8/17/08 Captain Jack's Repossession Repo Cruise to PC thru TPC Part 14

[yargrnhoj]

So we finally have an answer to one of our groundhog questions. While I cannot get you room assignments or change the color of the t-s****s, we do now have a cruise website. I will be PMing each of you who have posted recently with the URL, user name and password. Hope you like it.

J. R.

 

[Gabbie]

Forgive me, but I find this amusing. What a mismatch. Still, you gotta love them for trying. Perhaps in their retirement - they've forgotten what it was like to have kids? (Hey Mom, remember those days of getting up at 6 am to get us all fed?? Grandkids have to eat too! )

As for the Air Force Academy - no one can pressure your kid into going. The officers doing the interviews for potential cadets are very careful to remove the applicant from all parental (grandparental?) influences and have a real heart to heart with the applicant about what they want to do.

It's funny though - my parents' idea of retirement is to knock off at lunch time. I sit here and laugh becasue DS10 will have such a different experience with them my brother and I did. We had our noses to the grindstone until dinner!

Yes they have forgotten what it is like to have a kid. Or to eat for that matter. We had breakfast and HC’s dad said well we should be good for the rest of the day! Yeah right!

The pressure they have Nathan under is already to much for me! He was just two not twenty two! They have plainly stated that he MUST grow up to be SOMETHING. I said how about we concentrate on getting him through being a toddler without stitches and broken bones and hope that he grows up to be a polite teen/adult who is happy with life and gets a good education. Neither thought that was a good idea.

One thing HC forgot to mention was not only do they expect him to go to the Academy they both promised him on his 16th birthday he WILL get a car. Now at first I didn’t think this was such a bad idea. I got a car when I was 16 more out of a need to get be to school then a need for me to have a car. It was used and it ran. But when they announced that this car would A. not be used, B. would not be a crappy car and last but not least C. it would most definitely be a Mercedes, I almost dropped over. Mind you when he turns 16 I will likely still be driving the Pilot we have but I didn’t fuss, it is 14 years off. I did ask who was going to pay for the insurance on this beast and got a death stare. The kicker was the comment that it was not our business what they bought him, which became totally obvious when they took him into a toy store were we were shopping and bought him a souped up car that plays rap music and is about as annoying as nails on the chalk board in a nice lime green, I commented that at least it was on the small side. I was informed that they did not have the model that Nathan wanted that you sat on and rode and they said “thank god you for” and I had to snip back “no thank god for YOU”. HC’s hates when I point this out but I am going to for the last time! My parents are not this big a pain when it comes to raising kids!

They had asked again when we will be adopting a second child… No wait it was when are you going to adopt my little girl. I wanted to ask them if we do happen to adopt a little girl will they forget about Nathan? And what about birthdays? Will they fly out for both! I am hoping that he will be able to spend a week or so with them as he gets older but I see a week will be more then enough since he is a total water baby and they are both scared to death of the water, so no fun water parks or pools for them!

We tried to get them to think about moving here for their retirement, knowing that the snow here and the fact that the wind does blow would be a complete turn off! I would like to have family close to us but in a way its good that they can’t just pop over!

Oh well more to come on our little adventures as I get the pictures edited!

 

[nearcat]

So we finally have an answer to one of our groundhog questions. While I cannot get you room assignments or change the color of the t-s****s, we do now have a cruise website. I will be PMing each of you who have posted recently with the URL, user name and password. Hope you like it.

J. R.

Wasn't Lisa managing this? I've been anxiously waiting for word in my e-mail box but it never came.

I did send in my family's info to her for inclusion. Do I need to send it to someone else?

 

[got2travel]

So we finally have an answer to one of our groundhog questions. While I cannot get you room assignments or change the color of the t-s****s, we do now have a cruise website. I will be PMing each of you who have posted recently with the URL, user name and password. Hope you like it.

J. R.

I went poking around over there and it's AMAZING

One question, why is your family the only one that rates a picture?


Sure, I didn't sent one in, but that's beside the point.

 

[windermerejudy]

J.R. thank you thank you thank you thank you!!!!!!!!!

You have done such a great job of doing this and I for one truly appreciate all your hard work. For those of you who do not know......J.R. has been working around the clock to get this all up and ready. Please let him know how much you appreciate him volunteering to go ahead and get a site up and ready. He has only been working on this for about 2 days and has done a great stupendous job. The website is beautiful and well organized. We will be able to keep everyone up to date better and also maybe entice some of those who have disappeared to come back and rejoin the group. I can't believe how quickly you managed to do this. It is amazing. Thank you.....


Now could you please start on the guarantees?

