8/17/08 Captain Jack's Repossession Repo Cruise to PC thru TPC Part 13

[tom31b]

Andy, I can soooooooo understand your daughter's allergy issues last week, I am having the worst day ever today!!!!!


Maybe I should head back to Fredneck, had no problems there!

 

[allshookup]

awww the new wig .....almost finished ....LOL

Now go get your tickets and see me movie , and of you have already seen it ,,go again ....LOL

Awesome pics Todd. Thanks for sharing! We are going to try & see it tomorrow, but that's if we can get in. I'd like to go to Chunky's which is a cinema pub, but it fills up fast.

And may I share that today -

And here are a couple of pictures from this morning!
Shes' the one top left with the "digital" pink Princess tiara!

Above is when we spung the notion she was to be recognized for her Scientific passions![/CENTER]

Congrats Tom! You must be a very proud Daddy! Love the tiara!!!

Great looking cake. Remeber Diane ,I want a Mickey Cake July 30th!!

I've got it marked on the calendar!!!

They would make him put his dreads back behind his ears. For some reason, passport photos must show your ears.

Somehow the idea of CJS with his hair behind his ears doesn't sound very masculine.

Hmmmm we were never told that & we just had our passport pictures done. My hair is definitely over my ears.

Enjoy your wontons MR!

 

[allshookup]

Katie / DD 4boons
Esteri / Esteri

Happy Birthday!!!

 

[eeyorelvr10]

ABSOLUTELY!

There will come a day when they become really nice and you become really cool!

From your mouth to God's ears!

Well...

... here's another photo for your scrutiny... these folks were in the Space Mountain car right behind us! What do ya think ... is it real or is it Memorix? <chuckles>

THIS IS TOO FUNNY TOM!

And as for our girls...

Awww.... shucks....

So... I would like to share two current concerns to see if anyone has a constructive opinion to share. #1) My little one has been in P-school for about 6-9 months (less then the older one at the same age) and my mild concern is focused on how she is not as sociable and friendly as her older sibling was at the same age. She engages in parallel play but seems to shrug off friendly offers of interactive play from other girls. The teachers say this is OK and classic for the stage/age of developement and her background as a 2nd sibling. However, I view social skills as a cornerstone of developement for this age? Of course... I am an untrained would be parent is all.

#2) Since our younger daughter was born close to the cutoff date for entry into K-school (we induced so we would have the option!).... my spouse has the opinion that the younger one should be put into school the 1st year she can. IE... this will make her among the YOUNGEST kids in her class. She already will be among the most petite - even though she seems to be BIGGER than her older sibling at the same age. AND, this is in spite of the opinion that she currently is trailing her older sibling socially at the same age....

SO if anyone has any thoughts or opinions on academic red shirting - or on the less intense pace of socializing ... please share them. I'm all ears...

Hey Tom - As someone else said, the most important thing to realize is that they are 2 totally independent individuals. You are already laying the groundwork for what is the most important - an active, involved parent and DAD. There is nothing more gratifying than realizing that your DAD (and Mom of course) loved you and were there for you. That is just my opinion and vews. So whether you got that as a child or are doing it from lack of - kudos to you for going there.

Second, is an awesome book called The Birth Order Book by a Dr. Kevin or Kenneth Leman???? I think. It certainly is interesting to read. I was turned onto it a couple of years back when I was going through a hard spell with my older 2. They are respectively a boy and girl born almost 13 months apart (they were premature). While they are close in age - they are miles apart in personality. My problem was that I recognized this almost too late.

My oldest - who I always assumed would be the trouble child - is my social butterfly while my middle child has gone the complete opposite. According this Dr Leman's observations, many times the younger sibling will do this in an effort to get out from under oldest childs observations. I'm sorry for dry-quoting but in my case, this has turned out to be quite true.

For everything that DS did or tried to excel at - DD avoided like the plague. In all essence, she was the one that struggled with social situations. She is quite pretty but to this day quite shy. However, in her tight circle of friends (from 6th grade) she is the leader and the one most willing to talk sense into the girls when they want to try something or the first one to do something when they decide to do something. So from my experience, things have a funny way of working out. DD is shy and awkward in certain situations, but when it comes to academics and work situations, everyone agrees those are her strong points. So as long as she has her little circle or friends, and while not many, she excels in life.

So this may not help you but as a NOW parent, I didn't have the contact with my parents that you are giving them. I understand that was old school and don't blame everything on them. I now stress the importance to my kids who will be turning 21 and 20 in July just how important it is to acknowledge personality and individualism. I apologize to them when I do something wrong which is something that my parents never did. However, I think it helps them to realize that we are human being prone to error too.

While I view these upcoming years and the last couple as horrible and terrible. My kids, had had their problems but thankfully, they haven't been arrested or have a drug problem and they still sometimes listen to dear old mom. So for now, I count my blessings. In fact, just last night - DS came by and said - Hi Mom - what'd you do to your hair? Which in the past he'd of walked by and said - your hair sucks. So being the perpetual Pollyanna where my kids are concerned - I look upon this as an improvement and hope for many more to come.

