A Daily Lesson in Parenting and Manners: A TR by a real life Wicked Stepmom!

[SereneOne]

Love your TR, looking forward to the rest!

And the evilstepmom thing...been a custodial one for over 13 years...dealing with a borderline personality disorder addict...hell on earth, I tell ya. Seems to be a lot of "golden uterus" syndrome in these cases. (Golden uterus syndrome is a term on many stepmother sites about the fact that they can do no wrong, are always right and deserve special priviliges for having giving birth to THEIR childrrreeennnn, which in our case she abandoned when they where 18 months, 2 and a half and 4).

Anyways, we will be at Disney in December.

 

[pongoperdigirl]

Miss Cammie.

I love your report. You made me cry!!!!!!!

Looks like Disney agrees with your Sally!

I need to go look at my pics from the 21st....

 

[winkers]

I'm so sorry about your jerk of a doctor! At least the mystery nausea has been solved.

 

[snowwhite325]

OMG Miss Cammie I have the funniest story to tell you, when it happened I thought of you right away. I was at the grocery store and this woman and her son tried to cut me off so they could get to a line that had just opened up. I had just gotten in the line as she was walking over and I started to empty my cart, well she just wasn't having it so she said to put my groceries back in my cart because she was there first. I told her that was nice but I already had taken my stuff out of my cart, then I flashed her my infamous evil eye and she turned her cart around as she told my how rude I was and called me a wonderful name which I won't repeat here. All I could think was how you would have given her your evil eyebrow and I started laughing as I finished emptying my cart. I know you have been having a rough day so I hope this story of me and my evil eye helps brighten it a little bit

 

[CampbellScot]

Subscribing, wonderful trip report thank you.

It's sad that so many mom's torture their kids after divorce, I wish that there was some follow up after divorce to determine if there is emotional abuse and parental alienation syndrome going on in either house.
Oh by the way don't worry about karma, I doubted it for a long time because it takes entirely too long to bite back, but when it does come back it strikes hard and fast and it isn't pretty. Just keep being the best wicked step mom that you can be...those kids need you more than you think.

Thanks for reading!!

It's so true about the parental alienation syndrome. It happens A LOT. Sometimes mom's don't even realize what they are doing. My own mother referred to my dad as my "stupid father" for years. Uh...actually she still does! He may even deserve the title, but it's hard on the kids.

I hope that the kids can come through this okay...a little help from karma would be deliciously satisfying, but I'm MUCH too ladylike to wish for something like that...or am i?

I can't wait to read more. Supposed to be working but I can't help it. I want to hear more about your trip. I have never had an ear infection that bad and my heart goes out to you and those great kids too. They are real keepers. Send them my best from all your new DIS friends.

thanks SO much for the nice comments!!! Thanks for reading!!

Thinking your doctor is a jerk anyway for you some more of this...

THANK YOU!!! Even cyber hugs are nice!!! That doctor is a big jerk. Perhaps he wasn't exposed enough to Disney when he was young...

Subscribing......I have enjoyed your TR report very much this far.

As for the ears.....I have never had an ear problem in my life and I woke up about a month ago and couldn't hear out of my right ear. The doctors are working on it right now and hopefully everything will be fine, but I feel badly for you, especially if you are feeling bad everyday!

Oh gosh, I know how that feels!! I wish you the best with your ear troubles. It's really scary when you are dealing with your hearing. Then again, if your husband says something you don't like you can smile sweetly and say "Speak a little louder next time darling...I couldn't hear you..." I often use that until I get the answer I want...

Oooo...we call those pretty toes...because my DS at age 2 really noticed them for the first time and exclaimed, "oooooo....preeeeeety toes."

I hope there's a spa pedicure chair there, relaxation, and some escapism...

It was HEAVEN!! Lovely warm foot soak, aroma therapy and pink toenails...WITH FLOWERS! It was just what I needed!!

Cammie -

I'm appalled at the mom. I could tell you what I would do in that situation and it's NOT give up - you guys are absolutely entitled to have your "50%" with the kids. From where I sit, if she keeps acting like that, I say you have a pretty strong case for full physical custody with MOM to have visitation. I don't get the people who don't see what this type of crap does to kids. I don't think I should get started - it's my soapbox these days!!! Hang in there!

