A bit of Ex advice please

[Lisash]

You always have Callums best interests at heart Carol so I am sure thing will work themselves out

 

[florida sun]

Hon, I dont have any advice, but wanted to send you a big hug, its hard sometimes being a single mum and trying to make the right choice, I know

 

[shellbell]

I have to agree with everyone. You have to do what is right for Callum. If he is so keen on keeping in touch with N then give it a try. See how things go. Yiou are being very reasonble about this i must say. Well done to you I'm sure you will make the right choice.

 

[ely3857]

Ex is been a prat and you are been very unselfish. So there!



Jodie

 

[arieliwish]

Carol, you probably know your son better than anyone, and will also know what this lady means to him. I think you should go with what your son wants and what your gut instinct is, kids shouldn't be made to shut people out of their lives, regardless of who was right or wrong.

Hope it works out for you,

Lynn

 

[Cyrano]

As others have said I'd go with Callum on this.

 

[kristieuk]

Ditto - he is old enough to know his own mind, and I think it's very unfair of his Dad to make him part of the battle. It's about what is best for Callum at the end of the day, and hopefully his Dad will soon realise that. I hope it works out soon

 

[carolfoy]

You lot are so lovely I LOVE this board.
N text R last night to say would he reconsider Callums feelings and allow her to see him, R text back and said 'You're the one who left, you have to suffer the consequences' just about sums him up.
I've text N to say we'll let the dust settle and although I'll still bring Call up to see her we'll leave the over night stays until R has grown up a bit.

 

[natalielongstaff]

I've text N to say we'll let the dust settle and although I'll still bring Call up to see her we'll leave the over night stays until R has grown up a bit.

that seems sensible to me

 

[angel659]

Hi

A complicated situation. I agree with what everyone has said. I do have to say my little piece. Sorry.

First of all. If Callum wants to see N then thats fine, but and a big but whats to say when N finds somebody else she will not want to see Callum anymore. That would be devastating news for Callum especially as he gets older. My best friend split up from her fiance a couple of years ago. He is not the real father of her son, but they were together for 5 years and Lewis sees Richard as his son. They split up and Richard has Lewis every weekend, even though he is not his real dad. He still cares for him. Recently he has asked Shell can he make it every other weekend, as he has met someone in Wales. My fear would be as soon as they meet someone thier feelings start to change.

Whatever you decide please proceed with caution and the fact that she may change her mind, when another man comes along. I might be wrong, but sometimes this happens.

Good luck and sending you some pixie dust and hugs

 

[carolfoy]

Thanks Michelle, I hear what you're saying. Because N was married and had kids before she got with R and she still has a good relationship with her ex I'm certain she wouldn't drop Callum like a hot potato. Callum understands it would only be an occasional thing anyway, he knows he wouldn't be seeing her that often and he's fine with that.

 

[Ware Bears]

Sending you

 

[angel659]

Ha ha just read back what I wrote. I forgot bf is boyfriend. I meant to write best friend. I am off to change it now.

I am pleased that N will want to continue being in Callums life. Good luck and hope R does not cause you any grief.

 

[carolfoy]

S'ok Michelle, I figured out what you meant

 

[stevechase]

You do what you think is right for your son!!!
Men can be so sour. Your ex should just put up and shut up for the sake of your child.What happens when the next woman in his life comes around does he just expect your son to build a relationship and then wipe the person out off his life just as quick??????

Excuse me, "Men can be so sour" - Lets not forget that there are females in this world who can stand on their own when it comes to being bitter!!!

Anyway, Carol, who does Callum actually live with, you or your ex hubby. Cause if it is you then surely the decision as to who he sees is more down to you that your ex? I know you both have his best at heart, but if he lives with you, then those daily choices are down to you! Yes/No.?

Steve

 

[ariel75]

Excuse me, "Men can be so sour" - Lets not forget that there are females in this world who can stand on their own when it comes to being bitter!!!

Anyway, Carol, who does Callum actually live with, you or your ex hubby. Cause if it is you then surely the decision as to who he sees is more down to you that your ex? I know you both have his best at heart, but if he lives with you, then those daily choices are down to you! Yes/No.?

Steve[/QUOTE
some men can be sour some women can be too!!!
it just seems that he is being a little immature in his attitude towards his ex wife that's all. After all he is the one who introduced callum into their life.

 

[stevechase]

I wasnt having a go Ariel, its just that it does seem all too easy to have a go at the blokes. This is getting away from the original point. Not wishing to labour it, I know a number of long term relationships that have ended and bar 1 of them it was the women that were 'playing around'.

Anyway, no offence meant, please dont bash all us blokes.

Cheers

Steve

 

[ariel75]

I wasnt having a go Ariel, its just that it does seem all too easy to have a go at the blokes. This is getting away from the original point. Not wishing to labour it, I know a number of long term relationships that have ended and bar 1 of them it was the women that were 'playing around'.

Anyway, no offence meant, please dont bash all us blokes.

Cheers

Steve

don't worry about it i know there are some good men out there it's just a touchy subject as my son's dad's an a**
Nice to know there are some real men out there with feelings!!!

 

[carolfoy]

sorry guys, didn't mean to spark off a whole 'all men are *****' thing! to answer Steves question, yes, Callum lives with me and I know its basically up to me who can/cannot see but I don't want his dad to think we've been behind his back to see N when he doesn't agree, he's so bitter about it he refused to let Callum play with a certain ball at his house because it was one N had bought!! I mean what's that all about? how childish.
Also it seems he's been chatting on the net with a young lady from Bangkok!! and is going out to meet her soon I don't get where his minds at when he's still seething at N

 

[jen_uk]

he's so bitter about it he refused to let Callum play with a certain ball at his house because it was one N had bought!! I mean what's that all about? how childish.
Also it seems he's been chatting on the net with a young lady from Bangkok!! and is going out to meet her soon I don't get where his minds at when he's still seething at N

That is just so tragic!!