a whatever S.O.

[Kelly'sLove]

Does anyone have a S.O. that all they know how to say when planning your vacation to WDW is "whatever" or "I don't care"? I am trying to make it both our vacation. I just want him to contribute just a little so I know what kind of stuff he would like to do. Is there anyone one else that is/was in this same situation and if so what was some of the stuff they had alot of fun (rides, shows, dinner, etc...)

 

[GAIL HAYDEN]

Originally posted by Kelly'sLove
Does anyone have a S.O. that all they know how to say when planning your vacation to WDW is "whatever" or "I don't care"? I am trying to make it both our vacation. I just want him to contribute just a little so I know what kind of stuff he would like to do. Is there anyone one else that is/was in this same situation and if so what was some of the stuff they had alot of fun (rides, shows, dinner, etc...)

I have one of those and it taught me: 1. some people like to plan, some like to have it planned for them.
2. Relax and not plan (works much better for me this way). We adlip almost everything EXCEPT tennis, that he schedules.

 

[tigger&tigerlover]

I'll have to tell you how it went in a few weeks, but for planning, it's been "whatever". Or "whatever you want to do". No comments on schedule, rides, or even food.

But I'm going ahead and planning everything, I'm also ready to change plans immediately if something catches his attention.


You're definitely not alone!!

 

[helenabear]

Yeah, I have one like that... I did tons of planning for our honeymoon (he seemed to care only about going to DQ & eating, otherwise it was up to me). I really enjoyed the planning so I didn't mind that it was all up to me. And when it came down to it, I just went with what I knew of him, and just planned away. It turned out we both had a great time!

 

[KathyFP]

My DH tries to play it off and not appear excited. As the time gets closer, he allows his excitement to show. Yesterday he went shopping for new shoes, socks and other essentials. He pulled out the suitcases.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

I actually for this vacation made two dinner reservations already but only because I was coordinating with friends....usually we do Disney as it comes and enjoy it that way... if we do not get to do something this time.. we do it the next time... it works for us.. but we do not have little children.. just two adults enjoying the magic.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Originally posted by helenabear
...I really enjoyed the planning so I didn't mind that it was all up to me. And when it came down to it, I just went with what I knew of him, and just planned away. It turned out we both had a great time!

This is exactly how my BF is. He doesnt like planning and has never really been to Disney before. So I'm planning everything. But occasionally, I send him info on a specific thing I think he'll love (yesterday it was the Adventurers Club in PI) and he gets excited about the trip.

 

[GAIL HAYDEN]

Originally posted by helenabear
Yeah, I have one like that... I did tons of planning for our honeymoon (he seemed to care only about going to DQ & eating, otherwise it was up to me). I really enjoyed the planning so I didn't mind that it was all up to me. And when it came down to it, I just went with what I knew of him, and just planned away. It turned out we both had a great time!

Hi,
Just wanted to say that is a beautiful picture of the castle!!! and to ask if you minded if I used it as wallpaper?

 

[Mimi Q]

My husband never comments on my planning, and I am a compulsive planner. I try to include things that I think he will like. This trip he and my DD are going to Discovery Cove one day. Works for us.

 

[katerkat]

My husband hasn't been since he was 7, so this is our first trip together. He is definitely a "whatever" guy!

What I've done:
1) Didn't bother to ask him about which parks on what day - I decided all that on my own, since I know that stuff. Also, I'm not going to ask him which attractions he wants to see - I don't want him getting overwhelmed and I know how to tour without his input.
2) Gave him the Passporter with the restaurant descriptions and told him to check off which ones he's interested in. This isn't foolproof - he didn't check off any at the MK and refuses to think about counter service ("How am I supposed to know if I want chicken or burgers this far in advance?") but it is helping me choose restaurants that fit in my plan and he wants to go to. Food is his main priority, anyway.

Letting him help with the restaurants involves him in an easy way. It starts him thinking about the trip in more than a "whatever" way. But it's deceptive in that he doesn't even realize he's getting involved, since he can just pick up the book in his free time to check off a few more restaurants. Maybe he'll read a bit more of the book and ask about other things, too....

 

[cworld]

Just because you think their not interested, don't exclude them from the planning. Several years ago we had a trip planned. My DW wasn't interested in helping me plan anything. So being the obsessive compulsive type, I had everything planned down to the last detail. And I didn't tell her anything.
We got to Epcot our first day. I started out on my plan, it had us criss crossing the park to avoid the lines. After the first ride my DW let it be know that criss crossing the park was not in the cards no matter what the lines were. We have a video of me saying "it's 2 o'clock and we have only done 3 rides."
Needless to say, my DW is now kept informed of the plans.

 

[jordgubben]

My husband is more the "whatever" type. At first I thought it was because he just wasn't excited but I've come to understand that he's just not a planner. It's probably better to have one mega-planner and one whatever than have 2 mega-planners with conflicting plans.

 

[Jynohn]

My DH just rolls his eyes and laughs at me whenever I bring up the trip. If I ask him any questions he tells me we'll just do what I want to do. I used to get frustrated, but now I'm taking him at his word. Since he didn't want to give any input, he knows there is no complaining allowed if he doesn't like the choices I've made.

 

[erikthewise]

I am grateful when DW says "whatever" because
(1) I get to do it my way!
(2) When she does express her point-of-view, it seldom matches mine

 

[Artuero]

Heh, my wife does not want to get involved in the planning AND reserves the right to complain about anything. So I do my best not to mess up

 

[jdads2]

I do most of the planning for our WDW trips. That includes the one we took without the kids. I always have a perfect plan, never a problem and everyone is always happy, never a complaint. As a matter of fact, last trip they were so inspired by my perfect schedule that they had a parade in my honor... ....oops, sorry I must have been sleeping and dreaming. What were we talking about?

I get very little help plannig but I like to plan more than my DW so I don't ask for help. She does the things I hate doing, like writing a packing list. Most importantly, we share in the fun.

 

[Tarheel Tink]

I'm so glad that there are others out there! DH loves Disney but is not a planner of anything. He follows any of my plans and dares not complain! Having gone so many times, he does give input on restaurants.

 

[figment95]

DH pretends he doesn't care if we go to DW every year or not. He won't plan anything. He won't even tell me which hotel he would prefer. I used to get frustrated (and, frankly a little offended) until we went somewhere else on vacation and he planned it. On the way home he told me that he would much rather have gone to DW and I can plan all the vacations from now on. I guess it's all personality. I like to plan and he likes to go along without thinking about it. Maybe that's why we make a good couple (or maybe it's our stunning good looks tee hee)

 

[drcmk]

My DH hasn't wanted to get involved in any but the most major aspects of planning (i.e. which hotel and how much $$). But now that we are down to the last three weeks before our trip, I expect he will have a few ideas. In expectation of that, I've tried to keep my plans as flexible as possible so he can get to do the things he wants too. I've gotten such pleasure from planning and that is just not his style.

 

[sandygirl]

MY DH is not a planner. In fact, he'd be just as happy to stay home all the time. If I left it up to him, I'd never go anywhere. I made the mistake of giving him the responsibility of planning our weekend honeymoon, not realizing that was the worst thing I could have asked him to do. He did a nice job with it, but he was stressed. I do have to say that he always has a wonderful time once he gets there.

The first trip I planned, I took him into total consideration. I planned the whole thing around his interests and comfort. I wanted him to have a really nice time. I have since learned to balance the itinerary. And he surprises me with liking a variety of things. I try not to over-plan, but I really enjoy planning. For me it is part of the fun.

I also plan trips that don't include him. I also plan trips that I never get to take, you know fantasy trips. Someday...