Well, she's no dummy...she knows what she can and can't say and how close to the line she can get. Jay had horrible representation when he first got divorced. It's haunted him ever since. I don't know if there is anything we can do as it seems to be becoming a "he said/she said" situation. It's a perfect example of a biased court system. It stinks. Much. And we don't want to take the kids from their mom. Moms are VERY important to kids. I know that. We just don't want her to take them from us and turn us into that every other weekend cliche. Which is what she wants. RAR! sucks.

for you and a for Donald

donald and I appreciate the hugs!!

P.S.
I can help you hide the body.......

*ahem* I'm SHOCKED...what was your number again?

I knew it was something to do with the ulcers or whatever... I'm sorry you feel so icky and that the doctor was a jerkazoid. Blech...
Hope you are feeling better soon and surgery is not needed.
And that was very wicked of you to leave us hanging like that.

well you know, wicked IS my specialty!!!

YES! The monorail does smell like a barn. I never understood it. In fact, I've heard a rumor that it's the cleaning supplies used confused3 ),but NOW I know it's because the animals get to ride around in it after the park closes. It all makes sense now. Thank you Teddy!

And my heart aches for Sally. She'll come through okay. So many of us have. Not totally unscathed, but okay. She's got good people around her, even if they do clean too much and have ulcers

yes...my husband just did a little happy dance b/c tomorrow is Saturday, aka CLEANING DAY!! HE's the nut job when it comes to cleaning...usually...

Isn't Teddy BRILLIANT!!

Miss Cammie, I just found your report - wow, it has had me laughing and crying - everyone at work thinks I'm nuts (more than usual)

My children are almost 7 -dd and 4 year old ds - they are so like your kids. DS kisses my arm at random moments also - it just makes me smile everytime. He is also a daredevil - just like your's - so I know how you feel. I was really hoping you were pg, but as the nurse said, it will happen when it's supposed to.

You are a wonderful role model for "step-mothers" - that has to be one of the hardest things to be. I admire you for how you are handling it- you are doing a GREAT job

I can't wait to read more of your report - we will be at the lodge in 29 day's and can't wait I think I'm going to steal some of your rules for disney - should make for a much less stressful trip.

Thanks so much for taking us on your trip with you

thanks for reading!!! The Wilderness Lodge is something special. I love it there. When I finally convince my husband that we need DVC, we are SO going Wilderness Lodge Villas!!! Have a BLAST on your trip!!!

Just want to put my 2 cents in and say get rid of that Doctor!! What a jerk!!...you totally don't need to put up with that. As a nurse I deal with a lot of Doctors....but that one sounds like he has absolutely no manners or bedside manner.

He's not my normal ear doctor. I had to see him last minute b/c my ENT is out of town. When I called to see if I could get in with my regular doctor the receptionist said "Noooo, gosh I'm sorry...but Dr....uh-oh...I'm sorry to do this to you, but Dr. Jerkoff is covering..." Yeah she wasn't kidding. (she didn't call him Dr. Jerk off, but I'm POSITIVE that's his real name!

First off Sorry about your ears....my SIL and Aviva both suffered badly with ear issues. So I can relate. Aviva had such a high pain tolerrance most of the time she never complained.

Sally truly makes you smile the things she says and does it just so sweet.

Love the Captain Jack look with the crocs!!

I know, isn't he DARLING with the Captain Jack hat paired with the Croclings?!

thanks for reading everyone!!! Y'all ROCK!!!

 

[CampbellScot]

Love your TR, looking forward to the rest!

And the evilstepmom thing...been a custodial one for over 13 years...dealing with a borderline personality disorder addict...hell on earth, I tell ya. Seems to be a lot of "golden uterus" syndrome in these cases. (Golden uterus syndrome is a term on many stepmother sites about the fact that they can do no wrong, are always right and deserve special priviliges for having giving birth to THEIR childrrreeennnn, which in our case she abandoned when they where 18 months, 2 and a half and 4).

