A question for long-time dis'ers

[mickeyfan2]

When you were called a drama queen you asked us if we would let you start over. Of course, well your posts are back to drama queen, so you get the response that a drama queen does.

 

[greenyskp]

I posted something today that accidentally offended people because I didn't really clarify enough.

Turns out as well as offending people today, a lot of people aren't so keen on me anyway (although I've never once said a bad word to anyone here). It seems people think I lie, look for attention, exaggerate in my posts. None are true, I just have an 'eventful' life, if you can even call it that.

So I'm wondering, as I've made so many enemies here, would I be best off to cut my losses and not post anymore? or to 'carry on regardless'.?

I'm genuinely not asking this to look for sympathy or attention, I just wondered what general protocol is here. I like the disboards, I'm a student so I spend a lot of time in front of my computer, it's my bit of fun between boring essays. But who wants to be where they're not wanted right?

There are a LOT of people on these boards who search for DISers who dont spell correctly all the time, or who use poor grammar,or who give wrong advice, or not explain themselves fully, or whatever.

These people have no lives, and make the DIS and other message boards the way they communicate and feel important in the world. (probably because they have an empty life by bad marriage, or being lonely or whatever)

I went through something similar right before Christmas, where people saw my livejournal, and read something I wrote, that was written as an extreme exaggeration, and without thinking, labeled me a racist. And a biggot and many other things that just arent true.

Unless these boards are your life. I think you'll move on just fine. I pulled out of doing exchanges for awhile, because I dont want to receive mean things in the mail, when I go to so much trouble to do a good job, and Im not on the boards as much. I still go to disney once a month. And still communicate with a few friends on here.

The whole situation really opened my eyes, that this great, perfect community of Disney loving people, wasnt so perfect, and wasnt full of great people. Just like in the real world, there are mean, spiteful people on these boards.

There are also a lot of very nice people. That are very helpful.

Anyway - Just keep on, keepin on. I dont know what originally happened, but even if you meant whatever you said, who cares? Its your opinion and its a free country and you can think whatever you want. This is a message board on the internet. Not dinner with albert einstein. Its for fun. Use the boards for info, and if you want to post about your personal life, get a blog. (just dont link it to your DIS profile )

Good luck!


EDIT - right.. so i read through your posts... and you are a bit dramatic. My advice for you? A message board is not a friend. And venting constantly about everything little thing that enters your head is gonna make people view you as pathetic. All of our lives are plagued with drama. But I dont post on the DIS, everytime i get a new stress. I call a friend. Have a good cry, talk to my mom.... etc... Seriously. You gotta find another outlet.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

If you want people to stop thinking of you as a ditzy girl then quit acting like a ditzy girl. There are plenty of posters here who are younger than you are that don't continue with the melodrama post after post. they come across as much more mature.

You can either continue to post or not, but if you meow like a cat, purr like a cat, and walk like a cat, expect that we'll think you are a cat!

 

[florida-again]

Ok I'm going to go crazy and suggest something....

when you read my posts, try to read them thinking in a passive, english accent, rather than an american one.
Picture a typical, British, reserved person saying them and maybe they won't seem so dramatic. Because they don't seem dramatic to me nor do they read dramatic when I re-read them.

I'm not suggesting that's the answer, I'm just trying to work out why this has all gone so mad!

 

[jbdreamer]

Ok I'm going to go crazy and suggest something....

when you read my posts, try to read them thinking in a passive, english accent, rather than an american one.
Picture a typical, British, reserved person saying them and maybe they won't seem so dramatic. Because they don't seem dramatic to me nor do they read dramatic when I re-read them.

I'm not suggesting that's the answer, I'm just trying to work out why this has all gone so mad!

I think all this craziness would stop if you would just stop responding to everyones comments. Take a break and stop giving more ammo for people to use against you. You have 3 threads you are arguing on this very moment. Stop the madness.

 

[florida-again]

EDIT - right.. so i read through your posts... and you are a bit dramatic. My advice for you? A message board is not a friend. And venting constantly about everything little thing that enters your head is gonna make people view you as pathetic. All of our lives are plagued with drama. But I dont post on the DIS, everytime i get a new stress. I call a friend. Have a good cry, talk to my mom.... etc... Seriously. You gotta find another outlet.

That's good advice. I actually do talk to my friends, family, BF etc. I just got used to DIS being an additional outlet. But you know your advice really is good and I think I probably won't vent here so much.

Also sometimes I post something in a jokey, lighthearted way and it gets taken as a serious vent. For example I posted about BF complaining about my cooking and I meant 'oh my silly BF'....not 'I HATE MY BF', if you see what I mean.

Also...I'm now going to read over my posts to see if they seem dramatic to me, I guess people aren't getting this idea from no where.

