The bridal shower was last Saturday. Before that event, I was sent a very specific list of items (via email from the maid of honour) that the bride wished to receive as shower gifts. And I was a good girl
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and didn't deviate at all from that list....purchasing three of the "exact" items that were indicated.
Does the bride have a registry? Maybe it's just the custom in my part of the world (upper Midwest) but typically brides register before their wedding showers and invitees look to the registry for wedding shower AND wedding gift ideas. I typically buy a gift for the shower, and then give cash at the wedding.
I ask because I guess it would make sense for her asking for specific items if she didn't have a registry in place, or didn't have it done yet.
On the one hand, this is what gift registries are for - - the couple can ask for the things they want, in case someone wants ideas, and it also helps cut down on the chances that they'd get more than one toaster, blender, etc etc etc. The asking for the items isn't what bothers me - what I don't like is when someone says to you, in so many words, "Only the following gifts and/or cash will be deemed acceptable by me."
And also - as the couple are not 22, not in their first homes, etc, I think most guests would figure out for themselves that a cash gift would probably be the best bet. If I had a friend or family member who was getting married in their 30s, 40s, etc, I would assume they already had their house items pretty much in order. Or, in your case as a close immediate family member, you know them well enough to know they have a need for suitcases (as they have borrowed yours in the past). It just makes the whole affair seem like a gift/cash grab. Obviously people are going to give them gifts, but the "tone" of this kind of specific asking always rubs me the wrong way.