can get over herself and support the kids. It sounds like her son is far more mature than she is.

Fabulous update and hang in there with school. Its hard but when you finally finish its such a huge accomplishment!

Jill in CO

 

[MEK]

You really did a lot of moving around this trip. Was it hard having Poly in the middle? Looking back, do you wish it was at the end of the trip? Although, I do adore POR. It really is one of my favorite resorts.

Be back later to see your pics!

 

[eandesmom]

in a million years I would not have guessed that Frontier Donald would be first.



Now, onto more important things. First and foremost, congratulations to Bek on finding what sounds like a wonderful young man and for having the wisdom and courage to set on this journey with him. I will pray that mama bear calms down. Though they are young (I assume young man is a couple years older based on the 2 more years of school?) 2 years is a long time to show everyone and most importantly themselves, that this is the right path for them.

I was not surprised that this was your news. Bek has had such a different life and with her background, I am not surprised that she is ready, and you are supportive. I am glad that it is a bit aways though, to allow them to grow into it but also into the adults they will truly be.

They are both blessed to have you in their lives, but I can only imagine how heart wrenching this must be for all and pray that you all have strength, love and faith.

 

[All7OfUs]

Hey Leisa!

I'm still up, staring at my screen, waiting on a video to render for church tomorrow. With some rare free moments to spare, I headed over this way and came across your thread. I've not had time to catch up on anything, having only taken a few moments to read your latest entry. However, I believe I read what I was supposed to read tonight.

Please know that I already have, and will continue to, lift you guys in prayer for this situation. Might I recommend the song Blessings by Laura Story. First Lady Biscuit is singing it in the morning and I think it fits your situation.

Hope you are all doing well.

God Bless!

Hi GB!


Yes, I agree, of all the drivel I put up on this TR, that was pretty important, and if it elicited even just one prayer from you, it WAS exactly what was supposed to be read by you! Thank you for your lifting this up- it is VERY heavy on my heart, and I really have to guard myself from becoming bitter and angry.

I find it HUGELY Providential that you should be the first to read and comment on this- especially with the song you posted. That song has come up quite often in their "courtship" lately as encouragement to each other and from others who are walking alongside them. You must have "known".

Wow - that is some wonderful news. So sorry about the future MIL. She doesn't sound too wonderful. Hopefully she will realize that she is driving a wedge between her and her son, before its too late.

I do think its wonderful when young adults, in today's age, find each other and share the same values and beliefs. Its not an easy time to be growing up and entering adulthood.

Congrats to your lovely daughter.

Please keep us posted on how things evolve!

That's exactly what it feels like- a wedge. And it's one not only being driven between he and his mom but between EVERYONE else involved. UGH!

If it weren't for her, what a great thing this would be!

I was on the right track.


I wish all of you utmost happiness and joy.
The situation with MIL hopefully will resolve itself in a positive way. It does make a situation tough and intrusive to the happy time that should be enveloping all you right now.



I am sure we all understand why your time is limited. We will be here when you get time and you know who you can pick up the phone to call if you need to. Monster in Laws is something I know about first hand.

Thanks, Pat! I do hope it resolves itself once she realizes that she cannot control all the decisions and methods are our kids do/use to make their way in the world. Maybe when/if she lets go, things will come around.

 

[All7OfUs]

Liesa - I am so happy to hear that your daughter has found such a fine young man to share her life with, but sorry his mother is such a pain. I never have understood what makes some people like that. They can't be happy in their own lives if they want to cause trouble in others. Especially when the others are their own family.

I'm looking forward to your next update, but don't feel rushed. I know you are busy. I'll be here when you get time, as I"m sure a lot of other folks will too.

I was able to get a Disney fix in this weekend. I took my grandson to see Disney on Ice. It was fabulous! I was a little afraid he wouldn't like it since it focuses so heavily on the princesses, but he really enjoyed it. He is my grandson, though, I guess I shouldn't have worried!

Terri

Thanks for your encouragements, Terri! As hard as it is to see Bek have to deal with, I know she is happy, and loves him dearly. She did the same exact thing to her older daughter who got married last month. It was bad enough for her as well, that she moved out of the house too. You've gotta ask yourself what's wrong when there's actually a pattern.

How fun that you got to see the Disney show! I've heard those are really wonderful, and pretty well done. I'd love to see one of those Broadway shows someday- like Mary Poppins.

Liesa (and Becca) What wonderful news! I'm happy to hear such a special guy is a part of your lives, and that his intentions are so good. I know God will bless them for doing things the right way.

Now, as a MIL with sons myself, I have to say that I feel badly that she has made it so hard to find happiness in this situation. I think I do understand where she might be coming from a little bit, although I don't know how she could not love you both.