Anyways, we will be at Disney in December.

Golden UTERUS!!! I LOVE THAT!!! That is EXACTLY what we are dealing with!! When Jay initially said to her "You can't move an hour away"..her response was "I'm their mother..." Yeah AND? Like Jay was totally unimportant in the whole thing.

It's VERY frustrating. I'm very glad to know that there are others on the Dis who are wicked step mom's too! I've actually gotten some snarky responses from people when I commented that I required my step kids to carry their own autograph books in the parks...people came back with "As you are not their REAL mother, you can't understand how HURTFUL you are being to those children..." One lady offered to pray that I would learn to love like a mother so the children wouldn't be scarred by my presence in their lives... nice...

Miss Cammie.

I love your report. You made me cry!!!!!!!

Looks like Disney agrees with your Sally!

I need to go look at my pics from the 21st....

I wonder if you DID see us?! What a small world this is sometimes!!! Did you find the park sort of packed for a hard ticket event? I think we didn't know what to expect...cuz it seemed pretty crowded to us. We had a blast anyhow though!

Did YOU dress up?!

I'm so sorry about your jerk of a doctor! At least the mystery nausea has been solved.

I'm sorry he is a jerk too...but maybe he had some stabbing pains this afternoon...y'know to make him sorry...which had NOTHING to do with my sister offering to make a voodoo doll of him!!

OMG Miss Cammie I have the funniest story to tell you, when it happened I thought of you right away. I was at the grocery store and this woman and her son tried to cut me off so they could get to a line that had just opened up. I had just gotten in the line as she was walking over and I started to empty my cart, well she just wasn't having it so she said to put my groceries back in my cart because she was there first. I told her that was nice but I already had taken my stuff out of my cart, then I flashed her my infamous evil eye and she turned her cart around as she told my how rude I was and called me a wonderful name which I won't repeat here. All I could think was how you would have given her your evil eyebrow and I started laughing as I finished emptying my cart. I know you have been having a rough day so I hope this story of me and my evil eye helps brighten it a little bit

Oh my gosh I DIED laughing when I read that!!! Isn't the evil eye an AWESOME power to possess?! How RUDE can people be? It just slays me how inconsiderate people have become. I hope you slapped her around GOOD with the eyebrow!!!

thank you thank you everyone for reading!!!

more TR is on the way!!! My ear is aching me tonight. I feel like I've been under water. The kids came back to us this evening and Sally said "MissCammie...if you want me to kick that mean doctor I will...we can go hide behind his car and WAIT for him...and then KICK HIM and tell him he's MEAN...and no one would catch us b/c it's DARK..." Good lord this child has a sense of revenge that is well honed...I LOVE IT!!!

 

[pongoperdigirl]

No, I didn't dress up, but I did wear an eye patch and have a blow up sword.

You may have seen me and my husband have sword fights with those swords, we were all out wailing on each other with them cause they were soooo funny.



The people that we were with had no clue, we went on pirates, we had the inflatable swords in our pocket, so while it was dark we blew them up. And we put on the eye patches. We surprised them when we got off the ride. It was hilarious.

We had so much fun bopping each other with the swords.

 

[CampbellScot]

No, I didn't dress up, but I did wear an eye patch and have a blow up sword.

You may have seen me and my husband have sword fights with those swords, we were all out wailing on each other with them cause they were soooo funny.



The people that we were with had no clue, we went on pirates, we had the inflatable swords in our pocket, so while it was dark we blew them up. And we put on the eye patches. We surprised them when we got off the ride. It was hilarious.

We had so much fun bopping each other with the swords.

how FUNNY that you surprised people by being all sly and blowing up the swords in the dark! That is SO something I would do!! My husband is a bit more serious, but he's been known to cut up from time to time!!

I'm trying to remember if we saw people bopping each other with swords...I'm sure I did...hmmm...a lot of my memories of that night include "Teddy, don't run...*smack* see, buddy I told you to SLOW DOWN...are you bleeding?...Teddy, I need your hand please...Teddy, please sit DOWN when the kid transporter is moving..." He had a BALL!!

