Dan Murphy
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Like bathing, I must daily exercise my freedom. No one can do it for me.
Elaine, so true indeed.
In thy face I see the map of honor, truth, and loyalty.
William Shakespeare
People choose their mates for many reasonsthe irresistible twinkle in a young man's eye, the graceful curve of a woman's ankle, escape from home, to have a home, financial support, convenienceyou name it. But to stay alive, a relationship has to have something else, something more basic going for it. It has to have trust.
Bedrock trust means that we know the other person is in our corner, reliably there for us no matter what. It means that in significant ways, they are "present" to us. If they are not, no matter how much we think we need them or how desperately we want the relationship to work, no trust equals no satisfaction.
Until the other proves trustworthy (beyond promises and good intentions) something in us holds back. Some aspects of the relationship may well be terrific, but the lasting test is always, "Can I trust them?"
--Days of Healing Days of Joy