She hasn't really listened to her son's plans and understood he wants to finish school and get his life together. She is just jumping ahead and worrying about what happens to him if he rushes things and doesn't finish school, etc. OR she's just being possessive and not ready to let her baby boy grow up

I will be praying that in time the kids can prove to her how mature and stable they are, and that God will do a work in her. It's such a hard way to start out, I'm sorry it can't just be more joyful for all of you.

I will pass along your congrats to Bek from you I know she will be thrilled to know you are thinking of her and him.

Yes, not only is she just pretty controlling, but clearly hasn't taken time to listen and understand. As for the judgements about our family, those walls went up WAY early on, and we were never given a fair chance. Honestly, I have very little hope that the relationship can be ever be repaired... only a miracle can restore.

Congratulations on your news. That boy sounds like one a million, seriously. I'll keep the situation in prayer, but with level-headed kids like that, I'm sure it'll work out just fine. It might take some time, but it will.

I really do believe he is that "one and only" for her. Although what they have is definitely not binding in any way, it certainly looks like they've found the one intended for them. I hope you're right about time being all that's needed. They certainly have that on their side at this point, as school is going to have to happen first. That's a requirement on BOTH sides at least.

 

[All7OfUs]

Congratulations, Liesa! What wonderful news...had a feeling that's what you had been getting at. My first thought was...goodness, she's so young and then I paused and thought about all that your daughter has undoubtedly seen and done while abroad that it became crystal clear to me how special and mature she must be. I'm so happy for her to have found someone she truly connects with on such a deep level.

My first cousin, who I am very close to, is Russian Orthodox and very involved in his church and his faith and has had a very hard time finding a young woman, in our present society, who shares that same level of faith with him.

So I have some sense of how special this all is.

I'm so sorry about the future MIL situation. I cannot imagine anyone not liking you, even though we've never met in person. We come from very different lives and have very different points of view on a lot of things, I'm sure, yet even through your writing on the boards (and a bit on FB) what a kind, warm, generous soul you are just shines right through.

Wishing you the best in dealing with everything life is putting in front of you and your family right now and I know that you are more than up for the challenge. Plus, you have all of us standing behind you, my friend.

They truly have a bond that is so refreshing and rare these days. I"m happy to see her so well.. happy.

I think, after talking to a close friend of mine, that it really comes down to just a simple personality clash in us... she comes from a mindset of HIGHLY valuing privacy, and does not have a very close relationship with her kids. She puts up a lot of pretense in relationships, while I have VERY little tolerance for that. I just don't want to live live beating around the bush and following vague rules and worrying about stepping on one's toes all the time. I can be direct, yet try to be compassionate- something that I guess really grates on her. So be it...

Thanks SO much for your prayers and standing with me on this... it's been a LONG, difficult month, but yes, I think we can get through it.

Hugs and Prayers L, to you and your Daughter and the young man....




KIM

Thanks, Kim, you know we can use all we can get!

What Glenn said.

Sounds like the kind of guy who has a plan for his life and a good head on his shoulders. They don't make them on trees. And as far as the MIL goes, I don't see where they've done anything that requires a binding contract for eternity yet. She can chill...have a Dole Whip!

But don't be too harsh. If she's raised a son who sounds this well-adjusted, she must have done something right.

He really does; our family really likes him a lot and will support him in any way we can. It could take years, but we are there for him and for THEM.

NOpe, it's one thing to be upset and ballistic over soemthing that has been done unrightly, but in this case NOTHING has been done that's wrong or shameful. She needs to chill out! YES! A Dole Whip might serve her nicely.... or Tim's whip! Speaking of which... I FOUND MINE!! In one of the last boxes we unpacked a couple of weekends ago! NICE!

And you're so right, Mark. If he turned out this well, I shouldn't worry too much. But for the record, he is fairly pi**ed off as his family right now at their behavior and pre-mature judgement of us. Hopefully, in time it will heal...

 

[All7OfUs]

i thought right about the super secret news.

sorry about the parental situation with your future son-in-law, but it's all in His hands and He's always in control.

I gotta catch up on the TR, but apparently it wasn't that busy? Not if BTMRR was a walk on......did you go in Sept? Oct? Oh heck, I'll just go back and read...

Hey Jordy!

I knew you'd have the discernment to know what I was talking about... Yes, it is totally in His hands as at this point the only "fix" will be a miracle. It is totally out of my control; I cannot bring healing to soemthing so broken on my own. However, that does not take the hurt and sting out of her behavior towards me and our family. And truly only He can bring a restoration to me.

HAHAHA! yes, it was in early Sept..... last year. Pathetic, eh? Slow is the name of the game here.

IT was very much NOT very busy during our trip- I think we only ever waited a half hour TOPS for anything we did. Bliss describes it well. Of course, good planning helped us too.