 

[windermerejudy]

Wasn't Lisa managing this? I've been anxiously waiting for word in my e-mail box but it never came.

I did send in my family's info to her for inclusion. Do I need to send it to someone else?

yes Lisa was managing this in the beginning. Once the spam incident occurred two other cruisers who have website experience volunteered to assist. All attempts at contacting them have failed. If your info was mailed to Lisa it should be on the website if you are active in this community of posters. I am not really sure who you are since you only have 2 posts. Maybe you could introduce yourself if you would like to become a part of the website. I will check if your name is on there if you tell me your name.

 

[windermerejudy]

Wasn't Lisa managing this? I've been anxiously waiting for word in my e-mail box but it never came.

I did send in my family's info to her for inclusion. Do I need to send it to someone else?

Lets just celebrate what a great job J.R. did for our cruise group instead of looking back. Lisa had nothing to do with it. It just happened to be out of her hands and lets just move on.

 

[allshookup]

J. R. I love love love the website!!!! Awesome job! Thanks so much for all the hard work that has obviously been put into this.

 

[nearcat]

yes Lisa was managing this in the beginning. Once the spam incident occurred two other cruisers who have website experience volunteered to assist. All attempts at contacting them have failed. If your info was mailed to Lisa it should be on the website if you are active in this community of posters. I am not really sure who you are since you only have 2 posts. Maybe you could introduce yourself if you would like to become a part of the website. I will check if your name is on there if you tell me your name.

I'm pretty much a lurker as far as the thread goes. Perhaps when the cruise gets a bit closer and things settle down in life a bit... I know, not likely!

At any rate, here is the info I sent to be included (minus my e-mail address):

Me: Kathy, husband: Steve, Son Bryon

First names: please include the ages of the kids at the time of the cruise so they can be placed in the appropriate DISkid group
Bryon (3)

Birthdates: not with the year
1-12-04

Home town: where you live now
NY, NY

Pre cruise plans:
Disneyland!

Post cruise plans:
Return home.

Sorry... I'm not so good at this!

 

[Lil' Grumpy]

..intriguing, our life before children... , can
one say~think.."carefree.....

..time with, my lil' miss-- & no worries.... .

oh boy, oh girl =& & . pssst, too much

cake..that was the heaviest i ever been, the year after getting
married...actually, it started the year we were dating....
there's good reasons..why my children still have doubts...i was
the guy in the wedding pics...


* then it happened..kids, . i remember placing him
on the kitchen table..ok? what do we do with him next....

...ahhh, micmse, Italians, they do put alot of emphases on
romance. * being rhomatic, are all the lil'things we share our
feelings by expressing the joys of being together..even for a lil'
time. that's my feeling...to this day, iam still using hersely kisses
for reminders.


, brack...great family shots..but of course, we all have
thaT expectations.."you do take some of the best diseny pics i ever
seen."...bouncer? i'm surprised..no one ever made that connection?
...wow, those rugged good looks...i bet that's what all the wenches
are rhinking..then yor name...are you sure , yor lil'miss dosen't call
you the "candyman"?...a name like brack, it got to be good! * note,
i wish i had the clint eastwood's stagger.

..i didn't want to lean one way or the other, but i think "gottotravel"
is making the right choice...it will be a very special cruise while
sending the right message...for the very special cruise comin next
august.

iam very today, our sheltie ~ kelly green shamrock- passed
on this morning. he was 17 & 1/2 years old...& the last of our pets
that grew up with the boys...he'll be missed. * yesterday, i took out
in the yard...though he wasn't feeling to good,i wanted him to feel
& smell the green grass one last time..i was surprised how that "perked"
him up. that ! but it was is time to go. so i feel sorry
for me..not him. [ my guess, he chasing cats].

here's some interesting facts....he loved taking his pic.. anytime we
pulled out the camera..he came running. we lost several times...
twice over a week..some old lady was spoiling him..after we moved
in...then the other time came walking down a country road...in
the rain..i holler @ him..& he took off ..in the other direction....what
a dog!!!

 

[windermerejudy]

And BTW Steve, Kathy and Bryon (nearcat) yes you are on the info sheet at the website. J.R. had no idea what last name to put you under since you did not give one like everyone else. It says you are from NY, NY and have Captains dining . Waiting for a cat 8 GTY. Maybe you should mail the details of info to j.R. so he can alphabatize you like all the other names.