I'm glad y'all had a good time. We really did too. The party that happened on the 24th got DELUGED with rain...I think I saw Noah's Arc that evening! It was CRAZY...but I heard tell they were letting people just stay on the rides over and over until they wanted to get off. Pretty cool trade off!!!

 

[disneydance]

Ok I love ur TR Sally sounds like the cutest Its great how disney can just transform a sad person into a happy person in seconds. Your kids sound so cute and i want more of Chapter 5 NOW

 

[TxRabbit]

I'm glad y'all had a good time. We really did too. The party that happened on the 24th got DELUGED with rain...I think I saw Noah's Arc that evening! It was CRAZY...but I heard tell they were letting people just stay on the rides over and over until they wanted to get off. Pretty cool trade off!!!

We were at THAT P&PP party! And NOT to hijack your thread...because I wouldn't want to get a wicked e-eyebrow...if anyone else was in attendance at that P&PP on 8/24, apparently your P&PP ticket is good for one admission into the magic kindgom which can be redeemed for one year from 8/24/2007...all P&PP tickets for that date have been programed, just put it in the ticket reader and you are good to go . Again, I apologize if this is rude to post...no eyebrow pleeeeeease...but I just found this out...and I am taking this opportunity to share with many...because you are so popular and all.

Please post more...

 

[jenins121681]

Thanks for reading!!

It's so true about the parental alienation syndrome. It happens A LOT. Sometimes mom's don't even realize what they are doing. My own mother referred to my dad as my "stupid father" for years. Uh...actually she still does! He may even deserve the title, but it's hard on the kids.

I hope that the kids can come through this okay...a little help from karma would be deliciously satisfying, but I'm MUCH too ladylike to wish for something like that...or am i?



thanks SO much for the nice comments!!! Thanks for reading!!



THANK YOU!!! Even cyber hugs are nice!!! That doctor is a big jerk. Perhaps he wasn't exposed enough to Disney when he was young...



Oh gosh, I know how that feels!! I wish you the best with your ear troubles. It's really scary when you are dealing with your hearing. Then again, if your husband says something you don't like you can smile sweetly and say "Speak a little louder next time darling...I couldn't hear you..." I often use that until I get the answer I want...



It was HEAVEN!! Lovely warm foot soak, aroma therapy and pink toenails...WITH FLOWERS! It was just what I needed!!



Well, she's no dummy...she knows what she can and can't say and how close to the line she can get. Jay had horrible representation when he first got divorced. It's haunted him ever since. I don't know if there is anything we can do as it seems to be becoming a "he said/she said" situation. It's a perfect example of a biased court system. It stinks. Much. And we don't want to take the kids from their mom. Moms are VERY important to kids. I know that. We just don't want her to take them from us and turn us into that every other weekend cliche. Which is what she wants. RAR! sucks.



donald and I appreciate the hugs!!





*ahem* I'm SHOCKED...what was your number again?



well you know, wicked IS my specialty!!!



yes...my husband just did a little happy dance b/c tomorrow is Saturday, aka CLEANING DAY!! HE's the nut job when it comes to cleaning...usually...

Isn't Teddy BRILLIANT!!



thanks for reading!!! The Wilderness Lodge is something special. I love it there. When I finally convince my husband that we need DVC, we are SO going Wilderness Lodge Villas!!! Have a BLAST on your trip!!!



He's not my normal ear doctor. I had to see him last minute b/c my ENT is out of town. When I called to see if I could get in with my regular doctor the receptionist said "Noooo, gosh I'm sorry...but Dr....uh-oh...I'm sorry to do this to you, but Dr. Jerkoff is covering..." Yeah she wasn't kidding. (she didn't call him Dr. Jerk off, but I'm POSITIVE that's his real name!



I know, isn't he DARLING with the Captain Jack hat paired with the Croclings?!

thanks for reading everyone!!! Y'all ROCK!!!

Sounds like a fitting name for him

 

[oybolshoi]

And you thought your TR wasn't going to be good...