Hi, Liesa! Congratulations on the engagement! I'm sorry it's not the completely happy event that it should be. Have you started looking at Disney weddings, yet?

I think it'd be hard to leave the Polynesian for Port Orleans. I guess any where onsite is still pretty good, though.

HAHA, no, actually they have talked about a themed Civil War wedding done at a re-enactment- something they actually got to know each other doing over the summer. It would very REALLY beautiful to see the wedding party in hoops and stuff. But that's WAY down the road... planning that can wait for a while

Actually, it was totally fine. I loved the POR and would stay there again in a heartbeat. It was WAY better than the POP for me; not quite as luxurioius, of course at the Poly, but very nice nonetheless.

great news, and im sure things will work out with the MIL in the futre.

Thanks, Dan! Yeah, I"m sure you're right... a healthy dose of patience is probably in order here.

 

[All7OfUs]

I think I have my days straight with your trip so I believe I know what happens later.

Hmmmm..... remember there IS a schedule in post #2 or #3 you can follow...

I recall a conversation on how there were a lot of charges to Mary's card.
That and a lost room.

That was STRESSFUL! Actually Mary has LOST $100 and was stressing hard about finances at some point along the way, so imagine my shock and freakout mode when I found out about the credit card fiasco!! The last thing we needed was that!

Looks like the Mayor of Main street ws getting a little friendly there.

Hey, now that I look at that... yeah, you're right. At the time, I didn't even notice...

Yes Jordan the trip was Early Sept. 2010.

We are hoping she will be done before peepfest.


Take your time Liesa- it helps us all keep up.

Fat chance, my dear.

Out of sheer neccessity I"m going as slow as one could possibly go without getting shut down.

I think you already know that I'm a big fan of POR. I love staying there...it's a little cramped with a family of 5, but I love the resort.



That's funny -- LeeAnn didn't have to stand on her tiptoes...they must have put you in the extra-high ones.

I noticed that too.

I can totally see it being VERY cramped with 5. It was tight with us three and all of our stuff. But it IS a nice place as far as layout, theming and comforts go. I liked it a lot!

Very funny, Mister.

I wonder if all mayors could get away with that. I know at least one president who did.

POR looks so pretty and it sure looks like y'all (sorry, can't help myself) had a great morning.

Nice one! Y'all works for everything, don't it?

Congrats on the special news! I hope that future MIL (can stand for mother or monster! ) can get over herself and support the kids. It sounds like her son is far more mature than she is.

Fabulous update and hang in there with school. Its hard but when you finally finish its such a huge accomplishment!

Jill in CO

In many ways, yes, he is. And I hope to that things will get better given time.

Midterms are next week (right in the middle of my parents' visit). I hope I do well; I MUST get A's in these classes to stay competitive for the program admission. We shall see...

 

[All7OfUs]

You really did a lot of moving around this trip. Was it hard having Poly in the middle? Looking back, do you wish it was at the end of the trip? Although, I do adore POR. It really is one of my favorite resorts.

Be back later to see your pics!

Naw, it wasn't bad. The reason being that we had our itinerary pretty well timed out so that it was the most convenient for our touring plans to be in the middle; we needed the monorail at transporation for the parks we'd be in those days. Psychologically, it might have been nice to end with luxury, but we were spending very little time at the resort anyway. It was fine.

I really LOVED POR, so it was fine

 

[KatMark]

Sorry I fell behind again Liesa (between updating my own TR, trying to catch up on all of the threads, work kicking my butt...yours is one of the last ones I've gotten to).

Congrats to your daughter and your future sil. I'm sorry his parents are being such jerks (yes, that is what they are being), but hopefully they wake up soon and realize what a special son they have and what a beautiful daughter-in-law they will have.

Love your last update. POR is really pretty (if CSR were not available, I wouldn't hesitate to stay there; but then after our last two resorts, I may be spoiled and not go back to CSR either).

Looks like you gals had a blast at the MK that morning.

 

[Captain_Oblivious]

Ready to check in with me??

Yes, Please! Love POR. Feels like our home away from home. And I don't think it's so bad with a family of 5...compared to the other options, the price makes it worth the squeeze!

I really can’t speak highly enough of the friendly staff I encountered there!

Disney CM's = wonderful vacation enablers.

Believe it or not, by 10:00 I was back at MK and MADE ROPE DROP- and that included taking a bus from POR there! Amazing!

Impressive.

And for the sake of getting a move on here, I’m going to just go photo heavy on the rest of our morning. Be on the lookout for several hidden Mickeys in there!

You've got some great shots here!

I’ll leave you with us in the stockade.

Be warned, all ye resort pool-hoppers and last year's re-usable mug re-users.