 

[airhead]

Just let the thread fade away. There are people that really get off rakin' you over the coals. Just leave it and move on!

 

[Toby'sFriend]

when you read my posts, try to read them thinking in a passive, english accent, rather than an american one.
Picture a typical, British, reserved person saying them and maybe they won't seem so dramatic. Because they don't seem dramatic to me nor do they read dramatic when I re-read them.

oh I get it

More Margaret Thatcher, less Bridget Jones

check

 

[florida-again]

I think all this craziness would stop if you would just stop responding to everyones comments. Take a break and stop giving more ammo for people to use against you. You have 3 threads you are arguing on this very moment. Stop the madness.

good point, I think I'll go and have some dinner.

 

[mickeyboat]

I posted something today that accidentally offended people because I didn't really clarify enough.

Turns out as well as offending people today, a lot of people aren't so keen on me anyway (although I've never once said a bad word to anyone here). It seems people think I lie, look for attention, exaggerate in my posts. None are true, I just have an 'eventful' life, if you can even call it that.

So I'm wondering, as I've made so many enemies here, would I be best off to cut my losses and not post anymore? or to 'carry on regardless'.?

I'm genuinely not asking this to look for sympathy or attention, I just wondered what general protocol is here. I like the disboards, I'm a student so I spend a lot of time in front of my computer, it's my bit of fun between boring essays. But who wants to be where they're not wanted right?

No, I don't think you should leave. But I do think you should THINK. YOu have gotten a lot of advice on this thread, so I won't repeat it. But I will reiterate what I said on your other thread. We are all real people out here, nameless and faceless, but nonetheless, real people. When you say something inflammatory, we get inflamed. When you say something unbelievable, we don't believe it. When you say something overly dramatic ... well you get the picture. If you put yourself out there in a "raw" manner, be prepared.

Denae

 

[Pam]

oh I get it

More Margaret Thatcher, less Bridget Jones

check

And here I was thinking:

More Queen Elizabeth, less Prince Harry.....

 

[Patch'sD]

stick it out. If you enjoy it stay on and post whatever. Right now I am having a blast listening to Ted Kennedy question Alito about ethics.

 

[azgal81]

I wouldn't worry about it. Some people are just uptight. Who cares what people think about you it's a message board. I would think this is one of the better ones people on the mouseplanet boards are so bickering ish. It's kinda funny just to go there and see their posts.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Ok I'm going to go crazy and suggest something....

when you read my posts, try to read them thinking in a passive, english accent, rather than an american one.
Picture a typical, British, reserved person saying them and maybe they won't seem so dramatic. Because they don't seem dramatic to me nor do they read dramatic when I re-read them.

I'm not suggesting that's the answer, I'm just trying to work out why this has all gone so mad!

See, that is part of the problem. I think of British people as being more reserved and Americans as being more talkative and in your face, so it's hard for us to see a British person that is more melodramatic than an American girl your age.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

I wouldn't worry about at all! Don't worry what other people(especially internet) think about you.
I've read many insulting threads with no harsh feelings taken.
It's hard sometimes to put your thoughts in words, especially when you have to type it over the internet.

That's propably half the time most people have no idea what I'm writing about!

 

[CheshireVal]

Ok I'm going to go crazy and suggest something....

when you read my posts, try to read them thinking in a passive, english accent, rather than an american one.
Picture a typical, British, reserved person saying them and maybe they won't seem so dramatic. Because they don't seem dramatic to me nor do they read dramatic when I re-read them.

I'm not suggesting that's the answer, I'm just trying to work out why this has all gone so mad!

Sometimes it's really not just how you say it.... it's *what* you say.

 

[scubamouse]

Generally I find you easy to just ignore because I can do a good job not getting pulled into someone else's drama (real or imagined). I can pull this off even when you do have 6 threads you've started all running at the same time.

Respect is earned and friendship requires reciprocity.

Unless you take some of the advice given here, you'll continue to get flamed. You've been given excellent advice on the thread. Now it's up to you to decide whether you want to take it.

 

[Caropooh]

I'll admit when I see a post started by you, my first reaction is "oh, NOW what has happened to her?" You seem to have more drama (real or thought in your head to be real) than most people here on the board. You do also seem to have many contridictions in your life. For instance you are a "non-religious Jew that grew up going to Jewish schools and happens to have a family that exchanges Christmas presents."
I read your posts more for the humor of your crisis' than for anything meaningful.

 

[grinningghost]

General protocol is don't say anything that might be offensive. Which is pretty much everything. But throw anything about the Holocaust into the pot, and you've got a real mess. That's the hottest button there is. Hang in there kid, we all make mistakes.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I read your posts more for the humor of your crisis' than for anything meaningful.

Same here.