PSHAW!!! Or as I learned in Russian class many years back... FEE!!

You've made me tear up at my desk at work and then you've made me cackle like a hen...do hens actually cackle? I'm using a tired cliche because I am tired...

You really do have a wonderful TR going here, Campbell. And your love and care for your Jay and the children shines through - they're lucky to have you.

BTW - sorry to hear about your visit with Dr. Jerkface. Whatever happened to sensitivity training for physicians?

And... shamless plug but I finally updated one of my trippies (it's a miracle of time and space).

Hope you feel better soon!

 

[maiziezoe]

Love your report!

My step-daughter had a birthday two weeks after we told her and her mother that we were going to Disney in September. Her first reaction was ... then she thought about it and asked if we could bring her mom with us. Ummm... NO!

Several days later, my father in law asked my step-daughter she would like for her birthday. She said, "I would like you to send my mommy and me to Disney.... without my daddy."



Step-parenting is tough.

 

[skywaywaver]

It's VERY frustrating. I'm very glad to know that there are others on the Dis who are wicked step mom's too! I've actually gotten some snarky responses from people when I commented that I required my step kids to carry their own autograph books in the parks...people came back with "As you are not their REAL mother, you can't understand how HURTFUL you are being to those children..." One lady offered to pray that I would learn to love like a mother so the children wouldn't be scarred by my presence in their lives... nice...

Well, I guess I better start a group of wicked moms because you bet I would make my DD carry her own autograph book (when she wants one). I think that praying lady should pray that YOU aren't scarred by HER presence in YOUR life!
And I fail to see how "real" and "unreal" mothers determine whether you see whether or not your child is hurt...you are a wonderful mom, as I can see that you are very understanding when it comes to the kids' "things" (eating only certain things, wanting to change into Belle later), way more than their "real" mom seems to be.
You know what? I think you should stop calling them your stepkids to us. To me, they're your kids. You love them and that's all that matters.

 

[CampbellScot]

Ok I love ur TR Sally sounds like the cutest Its great how disney can just transform a sad person into a happy person in seconds. Your kids sound so cute and i want more of Chapter 5 NOW

It's in the works!!! The kids are here, which makes sitting to write for longer than 5 minutes at a time pert near impossible!

We were at THAT P&PP party! And NOT to hijack your thread...because I wouldn't want to get a wicked e-eyebrow...if anyone else was in attendance at that P&PP on 8/24, apparently your P&PP ticket is good for one admission into the magic kindgom which can be redeemed for one year from 8/24/2007...all P&PP tickets for that date have been programed, just put it in the ticket reader and you are good to go . Again, I apologize if this is rude to post...no eyebrow pleeeeeease...but I just found this out...and I am taking this opportunity to share with many...because you are so popular and all.

Please post more...

I would NEVER eyebrow someone without true provocation...like not doing what I say...or being a jerkface doctor! I do not abuse the power of the eyebrow!

As for your P&PP tickets being good for a whole year...LUCKY!!!!! Man, I sort of wish WE had gone to that one...then I'd have a FABULOUS excuse to get my husband back to Disney even sooner!!!

Sounds like a fitting name for him

I swear Dr. Jerkoff is his real name...his first name being "Iamanignorant" seriously...it is...

And you thought your TR wasn't going to be good...

PSHAW!!! Or as I learned in Russian class many years back... FEE!!

You've made me tear up at my desk at work and then you've made me cackle like a hen...do hens actually cackle? I'm using a tired cliche because I am tired...

You really do have a wonderful TR going here, Campbell. And your love and care for your Jay and the children shines through - they're lucky to have you.

BTW - sorry to hear about your visit with Dr. Jerkface. Whatever happened to sensitivity training for physicians?

And... shamless plug but I finally updated one of my trippies (it's a miracle of time and space).

Hope you feel better soon!

Is it Argle-Bargle or Foofarah? Did I spell those right? Is that the one?! The one with your Grimace and the "Good behavior" lottery tickets?! Oh lord I DIE every time I think about you shouting "Jason LIKES IT when I don't wear PANTS!!" at your mother!! Classic good trip reporting!!

