A sensitive request for help...

[RickinNYC]

Hi folks,
I need your help and in so asking, please know that I'm aware that my question is of a sensitive nature:

Over the years, I've read some great romantic stories of couples and their honeymoons, anniversaries and weddings on Disney property. I've been touched by them and want to become a part of the magic. However, my relationship is non-traditional. I have been in a long term, very committed, same sex relationship with my partner for more than 12 years. We will be in WDW, staying at the BWI this coming October. Our trip just so happens to fall on our 13th anniversary.

I called and spoke to a guest relations cast member at Disney Club booking and explained my situation. I simply wanted her to make note on my reservation that we would be celebrating our anniversary. She was amazing in her sensitivity and open-mindedness. I am simply hoping that when we check in, perhaps the cast member who does so recognizes our anniversary and grants an upgrade (hope! hope! hope!) or simply wishes us well. I have to admit that I was rather anxious about making such a call. I live in New York City and am very fortunate that we can live our lifestyle with little to no fear of any repercussions.

However, I'm very aware that we are still non-traditional in that we're a gay couple. And I can assure you that I am also aware that to a large population, we're not welcome.

My question is, I would like to celebrate our anniversary but NOT make a scene. My partner and I don't tend to walk hand in hand, let alone make outward display of public affection. Neither of us are effiminate by any stretch of the word. In fact, we both look like two conservative, preppy men who's wives left us to do some shopping. That's just the way we are. I would, however, like to do something that shows him how much I care about him and our anniversary. And doing so in my #1 favorite place in the world just seems to make things all the better.

All that being said, without causing a scene or to be perfectly frank, making anyone else uncomfortable or God forbid, point and stare, what can or should I do? I already plan on a quiet dinner. I am thinking of having flowers or something delivered to our room. And even though we have already exchanged rings, I would like to buy another perhaps. But when should I give it to him? Part of me wants to do it quietly in our room, on the balcony during the Epcot fireworks. But another part of me feels as if I'm hiding. I know that Disney has publicly announced that they as an organization support familes of all kinds, from the traditional to the non.

Your thoughts would be appreciated.

 

[LT Hambone]

If you can afford it, and be able to get a reservation, I would suggest the Chef's Table at Victoria & Alberts.

You'll have a very private table in the kitchen, receive personal service, and have one of the best meals ever. How often do you get the chef of a five star restauraunt cook your own dinner?

Just a thought....

 

[>>^..^<<]

Hi there...

I love your post - it is so well written - I hope everyone who responds treats you with the respect you deserve and congrats on your annniversary

I was thinking - how about an illuminations cruise? There are pontoon boats or the classic boat "Breathless" they are hard to get - you need to book early - but that would be a fun evening a nice dinner on the boardwalk and a private view of the fireworks from your private launch.

Have a great time

>>^..^<<

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

How sweet you are! Indeed, your partner is very fortunate!
I'm not sure how much you are looking to spend, but I've read alot about the Grand One yacht charter. That would be magical, you would have your privacy and at the same time you would not be "hiding". A perfect place to watch the fireworks, have some drinks, and exchange the rings. I've also read that you can have a full dinner brought aboard. Now that would be my ultimate disney experience. Hey a girl can dream can't she!!

I'm sure whatever you decide, it will be special. Good Luck!

Laura

 

[Pammy_from_WI]

I agree with the others!! Congrats!! Your partner is a very lucky person to have found such a special s/o.

If money is not a problem I agree either a private table at V&A's would be very nice. Someone also suggested getting the Grand I, price as far as I can tell is $350 per hour. If you want wine, food, or other things that will be extra, but it would be a wonderful way to celebrate your love for each other.

If money is a concern, how about a romantic dinner during the fireworks at the Cali Grill. Arrange you PS around the time of the MK fireworks and give him his ring then.

If you can get away for him for a few hours and know his ring size, why not get him something special right at WDW. I know the Contempoary has a wonderful jeweler there, with simply beautiful things. I'm sure other resorts also have some jewelers, as well but I can't comment. This would be especially true if you both LOVE Disney. I got a very pretty diamond ring there, it's set to look like Mickey's head. They have many things to choose from. They probably can even enscribe(too early I think that's the wrong spelling LOL) it for you.

