A Daily Lesson in Parenting and Manners: A TR by a real life Wicked Stepmom!

[Hendoendo]

Oops I almost forgot great trip report. I love that your step daughter, no make that daughter you seem to be more like a real mother to her, points out when kids don't use manners and need parenting

 

[momtoccc]

Do I need to add Zest to my packing list??? Maybe it does work - you just never know...

 

[jenins121681]

Just wanted to say I LOVE your trip report!!! It is one of the best I have read in a while. I have laughed, I have cried (the Minnied Mouse thing got me ), can't wait for more! Can we see more pictures? Also my heart goes out to your little ones....I had to deal with the whole divorce thing as a child and I truly had an EVIL, WICKED stepmom.....and not the "wicked" that you joke about being....hope everything turns out well.

 

[burly]

Ah Miss Cammie...all caught up. I must say. Brilliant!!! Love your writing. Could read it all night. Guess I'll have to wait until tomorrow night. So sad that your ulcers are giving you such trouble....what kind of doctor are you seeing tomorrow? Hope all goes will for you. And all that custody carp....

 

[Iott Family]

Miss Cammie, you need to tell your DH that writing this trip report is very important and if he is feeling left out maybe he should write his own to share with us. Then we, your very best friends in the masses of the Dis, would have he said/she said! Brilliant! Im sure he will see reason, after all he is male and men are very logical creatures.

 

[TxRabbit]

Miss Cammie,

I've been a silent subscriber from the beginning...but I just HAVE to express how much I'm enjoying your TR...I am just on pins and needles waiting to hear more...even though I don't...I feel like I know you...I am all caught up in your family's life...it's like a tv show...only the pictures are in my head...I feel like my own thoughts and feelings as I observe other families are so eloquently and simply expressed in your writing...I second others that have said you should write professionally...only I see you more as a columnist...like "The Way I See It" by Miss Cammie in Parenting Magazine or something...I know I would eagarly await each issue just to read it...just as I am anticipating your next post...especially AFTER your doctor's appt...

 

[TMB1203]

MissCammie LOVES her some cupcakes!!! I gave most of mine to Sally though as my tummy was just started to feel normal and I didn't want to risk upsetting the beast within!

Yeah, my beasts are 11 and 3

Really, though, I've been reading your TR for the last couple days and love it. Can't wait to read more!

 

[CampbellScot]

Okay everybody...I have sort of a bummer update.

I had to go to the doctor this morning instead of this afternoon b/c I woke up to my ear bleeding and hurting like mad. I pretty much knew at that point I wasn't pregnant.

I've had serious ear issues for most of my life. I lost 30% hearing in my left ear, and as a result of the damage in that ear, sometimes I can't tell when I have an ear infection...which happens to be the case right now.

Ear infections like this can cause dizziness and nausea. And since I have a VERY touchy gag reflex, and an aversion to strong smells...adding all that to feeling dizzy AND having ulcers made for a lot of throwing up. *sigh* The doctor said sometimes women will think they are pregnant when they have ear infections like this one. Although most people know way before I did that they have an ear infection. I got a lecture from the specialist about my hearing and being very careful and yada yada yada. When he looked in my ear his first comment was "Holy S***" VERY professional huh? I was a little bit bummed and it wasn't fun to be lectured by a smug doctor who thought I was bummed out b/c my ear hurt. I have to go back on Monday b/c I may need some sort of surgery...which I won't have. They can't fix the hearing loss. I just need to be more diligent about going to my regular ENT. blah blah blah...basically I'm a dope.

I told the doctor I wanted to take a pregnancy test while I was there, just to be sure...and the man LAUGHED at me...said "It's your dime" and walked out. What a JERK. I wanted to throw something at him, but I couldn't get a hold of anything fast enough. He must have learned how to get out of rooms quick after saying unprofessional and jerky things. The test was negative. The lab tech was very sweet and she said "It'll happen when it's supposed to happen honey"...

As for the being weepy...I imagine that is a result of my cycle being totally messed up...it's like MONTH LONG pms *FUN*, being over tired and exhausted of a year long assault on my marriage and step kids. I think it's just been too much anxiety and worrying. And really...would I want to bring a baby into this mess? Probably not. Being pregnant should be a happy thing and I know that I would just worry the whole time...and have to endure ugly comments from the kids mom about my pregnancy...as it is, she refers to me as as "paper doll" and tells Sally that I'm anorexic...which of course I am not.

