A Terribly Spoiled Question

[LuvOrlando]

Can you put them in a place where fresh air will pull the smell away? Is he out during the day so you can air them out in the garage or on the porch?

That stink isn't just grocery stores, they reek the same way coming from many of the nicest flower shops so I wouldn't assume the smell means cheap. Funeral flowers are expensive and made in the same place as the priciest bouquets I send during the holidays. If it was me I wouldn't say something about it smelling like a funeral because that is biting and would come off as mean to someone trying to help because he may stop trying to help you and it is doubtful you want that.

You can say that as pretty as the flowers are the fragrance the place used is strong and bothering you, it is much softer - he can fill in the blank on how it is bothering you. Maybe try to direct him to other options for the next time, as in point things out. Trader Joes doesn't seem to use the fragrance in the smaller bouquets and some flowers like Sunflowers and hydrangea don't get sprayed so those are what I tend to stick to, I don't go to flower shops because they are always awful. Live potted plants from anywhere including Lowes don't get sprayed so those are nice too, a potted set of tulips is nice and no smell.

I have the same problem but because of migraines. On my wedding day I had to have the limo driver pull over and all the flowers go into the trunk because of the spray they use and I had requested no spray :/

 

[CynBeth]

I would not say anything other than thank you and bring it to your office or give to a neighbor to brighten someone else’s day.

 

[tvguy]

My wife has made it easy, she never wants flowers. She thinks they are a waste of money. Plus we have 15 rose bushes in our yard and she brings in flowers when she wants them. I think her best friend who lives in another city will finally give up on sending flowers. Not matter what florist she uses there is an issue. Last time the florist had no record of any order. But they did call the next day to say they were crediting back what had been charged to her friends credit card because they discovered that somehow an order they had no record of, had been charged to her card. At least they were honest and upfront. The owner was very upset that somehow a charge was initiated without an order attached.
Wine and candy, that's fine.

 

[TwoMisfits]

Thank you for the words, truly. As far as using the term 'grocery store', I wasn't implying anything regarding money. I'm super tight with money and budget minded. I'd prefer flowers from costco to any florist and he knows that. Speaking of costco, that gives me an idea! They have an amazing selection and next time we're there, I'll stop and linger over certain flowers and smell and breathe deep and comment how wonderful it is! Yall have given me some good suggestions!

That seems like the best plan. Be very happy with these flowers, but then find the flowers you like at Costco and point them out when he's there - like "don't you just love when lilies come into season - it seems like spring is breaking out all over"...or "aren't orchids precious - they are so rare and so fragile and so special - I love them"...or whichever flower you love, let him know...

 

[lovesmurfs]

I can empathize. DH and I have been married 35 years. I appreciate ANYTHING he does for me, but someone somewhere must've told him that ALL women love red roses. I am NOT all women. Every birthday and Mother's Day.

My adult daughter has tried to tell him. I try to tell him at non-drama times (example -- in April remind him that tulip is my favorite flower, I love wild flowers, daisies, etc.) Never has sunk in. I get glimmers of "oh, you like tulips?" but then it never tallies to the roses he gives me.

I've never received flowers just because -- but I've bought flowers just for me, just because. And they're never roses.

There's no way for me to complain without being diva-like or unthankful, but I do understand where you're coming from.

 

[disykat]

We especially don't have this issue with flowers since they are on the "no!" list due to my allergies. I can be pretty forthright with my husband because gift giving isn't super important to him so he's not sensitive about it. It took a few years, but he now truly understands that I HATE to get gifts! His sister and mother are gift people so it took him a long time to believe me that I'm not a gift person and for him to admit he's not either.

That said, for people who enjoy showing love through gifting, this can be a big one. Are there any flowers in the bunch that you like? For example, zeroing in on one type and saying the tulips are my favorite, etc.?