A question for the guys or anyone who knows....

[Fishbone†]

When a guy has a bad day, and he's telling you about it.... cuz he's mad or whatever, are you supposed to just listen, try to help, comfort, ask questions (to better understand), encourage, be totally quiet or interact.......... maybe throw some pixie dust at him.

I know what my girlfriends want..... they want me to "cackle" with them...... we girls just want one big never-ending pow-wow.... but I don't know want he wants me to do...... what will make him feel better?

Anyone care to assist me?


Edited to add: Knowing some of the guys here, I've come back to add that this is a dating relationship, and I am a G-rated (or maybe sometimes slightly borderline "PG") girlfriend , so none of your R-rated ideas (Pop Daddy and Monkeyboy!!). Besides, this is a family board!

 

[Planogirl]

My DH prefers me to listen and give him a chance to vent. Then when he's about talked out, I ask questions because I'm interested. He likes that too.

My prior SO was like this too so maybe it's common?

 

[southernclass]

I think when you really love someone if something is bothering them than it tends to bother you until they are ok.

I have dated guys and they rambled on about stuff and I wanted them to shut up.

I later realized I did not care about their situation because I did not really care for them.
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My fiance and I have a wonderful relationship and we communicate all the time. If I am happy so is he, If I am sad, he is sad. We truly are one person and we are not even married yet but we are soul mates.

If you want some advice just try to be there for her the way she wants. Sometimes that means listening, sometimes roses, sometimes a hug. WOmen are hard to figure out so don't even try.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Originally posted by Planogirl
My DH prefers me to listen and give him a chance to vent. Then when he's about talked out, I ask questions because I'm interested. He likes that too.

Same here

 

[dizneegirl]

In my experience, guys like to ***** about it, get it out, and then be done with it. So I guess my advice would be to listen, and take cues from there...

 

[Fishbone†]

Thanks Southernclass..... only thing is, I am the girl, and uhhhh.... . HE is the boy, and I do care very much for him.... of course we've only known each other a little over two months, so it's all so new.......

And I am sad that he is sad, and I want for him to feel better - that's why I'm trying to find out what guys prefer when they want to vent.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

well with my ex boyfriend..he hated to talk baout his feelings and he usually had to work himself up to actually expressing them...when he did, i would usually just listen and let him talk since it takes alot for him to do that...then at the end, if he wanted my opionion, i would try to help him out..good luck!