I really appreciate everyone's interest and sweet comments and excitement that I might be pregnant. That's the way it's supposed to be. You are all wonderful people, really. Thanks for all your sweet words and wishes.

I'll have a new installment in this evening. I hope that having the cliffhanger solved will not make the report less fun! I'll do my best to keep it interesting!!

 

[snowwhite325]

 

[ENSOCK]

I will keep reading your report no matter what. Even though we have never met I feel as if we are friends. Extra

 

[Princess Stitch]

I'm glad to hear everything is ok and don't worry, I'll keep reading for sure!

When I was 15 I started getting nausous every morning and throwing up and sometimes it would last through the day. It went on about 8 months. I'll never forget one morning my mom asked me if I was pregnant. I was mortified as I hadn't ever even had a boyfriend at that point! I told her if I was then we should be happy because it would have to be through immaculate conception and I was probably carrying the second Christ child! (I'm sorry if that offeneded any religious people). Anyways, after 3 years of tests it turned out that I have IBS. So.. there are lots of other reasons to be sick every day. I'm happy it's not something more serious than an ear infection and it'll go away soon!

Can't wait for the next installment!

 

[TxRabbit]

I hope you feel better soon...you sound like the kind of person that cares for others before and more than yourself...take care yourself...you're worth it. Definitely still looking forward to reading more...

 

[KMH1]

The lab tech was very sweet and she said "It'll happen when it's supposed to happen honey."

She was much more compassionate than your (jerk) doctor, but understandably, you are still disappointed. Take care of yourself!

 

[CampbellScot]

Thank you! much needed!!

I will keep reading your report no matter what. Even though we have never met I feel as if we are friends. Extra

Friends are good to have...cyber or otherwise. Thanks for your hugs and incredibly nice comments!! right back at ya!!

I'm glad to hear everything is ok and don't worry, I'll keep reading for sure!

When I was 15 I started getting nausous every morning and throwing up and sometimes it would last through the day. It went on about 8 months. I'll never forget one morning my mom asked me if I was pregnant. I was mortified as I hadn't ever even had a boyfriend at that point! I told her if I was then we should be happy because it would have to be through immaculate conception and I was probably carrying the second Christ child! (I'm sorry if that offeneded any religious people). Anyways, after 3 years of tests it turned out that I have IBS. So.. there are lots of other reasons to be sick every day. I'm happy it's not something more serious than an ear infection and it'll go away soon!

Can't wait for the next installment!

I SO would have said something like that!!

IBS is awful. My husband suffers with that issue. It's wretched. I feel for anyone who has to deal with it.

I hate coming back to work after a doctor's appointment. I have no motivation to get anything done. I'm still furious at that idiot doctor. My inner Donald is keeping up a steady QUUUAAAAACCCCKKKKK in my head. I need to take up kick boxing...doctors... I put my "Meeting in progress" sign over the window on my office door...and technically...I'm having a meeting...on the Dis...which counts...in my head...

okay...MUST work. I have posters of "positive comments" to put on my walls...do y'all think anyone will notice if I throw a few darts? JUST KIDDING...sort of...

 

[sharkB8HooHaHa]

Hoping you feel better. My DH had chronic ear issues as a kid and now goes from mild ear infection to perforation in a matter of a day or two. It's awful to witness, so my thoughts are with you.

And I think that doc was is serious need of an eye brow SMACK!

 

[Punky's Mama]

Oh Miss Cammie! I hope now that you know what it is the treatment will be quick so that your body can start healing. With all that you are going through you need your strength.

I know how you feel, even when you are not wanting to be pregnant right this second...it still is a bummer when you find out your not. Just the thought brings out all kinds of feelings and hope.

I continue to wish you the best and can't wait for your next installment. I too feel like I am wrapped up in the story! Next time you see that doctor, come prepared with a nice shiney hard object to hold in your hand in case something needs to be thown quickly! JERK!

We are your cheerleaders

 

[CampbellScot]

I hope you feel better soon...you sound like the kind of person that cares for others before and more than yourself...take care yourself...you're worth it. Definitely still looking forward to reading more...

thanks for good thoughts. I made an appointment for a mani/pedi this afternoon. Pink Toenails ALWAYS lift my spirits!!