One side note. I just can't understand why anyone would want to be on a list unless they are going to participate in our community. Next July is not the time to start posting people. What makes it fun is knowing everyone's personalities. Lurking is like eavesdropping. You never put yourself in a position to actually become part of the group. The people that I have already met from this cruise and previously, I have become very close with. That is what makes it more fun is that I feel like I know these people and they know me. (OK that may be good or bad) but nevertheless if you are just lurking it is only a one way creepy situation. I don't know about anyone else but personally I find it creepy when people come up to me on the cruise or worse yet my kids......and they talk to me like they know me. It really doesn't make me want to get to know them. So on that note.........

Please people get off your lurking seats and start posting. Please don't feel unwelcome. Just jump in there. We would much rather have you join in than to feel like we are being watched.

 

[allshookup]

I'm pretty much a lurker as far as the thread goes. Perhaps when the cruise gets a bit closer and things settle down in life a bit... I know, not likely!

At any rate, here is the info I sent to be included (minus my e-mail address):


Sorry... I'm not so good at this!

Edited because Judy beat me to it!

Don't worry about not joining in yet since I'm sure a lot more people will be posting as the cruise gets closer, but feel free to join in anytime! Like Judy says....don't feel unwelcome here! Oops also wanted to say that I totally agree that getting to know each other before the cruise is a great part of the fun. It's not just about the planning here!

 

[windermerejudy]

I'm pretty much a lurker as far as the thread goes. Perhaps when the cruise gets a bit closer and things settle down in life a bit... I know, not likely!

Kathy-- please explain to me what you think you are going to benefit from by being on a list if you are not planning on participating in the community? I just don't get it. You can look up websites for yourself. You can get all the port info you want. You are still going to get to eat at Palos and get a room. If you are not planning on getting to know anyone then why would you want to place your info on a list of names. All the list of names is for is simply a list. The real fun comes from actually participating. I know personally I have a group that I will be most likely spending my main time with and I have connected to them from here. We will more than likely plan excursions together etc. When you have 300 people from the DIS group you need to find your niche. If you sit on your seat, you will get left behind. As far as I know that would go for any community of posters. Isn't that what the DIS is for is getting to know each other?

 

[nearcat]

Your information is on the website so I'm sure you'll be receiving a PM soon so you will be able to access it.

Don't worry about lurking since I'm sure a lot more people will join in as the cruise gets closer, but feel free to join in anytime!

Thank you Allshookup.

I thought that was the point of this site. You could join in or, if you're more comfortable, "lurk". I'm sure I will become more active but I'd like to do it on my own.

My last name wasn't listed because I asked Lisa not to list it. I figured that would be OK.

 

[Diznyfan68]

THANK YOU J. R.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!​

The site is absolutely AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm love love love loving it!!!!!!

 

[Esteri]

It's amazing what kids latch on to. We had a problem with DD lifting up her skirts at pre-school - until we realized that one of her friends (whose Mom is a dancer) showed her how to do the Can-can.

When DS10 was 3 he spent a week or two dropping his drawers and "watering a bush" at his preschool after Grandma taught him how to do it in her backyard. Hey, it was a new skill, and it was cool! The preschool teachers were quite, uh, astonished?

(You may never, ever breathe a word to him that you know this story... )

Yes they have forgotten what it is like to have a kid. Or to eat for that matter. We had breakfast and HC’s dad said well we should be good for the rest of the day! Yeah right!

The pressure they have Nathan under is already to much for me! He was just two not twenty two! They have plainly stated that he MUST grow up to be SOMETHING. ....

One thing HC forgot to mention was not only do they expect him to go to the Academy they both promised him on his 16th birthday he WILL get a car. .... I did ask who was going to pay for the insurance on this beast and got a death stare. The kicker was the comment that it was not our business what they bought him, ....

They had asked again when we will be adopting a second child… No wait it was when are you going to adopt my little girl. ....

We tried to get them to think about moving here for their retirement, knowing that the snow here and the fact that the wind does blow would be a complete turn off! I would like to have family close to us but in a way its good that they can’t just pop over!

Oh my. Let me guess - first grandkid?

I can see you're going to have to have "the chat" with them. I had it with my parents when DS10 was about 4 or 5. My Dad can be very loud and controlling of little kids (he gets better when they are about 8). When our son told us "Grandpa hates me." we had to have the chat. I think my dad was more upset than we were. He immediately toned down his behavior - no it didn't go away, but he made an effort, and the kids noticed. My parents are respectful and supportive of how we want to raise our kids. We've talked about the rules that they can break and stretch - and we're all OK with it. Fortunately, they winter here in CA, and summer in WA - so the boys know their grandparents (which was important to us.)

