a difficult subject, death.

[binny]

I hate talking about death and try very hard to not go to funerals, but these two things this week have me pondering a few things.

First, I went to a funeral Friday and while it made me sad that a great man was gone he led a full and happy life and his children had so many wonderful things to say about him.

Today I found out that a playmate of my girls was killed in an accident 2 weeks ago.


Life can be so short and so unpredictable. It makes me want to hold tight to my children and never let them go.

I know that isnt possible to protect them from everything but I want to anyway, at least today I do.



It also has me thinking about my own funeral and how things would be if I died today.

1) Have I done what I was meant to do? There is so much more I want to do!

2) Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? I hope so. I try to show it. Maybe I need to be better at that.

3) How would people remember me? What would they say at my funeral?



Morbid I know, to be talking like this, but the last few days really having me thinking.

How would you answer those questions?

What others would you have?




God Bless

 

[*Fantasia*]

I know I'm scared of death, and I'm sure not ready to go anytime soon. Life is too short, I found that out when my husband passed away almost 5 years ago 12/09 at the age of 32 with two day shy from our 7th year anniversary. At that time he left me with our beautiful children who were 5 and 2. It was a very difficult moment for my family and his. It was a sure wake up call for me. I am more of a better person now than I was before. I appreciate life now than ever before and always thank the Lord for the Blessings.

If I was to die today..
1) Have I done what I was meant to do?
Of course not.. I want to see my children grow up and raise their own children.

2) Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them?
I am very affectionate with my children, but not so much with my parents and siblings, but I know that they know I love them dearly.

3) How would people remember me? What would they say at my funeral?
I think they would remember me as a Disney Nutz! I think they would remember me as someone who never wants to grow up- living in the Neverland fantasy! I'm not a bad person, so I don't think they would say anythign negative about me, but only the love I have shown to my children and lived a quiet life who can't get enough of Disney.

 

[Sparx]

Several years ago (I want to say three) I was hurt in a freak accident at home. I could've easily died. But I didn't. Every day after that I've tried to live to the fullest. If I died right now, I would have no regrets about how I lived. If I could change anything, I would hurt a few less people. But my life is me. My past is my present and my present is my future. Every second in my life plans out the second ahead of it. I live without regrets and I don't like to wish. I get out and do what I need to, and I live.

 

[dmslush]

1) Have I done what I was meant to do? At this point, at this age, yes I have done what I wanted to do. However, I still have plans for the future, but I am on track. If someone stopped me in my tracks, I wouldn't have any regrets


2) Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? Yes. Those close to me know that they are my world and I love them dearly. They know that they are what keep me going each day and that they make life easy for me.


3) How would people remember me? What would they say at my funeral?I think I would be remembered as funny and loving. I don't have a clue what they would say at my funeral, but I hope they play some really good music!!

 

[WDWLVR]

16 years ago I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Thankfully it was stage 1 and after surgery and 6 rounds of chemo I've been clean since then. Still laying in that hospital room I didn't know what my future held. I was recently engaged and was wondering if it was fair to my husband to be that I could never carry a child of his.

16 years later we are still together and I can't help but feel our lives get better every year. We are blessed to own our home (small but cozy and paid for), we are blessed to own DVC, and we are blessed to be able to afford some great vacations. I've had some other health issues but nothing that can't be controlled.

So I live life every day as if it will be my last. I wake up in the morning and thank the good Lord for giving me another chance. I go to sleep each night after thanking him for giving me another day.

1) Have I done what I was meant to do? I think so, I could always do better but all in all yes.

2) Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? Again I think so, especially those I'm closest too.

3) How would people remember me? What would they say at my funeral? I would hope it would be a true Irish funeral with as many laughs as there are tears. I hope I would be remembered as a good daughter, wife and friend.

 

[Cool-Beans]

1) Have I done what I was meant to do? I think so, so far. But there's a lot left on my list.

2) Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? I don't think they can know how MUCH I love them, but they all I know I love them very much.

3) How would people remember me? As I was, I guess. Maybe better than I was, as time goes on!

What would they say at my funeral? I hope they say a lot of prayers for me to get into heaven! Other than that, I can't imagine.


I just hope that if I die young (or, youngish) that my husband finds someone else to love, and to love him and take care of him. And that my kids get love and support from people around them.

The kids thing would bother me the most...you want to be there for your kids, you know?

But this is not too healthy to be dwelling on. Odds are we aren't going to die young!

 

[MidgeD79]

My dd Jessica 926) died on 4/29/06 and ds Michael (18) died 8/22/03. It is much better to think and talk about these things before you have to. Jessica left 2 children Kyleigh (10) and Kyle (3). Her marker reads "what a wonderful render and kind, what a beautiful memory you left behind"

 

[Feralpeg]

1) Have I done what I was meant to do? I hope so. I know I've added a wonderful person to the world in the form of my DD.

2) Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? I think people know how much I care about them. I am positive DD knows that she is my world.

