A tacky theme for a bridal shower?

[palmtreegirl]

If they weren't moving cross country I would say it was tacky. But with the wedding and the move, etc, I don't see where there will be time to return something for a card if they don't like it. Honestly, in this situation I think it makes sense.

At first I thought it was tacky but after reading the above post I changed my mind.

 

[DawnCt1]

Dawn - I know you are joking but I attended a baby shower where there was a generic "thank you" at every table setting - and that is the ONLY thank you that was sent!

so tacky.

Barbara

And just when I think it doesn't get any worse!

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I vote for tacky.

 

[Daxx]

Originally Posted by Evil Genius
If they weren't moving cross country I would say it was tacky.

I don't care if they're moving to the moon ... I'm the one paying for the gift, so I get to choose it .. plain and simple!

~Daxx's Wife

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

If they weren't moving cross country I would say it was tacky. But with the wedding and the move, etc, I don't see where there will be time to return something for a card if they don't like it. Honestly, in this situation I think it makes sense.

Many registries are nation-wide. Not difficult--register at a place that is convenient to them sicne they no where they are moving (I am sure it isn't podunk or internationally). Heck--wal-mart has a registry. And they are located in podunk or nearby.


Gift cards don't scream--we are moving and cannot return anything if necessary. It screams, we do not trust you to buy us a gift and we opt to pick it out ourselves.

Tacky.

 

[disykat]

Dawn - I know you are joking but I attended a baby shower where there was a generic "thank you" at every table setting - and that is the ONLY thank you that was sent!

so tacky.

Barbara

That's more than I've seen at many. Even here, I've seen sending thank you notes described as "old fashioned".

I'm old fashioned enough that I don't even think gift registry information should be included in an invitation. In "my day" ( and I'm only in my early 40's), if you wanted that info you asked the hostess when you called to RSVP.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

Tacky. And not to veer too far off the topic, but including registry information in invitations is tacky. EVERYBODY knows that wedding registries exist, and if somebody is close enough to invite to a wedding, they're close enough to ask a friend or relative of the couple where the couple is registered.

 

[snowwite]

Here's the background, please give me your honest opinion.
I'm hosting a bridal shower for my FSIL. For some reason my mother thinks that I as 28 year old women am unable to do this event on my own and has decided that she will help me. This is a family event; my grandmas, aunts, cousins etc are invited. The bride and groom will be moving across country after the wedding because my brother is stationed back East.
Okay, here is where I need your opinion: I was talking to my mother about final details of this event and I told her that I had the invites just about done and I had planned to drop them in mail today. She asked what I decided to do as the "theme" and I told that I had decided to just not have a theme (so no kitchen shower etc). My mom informed me that she and the bride were talking and that they think it is best to include on the shower invites that this is a "gift card" shower. I told my Mom that I thought that was totally tacky and that I guess I am "old school" when it comes to things like this because I dont think you tell people what they can and cant buy a person as a gift. In my mind I dont think I would attend a shower if that was was the theme. I understand that they are moving and that they will have limited space for things, but why not do what everyone else does when they get married- if you get something that you dont want you return it for a gift card.
Please weigh in and give me your opinion, my Mom thinks that I'm out of line for throwing a fit about this. So, I need to have someone's outside view.

Wow.sounds like Bridzilla and mom need to read Emily Post. Of course it is tacky.Why not just make the theme give me money.What nerve.

 

[swea_pea1]

Dawn - I know you are joking but I attended a baby shower where there was a generic "thank you" at every table setting - and that is the ONLY thank you that was sent!

so tacky.

Barbara

I attended a baby shower once where we had to address our own thank you cards. After I had driven 6 hours to be there for her (it was my niece), why would I think she could be bothered with actually looking for my address to send the thank you card

To the OP - yes, tacky. Extremely tacky.

 

[Saphire]

So tell us, redshoes, what happened when you told your Mom that nearly 50 acquaintances agreed that the gift card idea was tacky? Did she change her mind? Can't argue with the majority!

 

[samijam]

Evey time i get an invite to a bridal or baby shower and the theme is money, gift card or specific (usually very expensive) gift regestry. I will deliberatley get a different gift . Maybe I am being a jerk but if you invite me you will get the gift I want to give. I always thought the point of a shower is to share with friends and family a special milestone in ones life, not request gifts one wants.
I new i was having a boy before my shower and i asked my mother not to tell anyone because i didn;t want anyone to feel obligated to get a certain gift. Everyone brought me something very nice and everyone had a nice time and never felt they were invited just for the gift

 

[Pigeon]

The "theme" is the bridal shower. What, is she looking for Dora the Explorer paper goods? The gift card idea is tacky, tacky, tacky.

attended a baby shower once where we had to address our own thank you cards. After I had driven 6 hours to be there for her (it was my niece), why would I think she could be bothered with actually looking for my address to send the thank you card

I attended a bridal shower like this, too. What's next, do we actually write the thank you notes too, do save the little bimbo the effort? I thought my 70 year old aunt was going to have apoplexy when it was explained to her that for her time, effort and thoughtful gift, she was expected to address her own thank-you note.

I actually declined to attend the wedding for the same person because this left such a bad taste in my mouth.

 

[A4Disney]

Here's the background, please give me your honest opinion.
I'm hosting a bridal shower for my FSIL. For some reason my mother thinks that I as 28 year old women am unable to do this event on my own and has decided that she will help me. This is a family event; my grandmas, aunts, cousins etc are invited. The bride and groom will be moving across country after the wedding because my brother is stationed back East.
Okay, here is where I need your opinion: I was talking to my mother about final details of this event and I told her that I had the invites just about done and I had planned to drop them in mail today. She asked what I decided to do as the "theme" and I told that I had decided to just not have a theme (so no kitchen shower etc). My mom informed me that she and the bride were talking and that they think it is best to include on the shower invites that this is a "gift card" shower. I told my Mom that I thought that was totally tacky and that I guess I am "old school" when it comes to things like this because I dont think you tell people what they can and cant buy a person as a gift. In my mind I dont think I would attend a shower if that was was the theme. I understand that they are moving and that they will have limited space for things, but why not do what everyone else does when they get married- if you get something that you dont want you return it for a gift card.
Please weigh in and give me your opinion, my Mom thinks that I'm out of line for throwing a fit about this. So, I need to have someone's outside view.

Extremely tacky!Similar to asking for money!

 

[poohandwendy]

I attended a bridal shower like this, too. What's next, do we actually write the thank you notes too, do save the little bimbo the effort? I thought my 70 year old aunt was going to have apoplexy when it was explained to her that for her time, effort and thoughtful gift, she was expected to address her own thank-you note.

iTA, I have attended MORE THAN ONE shower where people did that. Funny thing is, they would start the shower with "Ok everyone, there is an envelope on the table in front of you, please address it to yourself"...Like we were being entered in a drawing to win a prize. Didn't even have the decency to explain that we were addressing our own thank you card envelopes. Unbelievably tacky and lazy, IMO.

I mean seriously, is there any reason at all to not take the time to adddress your own thank you notes?

Sorry, but that is a big pet peeve of mine.

 

[diznygirl]

Although it might make sense to get them gift cards, it is very tacky to be required to get them gift cards. There is a big difference.

I would also go out of my way to get something else just to be a pest!

 

[Stacerita]

Tacky!! Im hosting my best friend's bridal shower (im her MOH) in a few months and Ive been stressing about how to let everyone know where she is registered without putting it in the invite. I would never consider telling people to get gift cards, especially in the invitation. Just tacky. I would casually mention it if someone asks what the bride to be wants or needs.