When we moved here we carefully selected this city - it was 90 minutes from Grandma and Grandpa. Close enough to visit regularly - but not so close they are forever popping in on you. Worked great! Until my brother bought the house (literally) next door. Now we see more of them - but they are careful to call ahead and give us warning. (That started happening after they popped in on my brother, expecting his extra room, and he turned them away saying, call next time. I have an uncle in town so they landed there, but the lesson got learned. Ah, training the parents. )

My in-laws are another matter. It's not that they don't care - it's more a lack of judgement. They live near my sister-in-law, her husband, and two boys (about the same age) in CO. They're raising their kids very differently - so my in-laws tend to treat all the boys the same. Visits with them tend to be more supervised, and we are much clearer on "the rules" with my in-laws. It's a workable solution. DS10 wants to go visit his cousins badly, and we're just not helping that to happen. Maybe next year, maybe for a week. Distance is our friend on this one.

My in-laws house sat the boys and house (we stuck the dogs in a kennel) when DH and I took our Alaska cruise several years ago. We were not clear enough on the rules. They allowed the boys to watch clearly inappropriate (violence, not sex) movies and programs. Naturally, it all came out in conversation with the boys. We were months deprogramming them from that. Sigh. DH had "the chat" with them. And basically let them know that they needed to start paying more attention to how we wanted the boys raised, or they were going to be seeing a lot less of them. They got the message - but they're never going to be as attentive to it as my parents are. It's just not who they are. So we are more careful with the interactions. Though we did send DS10 off the Costa Rica with them last year for spring break to visit my mother in-law's family. It went very well.

I have to say, I am struck by the comment that your son HAS to grow into SOMETHING. Wow. Like a well balanced, happy individual, who is actively working at achieving their personal goals - isn't something? It's all defined by how he makes a living? Wow. There's a really interesting conversation there, between the grown ups, over a bottle of wine, or maybe two. A real opportunity to ask lots of questions, listen to each other, and share.

 

[windermerejudy]

Thank you Allshookup.

I thought that was the point of this site. You could join in or, if you're more comfortable, "lurk". I'm sure I will become more active but I'd like to do it on my own.

My last name wasn't listed because I asked Lisa not to list it. I figured that would be OK.

Sure of course you can lurk .......noone is stopping you. I am simply saying that if you want to be a true part of the community you have to participate otherwise what is the point of knowing eveyones childrens names and activities, family history........ To me that is just weird that you want to know about everybody else but are not willing to share the same. I can understand if you want to lurk and do not expect to be part of the active communities website but you want the best of both worlds. you want J.R. to send you all my personal information to use at your disposal. I think the website ought to be for ACTIVE POSTERS!!!!!

 

[Esteri]

iam very today, our sheltie ~ kelly green shamrock- passed
on this morning. he was 17 & 1/2 years old...& the last of our pets
that grew up with the boys...he'll be missed. * yesterday, i took out
in the yard...though he wasn't feeling to good,i wanted him to feel
& smell the green grass one last time..i was surprised how that "perked"
him up. that ! but it was is time to go. so i feel sorry
for me..not him. [ my guess, he chasing cats].

He'll be waiting for you.

 

[nearcat]

Sure of course you can lurk .......noone is stopping you. I am simply saying that if you want to be a true part of the community you have to participate otherwise what is the point of knowing eveyones childrens names and activities, family history........ To me that is just weird that you want to know about everybody else but are not willing to share the same. I can understand if you want to lurk and do not expect to be part of the active communities website but you want the best of both worlds. you want J.R. to send you all my personal information to use at your disposal. I think the website ought to be for ACTIVE POSTERS!!!!!

I'm sorry but I find your posts rude and offensive. Lisa had originally e-mailed and asked if I wanted my info included on the site. She had explained that it was meant for all DIS people on the repo cruise. So, I sent in all the info requested except for my last name and my e-mail address. Of which, Lisa has both. I'm not sure why anyone onboard would need my last name or my e-mail address.

I did not realize that the site was for "only active posters" as you state. I've sent Lisa a PM to clarify and if this is indeed the case then I only ask that my info be removed.

For as much as everyone else is saying "be comfortable, welcome, and join when you like", you sure give the total opposite reaction.

I feel like I'm not welcome because I can't spend 5 hours a day attempting to keep up with all of the posts. I certainly wouldn't want anyone elses last name, and, to be quite honest, am not sure why they would be on the site anyway. I thought it would just be first names, screen names, etc.

I really only had hoped to get to know a few people here before the cruise to make it more enjoyable.

 

[Andrew DEREK UK]

Have to say the new website is fantastic thank you for all of the hard work, sorry I am not around much, on the busy Med thread.