3) How would people remember me? I hope that people will smile when they remember me. Could I ask for more?

4) What would they say at my funeral? I've given instructions to my family that I do not want a funeral. I want them to throw a big party and have a blast with all my friends. I'm pretty sure I'll be someplace very nice and I'd hate to think of those I care about grieving. I'd much rather know they are having a great time.

 

[Planogirl]

Interesting questions to think about.

1) Have I done what I was meant to do? This one seems impossible to answer. How can anyone know what they are meant to do? I think that all we can really do is our best and hope that we at least get close. Doing what we WANT to do is a lot different than doing what we are meant to do I think.


2) Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? I think so. I'm not real demonstrative and people know that. They also know that I care a lot.


3) How would people remember me? What would they say at my funeral? I'm not really sure.... I just hope that those who matter would at least remember me in a good way.

 

[minkydog]

1) Have I done what I was meant to do? Yes. God blessed me with 3 kids I never thought I'd have. I've done my best to raise them right and give them a Christian foundation. I've tried to live my life with good character.

2) Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? Yes. I tell my kids & DH every day that I love them, we never leave each other without saying those words.

3) How would people remember me? What would they say at my funeral? I hope they will remember me as a girl who liked to have fun, who was a good mother and a good wife, who was dependable and confident and sincere.

I used to think I didn't want a funeral, but having attended 3 important (to me)funerals in the last 4yrs, I can say it was very helpful to the families to have the funeral. Each one was different and each one reflected that persons life. For the sake of my siblings, DH & children, I hope they have a nice funeral, followed by a catered picnic--fried chicken, corn, mashed potatoes, salad, pickles, baked beans. Paper plates, no cleanup. Then later, I want my DH & children to take my ashes up to the mountains and cast them in the forest where we camp so they can come back again, if they wish to "visit" me.

 

[ReggieB]

1) Have I done what I was meant to do?
No, I don't think I have, but I have had been able to pass on some of my passions to my DS6
2) Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? My family, for sure.
There are some people that have made guest appearances in my life that probably don't realize what an impact they did make!
3) How would people remember me? What would they say at my funeral?
No idea, really! As long as they got the facts right, my Dad's funeral had me and my brother almost giggling. I know, completely inappropriate, but they got everything wrong. It was like something out of a sitcom. The funniest thing was the vicar/priest still having our Mum married to Dad, who must have been really turning in his grave at that point, actually I think he would have seen the funny side too.

 

[jimmiej]

1) Have I done what I was meant to do? There is so much more I want to do!

I don't have a "list" of things I must accomplish before I die. There are some things I still want to do. There's alot of WDW hotels I haven't stayed in yet!

2) Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? I hope so. I try to show it. Maybe I need to be better at that.

They would, but I need to tell them more.

3) How would people remember me? What would they say at my funeral?

I want to be remembered as a servant of Jesus. I want them to rejoice that I'm in the presence of my Savior.

 

[Disneyfan63]

Have I done what I was meant to do? No, there are some things I haven't done that I still want to do.

Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? I don't know. I try to show and tell the people to whom I am closest, how much I love them. Perhaps, in different ways, some of them already know.

How would people remember me? What would they say at my funeral? I would like to be remembered as one who loved God and tried to be a good servant. As a funny, fun-loving, decent person for whom people rejoice when I meet my Savior. I want Him to say, "Well done, Jim, My faithful servant. Welcome home." (Even though I do not own DVC lol.)

Jim

 

[Alaska DogCat]

About 8 years ago, I had a seizure and "woke up" coming out of the MRI at the hospital. Before that, I never really thought about the inevitably of it all. Life can change in a moment--we don't know how much time we have or when our time will be up. Consciousness is a precarious state of existence.

I try to concentrate on creating a legacy. Since I don't have or want kids, my work is my primary outlet for this attempt at legacy. I hope the work that I do will create a better world and empower people in the communities I work.

I've also come to terms with the fact that I am never going to have enough time to do everything I want to. I'm just so grateful that I have had the chance to live, love and learn. Inevitably, it will end...hopefully not for a long time and hopefully at an age where it won't be a total surprise to my loved ones.

 

[Planogirl]

I've been thinking about the first question about doing what I'm meant to do. I find it frustrating because I want to do so much to help and maybe make a difference but I never can be in a position to do much. I constantly feel like time is slipping away and I just run in place if that makes sense. Oh well, I'm just rambling now I guess but it is interesting to think about these things.

 

[disneycutie84]

Have I done what I was meant to do? No, I'm only 21..but so far I think I have done well.

Would everyone in my life know how much I loved them? Yes. I tell everyone, very often. I learned to do that a few months ago when my grandmother was dying. Every time I went to see her, I made sure I told her that I loved her. I now do that with everyone I am close to.

How would people remember me? They would probably remember me as a disney freak ( ) and a lover of all animals. I am sure many would remember my sarcasm and random sense of humor. I would hope that people would remember me as an intellectual also.