 

[Poolrat]

Be warned, all ye resort pool-hoppers and last year's re-usable mug re-users.

 

[tinacaplan]

Nice one! Y'all works for everything, don't it?

Why yes, yes it does! One of my best friends from college was from Nashville and she said it all the time and I adopted it (as young friends are wont to do) and I had people thinking I was from the South.

 

[3prettyprincesses]

Most of you “old timers” know my Rebekah, my 18 year old daughter. She is stunningly beautiful (what mom wouldn’t say that?), smart, Godly and one of the most meek, humble young women I know. She has been ready for a relationship for quite some time, being far more mature than most girls her same age that I know. She knows what she wants in life, has definite goals and the maturity to make them happen.

2 weeks ago, a young gentleman that she’s been getting to know for about 10 months surprised us all and declared intentions toward her. Although I’ve been seeing it coming for months myself, and have secretly been hoping they would “find each other”, he decided resolutely that she was the one for him. Basically, he has asked her to wait for him to get his ducks in a row, and for him to finish the last couple of years of school- all with the very solid intention of marriage. So, not quite a proposal, but something very much like it.

Rebekah and this young man are perhaps the most Godly young people I know- truly. Let me just bear witness to their conduct to give you some background. He drew up a “contract” that he is asking 4 trusted men in his life to sign and bear witness to his resolution to keep himself and his future bride pure and whole until marriage, that he won’t ask her to marry him until he can support her in sickness and health, that he will honor his parents and their wisdom and advice, etc…. I was completely blown away when I read it. Additionally, they have covenanted themselves to keeping to public places (not necessarily in only groups though) so as not to do things they ought not to. They have (mostly) included us in giving what counsel we can, and have listened with respect and good hearts.

Enter the Future-Mother-In-Law…

Suffice it to say, she has made something that SHOULD be wonderful and beautiful and pure into some awful, nasty mess. When he went to his parents to tell them he was now in a relationship, she went entirely ballistic. She and I have always had a very tense relationship from WAY back when I first met them. For some reason that has never been explained to me, she just doesn’t like me, and has sadly extrapolated that dislike onto Bek somewhat. Aside from our personal issues, she is unhappy with the timing of things, is a perfectionist that sets standards too high for anyone else to attain, and is just generally making his life a living hell. It is SO bad he feels he must leave his house “because it is no longer a home for him”.

So, as much as I want to rejoice and be happy for them, it’s just hard to ‘go there’. This is taking a HUGE amount of emotional energy for me, and time. Walking alongside Rebekah through this is definitely something we’ve always known we’d do for her, for ALL of our kids, but I didn’t think it’d be under these circumstances, and certainly didn’t know how hard it’d be.

That’s the news… and the legitimate reason I just have had to spend less time on here. I actually do have an update mostly done up, but have to put the finishing touches on it first. Sadly though, classes are taking a fair amount of time as well. My parents are arriving for a visit on Wednesday on top of everything else, so I’m barely keeping my head above water with life in general.

Oh Liesa! What spectacular news! I too am blown away by the wonderful intentions and integrity of this young man. Wow. In this day and age, most young men's intentions aren't quite so pure. I'm very happy for your daughter and you! What a shame that the future MIL is putting a damper on it. Does she only have boys? My own MIL took awhile to soften up towards me because she was not ready to give up her son. We're great friends now but it started off a bit rocky on her end. I distinctly remember showing her my wedding dress in my college dorm room and she sat on my bed and cried (not tears of joy, if you get my meaning!). I'm sure this stick in the mud will come around! It's terribly unfair of her to have judged you so harshly in the beginning though and now to transfer that over to your DD and her man. Hang in there, keep praying.

 

[ladylyons]

Congratulations to everyone on this joyus news!!! I know from personal experience that sometimes kids need to be seperated from their parent's opinions so we can learn to move forward as our own person and to grow into adulthood. I went 3 years without talking to my own mom due to the fact that she didn't approve of my decisions after high school. Hopefully things will work out in the end and everyone can celebrate this special time and be there to support them while they get things in order.

 

[addictedtothemouse]

Ok, I'm caught up again!
I love seeing the differences between WDW and DLR. It makes want to schedule a trip to DLR.
Congrats to Becca and her young man. I hope the MIL situation works out. The first time I met my future MIL she wouldn't even look at me. When she left she told DH she loved him gave him a kiss and left . Afterwards DH said he was thinking, "How was that and where is my mom?" We get along great now, turns out she was just worried about DH and getting to know me incase it didn't work between DH and myself.

 

[englishrose47]

Liesa what wonderful news for your daughter and future sil!!His mother is the loser in this as she will most likely miss out on a wonderful relationship that her son and your daughter have !!It is her loss !!