I can think of one other thing that I've heard only great things about, but it's called Gifts of a Lifetime. They can be found at www.giftsofalifetime.com You can set up some very special things with them. I know several people who have proposed using them. Example a scavanger hunt that ends up at the Poly beach where they open their last gift and it's something like will you marry me, and then there's a ring inside. I belive they also take pics throughout this time. A lot of people swear by them. Just something else to look into.

Again Congrats!!! And I hope your night turns out to be very special...

Pammy

 

[LT Hambone]

Originally posted by Pammy_from_WI
I can think of one other thing that I've heard only great things about, but it's called Gifts of a Lifetime...

I did a Gifts of a Lifetime presentation on my honeymoon, and it was awesome! The only thing I would caution you on is that they tend to be very public affairs. However, if you talk to Jane and her Pixies, I'm sure they can be accomodating!


Good idea, and good luck!

 

[Selket]

Congrats on the anniversary! Unfortunately I'm more used to dealing with small children than romantic vacations over the past few years (that is cool too however). I just wanted to add that I wouldn't think twice about two men (or women) dining out anywhere together - including the more romantic restaurants. However it sounds like you would be more comfortable in a less crowded setting. I love the idea of the chef's table at V&A or the cruise! If you have a nice balcony a special catered dinner there also sounds very romantic.

Enjoy!!

CarolG

 

[floridafam]

I was also going to suggest a cruise on one of the boats or the Grand One.

Maybe you could even get the Grand One during a fireworks presentation. Very nice!

I think you will have a great meal just about anywhere at WDW. I think a meal at a restaurant during the fireworks at MK or Illuminations would be great.

You can arrange with the resort you are staying at for anything like flowers, etc. They are usually very helpful.

Enjoy your trip and let us know what you decide on for your anniversary.

 

[lwestwise]

I think you are so sweet and considerate. I wouldn't look at it like you are trying to hide, but you sure don't want anyone to ruin or put a damper on such a special occassion. I think that you would be fine to have your special time in a public place as suggested by other posters and still let it be your time to remember and enjoy.
My husband and I have had one of the most enjoyable times at what was formerly the Top of the World. We had dinner prior to our visit there and then went there for dessert and a drink and watched the fireworks. Also, we have gone on the balcony at the Contemporary just behind the stores (the exit door leads to a balcony that is not advertised and the view is awesome) there on the 4th level and watched the fireworks. We have done this more than once, sometimes it is more private than others, but it is always an experience. Congratulations to you and many more.

 

[Annie&Hallie'sMom]

For a meal out, as far as privacy is concerned, V&A might be the way to go (if you can afford it!). Especially if you are able to do the chef's table.

No matter what you do, I'd like to wish you and your partner a wonderful anniversary trip. And I hope you'll post all about it when you return this fall.

 

[Banshee]

My best friend and his partner stayed at AKL they had been together for 3 years and he felt ready for the next step! So he suprised him with a beautifull ring on the balcony over looking the savahna at sunset!! Very beautifull and romantic! The cast at AKL made it special he gave them a budget and they really made the room fabulous with exotic flower's fruit and cheese basket they even turned down the bed and sprinkled rose petal's on it!!they did all this while they were exploring the park when they came back to the room on the pretense of cleaning up before dinner,He was completly and pleasantly surprised!!The other posts about VA and the cruises are great also it depends on what you like!I am sure no matter you do will be a cherished memory! And dont feel like you are hiding you know that you love each other! and that is really all that matter's! Congratulations on your anniversary and have a wondefull time!!

 

[Marla Hellwig]

I am going to vote for V & A - if the chef's table is too much - you can choose to dine in the dining room - most nights there are 2 seatings in the dining room and only one at the Chef's Table

Congrats - report back and let us know how it all turns out!

 

[Mortlives]

I wish I could help with lots of suggestions for romance, but we travel with a child, so we don't get a lot of opportunity for that. However, you might try a moonlight stroll on the beach. That's good romancing for anyone. And Disney has a lot of beaches to choose from. If you're not comfortable holding hands in public, you could probably find a fairly secluded spot for your stroll. (For my part, I'd rather my son saw 2 men kissing than fighting, but I know there are others who don't agree). However, no matter what you choose, you have to post a trip report. And have a great anniversary!