She was much more compassionate than your (jerk) doctor, but understandably, you are still disappointed. Take care of yourself!

She was very nice to me. I think she knows what a jerk the ear specialist is. She sort of half muttered about the superior attitude of men who knew NOTHING about manners! MY KIND OF LADY!!!

Hoping you feel better. My DH had chronic ear issues as a kid and now goes from mild ear infection to perforation in a matter of a day or two. It's awful to witness, so my thoughts are with you.

And I think that doc was is serious need of an eye brow SMACK!

Oh I gave him a big eyebrow kick in the **** when he asked if I thought I was "knocked up"...then he had the nerve to say "Oh wait, you're married I guess that term doesn't apply".

the eyebrow said it all. He didn't say another word to me.

He's lucky I'm a lady...I had the urge to spit at him...which is gross...so I didn't...but Donald wanted to...A LOT...

 

[CampbellScot]

Oh Miss Cammie! I hope now that you know what it is the treatment will be quick so that your body can start healing. With all that you are going through you need your strength.

I know how you feel, even when you are not wanting to be pregnant right this second...it still is a bummer when you find out your not. Just the thought brings out all kinds of feelings and hope.

I continue to wish you the best and can't wait for your next installment. I too feel like I am wrapped up in the story! Next time you see that doctor, come prepared with a nice shiney hard object to hold in your hand in case something needs to be thown quickly! JERK!

We are your cheerleaders

Thanks Punky's Mama!!! I have JUST the paper weight in mind...It's Mickey Mouse actually...how perfect! Disney Justice at it's finest!!!

I'm sure I'll have a baby someday...but now is just NOT the right time. We need to get through this custody nonsense and establish a healthy mindset before we start bringing little ones on board. The little ones who are here right now are taking a beating.

Sally keeps saying we should move to Disneyworld and then we could have a baby and live in the castle...sounds good to me!!!

I am going to be in SO much trouble if I don't get my rump moving. I'll have kids in my office and no "Positive Comments" and "I statements" to point out when they don't have any ideas on their own for an alternative to "Stupid Head"...

 

[disneydance]

I'm so sorry to hear about this MissCamie why do some people sometimes have to be jerks Its a horrible thing.

 

[IWantMickey]

OK, I've lurked long enough!

Miss Cammie, I've been following your story for several days now and I just want to let you know that you are a wonderful story teller. I have laughed, cried and wanted to hit the mean, mean doctor in the nose! Here is another to wish you a speedy recovery from your ear infection. It must have been horrible on a plane with the pressure changes!

Being a stepmother for 13 years now, I can fully appreciate what you are going through. Although my two stepchildren were young adults when I married their dad, I have had to deal with what I will call "unique" issues over the years. For instance, when I first met my stepson, he would not look me in the eye when he spoke to me. I thought "What a weird individual." This went on for quite awhile (he would kind of look off to my side when he spoke to me, never directly at me) but gradually it stopped. One day he said to my husband that he tried very hard not to like me confused3 ) but I was just too nice a person. It turns out that my husband's ex-wife would throw a hissy fit whenever the kids even mentioned that they would visit us. So finally they stopped telling her anything about seeing us (I like to think of them as "stealth" visits - you know, under the radar).

The situation has improved over the years and she and I actually now attend the same family functions. We don't talk but we can be in the same room together! I've never had a problem with her other than the way she tries to manipulate her adult children (and they let her!) I even missed my stepdaughter's wedding because the ex said that she wouldn't go if I was there. Well, I was not going to be the person to ruin a perfectly good wedding, so I stayed away. On a sadder note, my stepdaughter is currently going through treatment for breast cancer (she's only 35 and has 2 children, a 3 year old boy and a 1 year old girl) and my husband and I and the ex all take care of the kids (OK, not together, but at least we coordinate). This sad situation has mellowed the ex a bit.

Sorry to hijack your thread. Guess I needed to vent (and hopefully keep you from working - payback for my not working while I read your wonderful story! )

Keep the faith in your custody battle. You have a strong relationship with your children (yes, they are your children in every sense of the word. You are their MOM!) and the most precious gift you can give them is your love and support. I pray everything turns out well for your family.

Looking forward to the next installment!