A Daily Lesson in Parenting and Manners: A TR by a real life Wicked Stepmom!

[natcat]

Just wanted to say hello
You have great writing skills

 

[Piper]

I've been pondering your problem--how to make Sally feel good about herself without putting down "somebody." If it were me, I think I would talk about how everyone has different tastes. People like different foods, different colors, different sports, different TV shows. If you don't like turnip greens, it is very difficult to understand how someone else just loves to eat them. You just have to accept that they do. Now, some people don't understand how someone else can be different and they wonder if maybe they are missing out on something. So to make themselves feel better, they "put down" the other person or the thing they like. That can hurt the feelings of the person they make fun of. It is hard to do, but if someone puts down something you like or makes fun of you, try to remember that they just don't understand. Don't talk back or try to explain why you like something. Just say, "I'm sorry you don't understand." and remember in your heart that there is nothing wrong with people having different likes or dislikes.

 

[CampbellScot]

Thanks everyone!! Wow, the troops sure do circle those wagons!! It's great!!

Sally and Teddy were having an overnight at their grandparents last night and Jay and I went over to see them. Sally has really been struggling lately with a lot of worries. She's the QUEEN worry wart and it's hard for her to stop sometimes. So Jay and I took our scrapbook from last years trip to Disney and we looked at the pictures and remembered how happy we felt. We talked about our trip this year and all the plans we still need to make. She was MUCH cheered when we tucked her in to bed. We derailed the worry train and that is really all we can do.

She called this morning to remind me to look for Pirate Princess outfits this weekend! She's good.

Thank you everyone for your support. Thank you for loving Sally and Teddy. They are great kids and I'm glad that translates so well!!!

 

[foreverprincess]

Hi Miss Cammie,

I don't post often, but I faithfully read your trip report. I am so glad that Sally is feeling better. Please tell her that I will be celebrating my 50th birthday at WDW and my 29 year old daughter will be celebrating with me. She is a long ways from being too old for Disney. (No one is ever too old for Disney - maybe too bitter, or too self centered, in the case of the "somebodies of the world" but not too old.)

The "somebodys" of the world are always trying to make life unhappy for someone else. I think it makes the "somebodys" feel powerful.

Lately I hum to myself the lyrics to Chumbawamba quite often "I get knocked down, but I get up again. Nobody's gonna keep me down!" I bet Teddy would love that song. Too bad it is full of all those drinking references but it has become mine and Prince G.'s favorite morale boosting song in our constant battle against his exsomebody.

Love Ya Miss Cammie,
Princess C.

 

[PrincessGeorgie]

Miss Cammie-
Please tell SallyRally that my 14yr old daugher LOVES disney as well as her
40something mother! Tell her what I tell my non Disney loving DH--Everyone is 5 when you are at Disney, some people are just taller than others.......

 

[lorispeck]

Hi MissCammie,

I've been following your TR and loving every bit of it. Those kidlets are the cutest, sweetest things ever.

You know, someone ought to tell *somebody* that she's just shooting herself in the foot with her behavior and the mind games she plays with the children. Within a few years Sally will mature enough that she realizes that she has every right to be angry about all that garbage and that something would be wrong with her if she wasn't. Then look out because she won't want anything to do with *somebody* and it will be *somebody*'s own fault. I know because although my parents stayed married, my father always tried to make me believe that my mom was stupid, demanding and worthless. There's more to it that I won't bore y'all with. Anyway, I didn't believe him, but up until I was 12, I still loved him just because he was my daddy. Somewhere between 12 and 13, I grew up enough to realize that decent people don't say things like that to children about the other parent or anyone that the child in question loves. I can't find the words to tell you how contemptible I felt he was and I avoided him as much as I possibly could. I never lost one scrap of respect for my mom, but there was not one shred left for him.

I'm 48 now and I'm able to actually feel sorry for him. There's something wrong with the heart and mind of people who are capable of behaving like that. Now I'm pretty much indifferent toward him. If he wants to stop by our house, fine. If he calls, I'll talk to him. He and his wife (my mom passed away some time ago) are invited to the holiday celebrations when they're at my house. I'm not rude or disrespectful toward him. I don't wish him any harm. But I don't miss him when we don't see him for a while. It's sort of like having a neighbor across the street and down the block a ways. You wave and smile when you see them, but they're not really part of your life. That's probably the best that *somebody* can hope for if she doen't clean up her act.

Anyhow, if you think it would do any good, please tell Sally that my super-cool 15 year old, straight A high school student daughter is all excited because we're going to WDW this August too (24th -30th) and we just found out that we get to take her Auntie Lynn to WDW for the very first time in October 2009! A trip just for the "Girls Team"!

 

[pezheadmeg]

Well, I guess we all know that "somebody" has some issues.

Give Sally some I so would love to be able to do a 10 day trip and get her an amazing pricness outfit, she deserves it.

 

[lorispeck]

Okay, im Lori's daughter, Allison.
>.< that is really really mean!
I am 15 years old and i LOVE disney, not afraid to admit it either.
I mean I'm the one going to school each day singing a disney song. my friends think im a dork but oh well. i dont really care what they think.
anyway, to say that to a little girl who is 8 years old is .... ugh i dont even know.
Man...someone seriously must be jealous.
^_^ tell Sally & Teddy i say hi...even though i dont exactly know them... <.< >.>... lol ^_^

 

[Hedy]

I say pffbt to *somebody*. Tell Miss Sally that of the seven people who are looking forward to our WDW trip in August, the YOUNGEST is her age. So there.