Kungaloosh!
Mort.

 

[nicurnc]

Congatulations on your anniversary! We'll be spending our 30th anniversary with Mickey and Co. this October

I kind of like the balcony at sunset idea. I don't think of it as hiding, just incredibly romantic and private. Some of my fondest romantic memories I can relate to sunsets ( the Keys, Caribbean, mountains, sigh)

Your partner is very lucky to have such a thoughtful person planning such a special surprise. Much happiness to you both

Loretta

 

[zurgswife]

I think your partner is extremely fortunate to have such a caring partner.....I like the V&A, Breathless would also be great during a Fireworks show, Some of my other favorite restaurants are Jiko and Flying Fish....for romance I highly suggest Jiko and AKL has some beautiful outside areas to stroll in after dinner...

 

[briersue]

I agree with all the other posters.Anywhere you choose will be wonderful because you will be together.My husband and I travel with our two boys(15&3)and while most people wouldnt find this romantic I feel that being at Disney with whoever you love is the ultimate.Be as open or as private as you want and enjoy.I also would rather my boys see a loving couple no matter what kind.They have both been raised to know that love comes in all kinds of shapes,sizes,colors and combos.Best wishes!!!

 

[kakiax]

Congrats to you and your partner! I think the boat ride would be wonderful!

My partner and I love WDW and now with three children our quiet romantic moments are few and far between! But our last trip we stayed at GF and had a great view of Cindy's Castle and we loved sitting out and enjoying the view and the distant music (after the children were asleep!). It was very romantic!

We have been many times, alone and with our children, and we have had nothing but positive experiences.

Best of luck and keep us posted!

 

[RickinNYC]

Thank you all for your terrific suggestions! I especially like the Illuminations boat ride and the Victoria & Albert's ideas, they're wonderful.
I honestly had always thought that V&A would be a great place but never went beyond a mild consideration. It really sounds terrific! And truth be told, when we go out for a nice dinner in Manhattan, spending $150+ is pretty commonplace so the price isn't objectionable.
As for the cruise, that's very much our style. It's private, yet we get the absolute best view of the fireworks! And we're staying at the Boardwalk so it's a quick ride back to our temporary home!
One last point I'd like to express to my fellow board members. Thank you for not just giving the great suggestions; your support, not only in our relationship, but for our anniversary is truly appreciated.
13 years is a long time and I wouldn't give a second of it back. Joe, the other half, is a great person and I want to let him know how much I appreciate our time together. I tend to be the Grumpy in the relationship and he's chronically happy, thus the Mickey. Whenever I have the chance, I like to let him know through grandiose gestures how much our lives together are more important to me than I am capable of expressing on a daily basis.
And here's a secret that I haven't yet mentioned to you all, let alone him:
This coming 13 anniversary is the beginning of my hopes to plan a 15th anniversary for us, our friends, family and coworkers. 99% of our friends are in traditional, heterosexual relationships and are married with children. They have been with us through thick and thin. And virtually all of them have asked why we haven't "gone down the aisle." So I am hoping this is the beginning of the next level of our relationship. So not only do I want to surprise him with a celebration of our 13th, I really want to ask him to be my partner for the rest of our lives, to "marry" me for lack of better words.
I hope to plan a "wedding" and formal reception. And because I'm such a planner, I know that I'll need the two years to get everything and everyone together.
So I just might do ALL the suggestions you folks have made! Keep 'em coming! I still would like to hear about other ideas!
I'm always excited when I plan a trip to Disney World, but this is hopefully going to be the best vacation yet!

 

[yankeerose]

I love romance...I don't have any other suggestions but I'm sending good wishes and pixie dust your way. Joe is a lucky guy indeed.

 

[RickinNYC]

Hi folks!

For those that have shown support and sent such great ideas, I thought you might like to know that (drum roll please), I found the perfect ring and ordered it today!!

It's 14 kt gold, with a traditional claudagh symbol in the center with an emerald in the heart. Around the band is Mo Anam Cara, (Gaelic for My Soul Mate). My Joe is half Irish and extremely proud of his heritage and his favorite color is green. Perfect!

Now I just have to wait for it to arrive from Ireland!