A Better Break-up...

[disneychrista]

This song is awesome ...if you wanna ball your eyes out.

One of my favorites.


I'm actually going to see Brett Young in concert at the end of next month. I am fully prepared to be the crying lady standing in the back.

 

[AnnieBearJamboree]

This is a thread I DESPERATELY needed. I've been super-active on these boards lately because I'm going through a rough breakup and have deleted every other form of social media in an attempt to hide from him completely

My ex also wanted to stay friends, but I was obviously heartbroken. We lived together and had been together for five years. The song about breaking up in a small town is too true - I had to move. Packed everything and moved closer to my family. It's still very fresh, but I'm dealing with it.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

I love you as a friend.


It's not you so much as it is me.


You're not hearing wedding bells are you?


I don't deserve you.



You're too good for me.


Just remember. If it's meant to be it's meant to be.


I still love you. It's just that I'm not In love with you any more.

 

[disneychrista]

This is a thread I DESPERATELY needed. ... It's still very fresh, but I'm dealing with it.

I'm sorry you are going through this too. All I can say as it does get better, just not all at once. I've have good days where I think I'm okay and then something will happen (like running into him at the bank) and it all becomes so fresh again. As they say two steps forward, one step back. You'll get there, it just takes time.

 

[disneychrista]

I love you as a friend.
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Do you have one from I not in a place where I can be in a relationship?

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Do you have one from I not in a place where I can be in a relationship?

Actually no. I don't. I also don't have most of the ones I put in the post either, but have heard and read them over the years.

I got ghosted before it was called that.
One cheated on me, with her her ex that didn't really turn out to be an ex.
Another ghosting.
And one admitted that she liked someone better and was going to date him. I guess that's the one that I liked most. At least she had the courtesy to do that rather than ghost or cheat.

 

[disneychrista]

If you understand this quote you know exactly what I'm going through...

 

[carol48b]

And that what hurts so much for me right now because we were friends before we were more. So in a way I have lost two relationships - my good friend and my boyfriend.

Just a suggestion - What always worked for me during a breakup: Take a trip- not someplace you went together - someplace different for at least a week. The perspective you gain from being in a new location is invaluable. Good luck, lots of people are obviously routing for you and care.

 

[disneychrista]

Just a suggestion - What always worked for me during a breakup: Take a trip- not someplace you went together - someplace different for at least a week. The perspective you gain from being in a new location is invaluable. Good luck, lots of people are obviously routing for you and care.

That's a wonderful suggestion. Unfortunately, its not in the budget. But the good news is we never went any where together so the world is open on future trips. We did plan to go on an overnight but that never happened. It'll make visiting there a little weird but at least there are no memories attached to any of the places. It does kinda suck that he ruined my favorite pizza place though. I am dreading going in there and having the manager ask where he is.

 

[AnnieBearJamboree]

It does kinda suck that he ruined my favorite pizza place though. I am dreading going in there and having the manager ask where he is.

I can't even imagine. I so, so dreaded going to any restaurant the two of us went to together. Luckily, it was mostly local places so once I moved there wasn't much to remind me. Little things still come up, though.

We did plan to go on an overnight but that never happened. It'll make visiting there a little weird but at least there are no memories attached to any of the places.

That's how I feel now planning an upcoming Disney trip! I was so focused on what the two of us would do together, it'll be so weird going to things I thought he would love (he's never been). But thank goodness we've never gone together, otherwise it would be 100x harder.

 

[disneychrista]

I can't even imagine. I so, so dreaded going to any restaurant the two of us went to together. Luckily, it was mostly local places so once I moved there wasn't much to remind me. Little things still come up, though.

Thankfully the pizza place is the only one where I KNOW that an employee knew us as a couple. I've gone in a couple time without him and I always got the "Where's M" or "Is M coming" Not looking forward to that. And I REALLY want pizza too.

That's how I feel now planning an upcoming Disney trip! I was so focused on what the two of us would do together, it'll be so weird going to things I thought he would love (he's never been). But thank goodness we've never gone together, otherwise it would be 100x harder.

You'll just have to come up with a few things that you weren't planning on doing with him. Or that he wouldn't have liked.

 

[disneychrista]

Today's been step backward type of day. Weekends are always a bit harder with Sunday's the worst because that was the day we would most likely hang out/see each other. At this point it isn't necessarily "him" that I get sad about, he was never going to be "the one." It's just the being alone and feeling like that's just the way it's going to be. I guess I am one of those people who just don't get to share their lives with a special someone.

 

[low-key]

hey listen to this play list, I just found it and its fitting my mood. I need a win
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjzeyhEA84sQKuXp-rpM1dFuL2aQM_a3S

 

[disneychrista]

hey listen to this play list, I just found it and its fitting my mood. I need a win
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjzeyhEA84sQKuXp-rpM1dFuL2aQM_a3S

Thanks, I'll give it a try. We all need a "win" once in a while.