Poor kid.

 

[disneyeeyorefan]

"somebody" will wonder one day why her kids won't want much to do with her b/c of all the mindgames.
My oldest son is almost 14 and he loves Disney, he is already talking about the college program and insists he is getting married at Disney.
Heck, I'm 36 and I want to live there

 

[tonga]

"somebody" doesn't know what she's talking about. I was 10 the first time I ever went to Disney World (in 1976), and I absolutely loved it then and still do to this day.

Sally and Teddy sound like kids I'd love to know! I hope you all have a wonderful time planning your next trip.

 

[BriarRosie]

Holy crap! The less you say about the Other Woman, the more I know that I want to smack her for what's she's doing to her children. I wish I had a Magic Custody Wand to give the kids to you and your DH to raise.

Glad you're feeling all the love here. Group hug!

 

[Dreamer & Wisher]

I'm all caught up and ready for a new installment.

I'm sorry to hear about the mean things that have been said to Sally.

"Somebody" doesn't know that Disney is the place where you never grow up. It's fun for everybody who has the spirit of youth! I hope "somebody" doesn't destroy Sally and Teddy's spirit. "sigh"

On another note, you have had a very adventurous trip. I wouldn't have known what to do in the situation with the little girl. I am so glad you did know what to do! I hope that little girl has a lot more encounters with people like you. It's sad how neglectful those parents were. I kept wishing Ellie could go home with you!

I love your Animal Kingdom quick dry outfits. Did you get shorts from Land's End too? We never ride the water rides because we don't want to walk around in soggy clothes in the humid Florida air. We may have to try your outfit ideas.

 

[carrie6466]

Thanks everyone for reading.

It's so nice to see such positive comments. They are much appreciated.

Sally just called me on my cell, she was crying b/c *somebody* told her that Disney is SUCH a waste of time for kids as old as Sally and wasn't she EMBARRASSED that we would be taking her there AGAIN.

She was crying b/c she ISN'T embarrassed but feels upset that someone is telling her that Disney is WRONG. Made me want to throw something at somebody's HEAD.



*somebody* is a big mean jerk.

*sigh*

Thanks everyone for being so great and for continuing to read about our crazy trip.

No matter what anyone says, the Campbellscot's are THRILLED for our ten day trip!! ESPECIALLY our Sally. SO THERE!

*ahem*

The next chapter is ALMOST done!!

That ranks up there with the craziest things I've ever heard! You'll all have a great time on your 10 day trip, I'm sure. Especially Sally
And I'm almost 42 (how'd that happen??) and I'm not embarrassed or too big to be going there!

 

[hklatt]

I don't understand how *someone* can be so cruel to a child. Perhaps it's because *someone* is unhappy with how their own life turned out and therefore feels the need to make everyone else's life around them miserable. This *someone* sounds an awful lot like *someone* I know from my blended family (my brothers' refer to her as their egg donor). I mean this in the most honorable and complimentary way possible, but you sound an awful lot like my mom - and it's refreshing that people actually want to parent their children (blood relation or not - blood doesn't always make parents or families imo)

I believe that you were sent to Sally and Teddy to show them what normalcy is. I hope that makes sense...

Don't know if you celebrate it and if you don't I mean no offense - but Happy Easter to you and yours and to all....

 

[FSUDisneyGirl]

Happy Easter to you and yours! Hope you all have a fun weekend!

 

[TarzansKat]

Miss Cammie, I just wanted to wish you all a Happy Easter! Hope it's fun.

 

[buzzmom3]

Wow, I guess I should be really embarrassed! I'm 32 and can't wait to go to Disney every year! The kids are lucky to have you! Biology does not create mommies and daddies, that comes with love, discipline and caring. Can't wait to read more!

 

[Tinkerbellarella]

Sally just called me on my cell, she was crying b/c *somebody* told her that Disney is SUCH a waste of time for kids as old as Sally and wasn't she EMBARRASSED that we would be taking her there AGAIN.

*SOMEBODY* needs to get her priorities straight, which should not include reducing her daugther to tears. PERIOD.

And feel free to share with Sweet Sally that there's an-almost-29-year-old that still loves going to the World as much as she did when she was 7 (maybe more!) and that there isn't and never will be anything wrong with that. We should cherish the things that make us happy because there are simply too many things in this world that make us sad.

We talked about our trip this year and all the plans we still need to make. She was MUCH cheered when we tucked her in to bed. We derailed the worry train and that is really all we can do.

She called this morning to remind me to look for Pirate Princess outfits this weekend! She's good.

I have so many wonderful wishes for Sally and your family for this next trip. I'm sure you do too. I hope they all come true.

 

[CampbellScot]

Thanks for the Happy Easter Wishes!! We had a great holiday! Jay set up an easter egg hunt just for ME!

(The kiddies were with their mother this year. It's a flip flop holiday. They went on a three day ski trip. Sally said she enjoyed her three days of ski school. The easter bunny left them baskets at our house and the kids will be THRILLED to see that the Easter Bunny loves Disney as much as we do...according to their VERY Disney-fied baskets! The E. Bunny left Enchanted for Sally and Snowbuddies for Teddy! )

I know the next chapter is a little over due...it's been a nutty weekend with in-law...stuff. I'm supposed to be at a staff lunch...but I'm not hungry. I'm needing my Dis fix. Is that anti-social?