Anybody who wants endless laughs, fabulous food descriptions, great pictures and truly talented writing...read Oybolshoi's aka Brenda's TR. It's FABULOUS!!!

Love your report!

My step-daughter had a birthday two weeks after we told her and her mother that we were going to Disney in September. Her first reaction was ... then she thought about it and asked if we could bring her mom with us. Ummm... NO!

Several days later, my father in law asked my step-daughter she would like for her birthday. She said, "I would like you to send my mommy and me to Disney.... without my daddy."



Step-parenting is tough.

OUCH! I wonder if her mommy is filling her head with mean things to say. I'll tell you what, my wickedness would NOT have allowed that to go. I'm sort of in the camp of hateful things being said are NOT okay, no matter WHAT they are said about. Maybe it's b/c I'm wicked...but kids aren't stupid and they learn really quickly that sometimes people feel sorry for them b/c their parents are divorced, so they are allowed to say hateful and hurtful things with no consequence.They learn to be abusive to one parent to make the other happy. That is not acceptable. In my very humble and not at all outspoken opinion...*ahem*

You are a good step mom too!! Any person who plans a trip to Disney for munchkins has GOT to have goodness in their heart! Hang in there!!!

Well, I guess I better start a group of wicked moms because you bet I would make my DD carry her own autograph book (when she wants one). I think that praying lady should pray that YOU aren't scarred by HER presence in YOUR life!
And I fail to see how "real" and "unreal" mothers determine whether you see whether or not your child is hurt...you are a wonderful mom, as I can see that you are very understanding when it comes to the kids' "things" (eating only certain things, wanting to change into Belle later), way more than their "real" mom seems to be.
You know what? I think you should stop calling them your stepkids to us. To me, they're your kids. You love them and that's all that matters.

Thank you so much for your kind words. It's such a crazy and complicated situation. I do all the things a mom would do for these kids, yet I have ZERO say in their lives beyond the four walls of my house. It's frustrating. Makes you want to throw things...at people...hard...ish...or that could just be me...*cough*

 

[princessjv]

Don't get me STARTED on the irresponsibility of parents in today's world. It's an epidemic. THEY ARE YOUR KIDS. THEY MAY BE THE CENTER OF YOUR UNIVERSE, BUT THEY ARE NOT THE CENTER OF MINE OR ANYONE ELSES!!! PARENT THEM. TEACH THEM. GUIDE THEM...PUNISH THEM IF THEY NEED IT....PERIOD.

AHHHHHMEN Sister! Not sure what parents are thinking, but they are not only doing society a DIS-service, BUT their kiddos too!

Your 'ways' are too funny and right on the money. I often get many-a-dirty-look for correcting my children's behavior. I am glad to know that I am not the only one with standards of gold. It is our job to teach our little ones right from wrong. It is their time, as children to make their mistakes and learn.

I hope you all enjoyed the P&P Party. We attended the 2nd one last Jan. and LOVED IT!


I am so sorry for the ear troubles. I do hope it will all be resolved without surgery. As I am sure you understand...Things seem to fall into place when they are intended too. Keep your head up and you will be rewarded when time is right.

 

[TandT]

THE DEFINITION OF A STEP-MOM = A woman who by her own choice loves and cares for her husbands child/children. A stepmother is the mother in her household. Gods gift to some children who's biological mother (AKA "Golden Uterus") lacks in certain motherly skills.

 

[CampbellScot]

THE DEFINITION OF A STEP-MOM = A woman who by her own choice loves and cares for her husbands child/children. A stepmother is the mother in her household. Gods gift to some children who's biological mother (AKA "Golden Uterus") lacks in certain motherly skills.

I think I'm going to needlepoint that on a pillow...especially the part about the "Golden Uterus"!!!

LOVE IT!!

 

[Shannie]

Loving your TP!!! Cant wait to read more about the pirate and princess party!! Hurry up with the next part!!!!....LOL, J/K!!!...But really, hurry up!!!

 

[Minnie Lor]

You have such a darling family and you're obviously a wonderful mom.