Bact on track - its alright if your children are quiet - maybe that's her personality. My DH and his brother are 18 months apart. My DH was the go-getter and overachiever in sports but struggled with academics. My BIL is a rocket scientist and has had several jobs with the areospace venue. While he is unquestionably more intelligent - he struggles with human contact and our relationship (his and mine) suffers for it since I don't suffer fools easily. There is something to be said about a person that can be smart and stupid at the same time.

As my SIL used to say - I'm glad I'm married to the rocket scientist instead of to a momma's boy - to which I replied (I know - catty but I bit my tongue for the first 5 years) yeah but how's that working for you? While DH isn't 'as smart' as his brother - we have more to show for it than he does. There is something to be said about book smart and street smart and how you choose to use it. While they have the income to go if they had expendable income - we are the ones going on vacations with the family and spending time with both grandparents in the hopes of sowing the seeds that family is important along with idea that you must work at it and that we have a responsibility to help others which I make sure they see us doing. So while not perfect - my kids have seen both sides of the world, poverty and overindulgence and every once in a while I see a small gesture on their part when they reach out to help others and or right a wrong - even if its just to call the police to say that someone collapsed in the street and may need help or stopping to help someone that may need it - to me - there is nothing more beautiful to see than a soul that reaches out to others because they care.

OK - off my soapbox now - sorry to take up so much space but those are my erratic thoughts on the subject. Hope they help you in a small way.

Later

 

[tom31b]

Originally Posted by justmestace
They would make him put his dreads back behind his ears. For some reason, passport photos must show your ears.

Somehow the idea of CJS with his hair behind his ears doesn't sound very masculine.
Hmmmm we were never told that & we just had our passport pictures done. My hair is definitely over my ears.

Wonder if the passport guy just had a little fetish or was hot for her?

 

[justmestace]

Wonder if the passport guy just had a little fetish or was hot for her?

Who me??? Oddly enough....I WISH! It's been a long time since anyone was hot for me!!

 

[justmestace]

Crash...you kill me with your photo magic.

When I said I thought your girls would grow to be "secure" young women, I meant "secure" as in, knowing who they are and being proud of who they are. Not secure money-wise.


We sent Jared to kindergarten when he was younger.....because he'd been in the Developmental Preschool for a couple of years and we were told he was ready. I wish I'd followed my instincts and held him back, because we ended up holding him back later. Now he is actually still younger than a lot of kids in his grade, but is closer at least. Socially and emotionally he is better off now.
He, too, was very bright, but very quiet. Once he made a few friends he did just fine, but on the whole, he'd keep to himself. I think he just wasn't sure enough of his abilities to speak out. Now that he's more "in line" as far as his age and his maturity level, he does so much better. I continue to kick myself for not standing up to the school and insisting we keep him in preschool another year.

 

[justmestace]

So....LilGrumpy.....was that YOU we caught trying to look through the peephole of our door on the cruise???? Just teasing!
You should have knocked! We would have welcomed the opportunity to meet you....and your lilMissCutiePie!!!

This next time, our door won't be quite so intimidating as it was the last time....no Walt for us!! And so we plan on totally throwing caution to the wind as far as our decorations. We were trying to show some decorum on the Walt door and not be too ostentatious.

 

[arlenesp]

We sent DD6 to kindergarten when she was 4 (BD 9/6). She however was bigger than most of the kids already. She is very social. She is not at the top of her class academically but has progressed through 1st grade without any problems of being left behind. We worried that if we red-shirted her that #1 she would be awkwardly large for her class and that she would be board with preschool. She tends to be an overachiever so we went for it. She will probably blame us later in life but I think it was the right decision.

All my kids, including the DGKs started at 4. My DS was the shyest child you'd ever see. Had to drag him crying each week to P just to give him the social skills. He still holds back now (27).Very smart tho, both were inspite of all the tv they watched What I loved about his Elementary was they started a new program for the k's and they tested them the first 2 weeks to see where their learning skills were. They had to test out at their actual age or higher to continue. There were a lot of kids that didn't make it and I think it was for the best. They just weren't ready yet.
My youngest DGS was extremely ready for K but she held him back. Being so small as he was and is, he redid P and now she has the same decision as he is entering 3rd G and will prob hold him back from skipping again. She is afraid he will be picked on more than he already is. And I agree. My DS was coming home the first weeks we transfered here with black eyes. The bigger kids thought he was lying when he said he was in 2nd grade.Each child is different and progresses at their own rate and you have to be careful to not make the wrong decision based on your own wants and thoughts of what should be.

 

[arlenesp]

Anyone else had the bad luck to have to work Monday? They really screwed us over this year. Oh well, double time and a half

 

[tom31b]

Who me??? Oddly enough....I WISH! It's been a long time since anyone was hot for me!!

Do all women exude this overwhelming confidence or is it just you......

 

[tom31b]

From Post 1

Elizabeth Swan - POTC I GOLD dress
Elizabeth Swan- POTC I Robe -
Elizabeth Swan- POTC I Plum Dress -
Elizabeth Swan - POTC I Rum Island Dress -
Elizabeth Swan - POTC I Peach Gown -
Elizabeth Swan - POTC I British Uniform -
Elizabeth Swan - DMC Wedding Gown -
Elizabeth Swan - DMC Pirate -
Elizabeth Swan - AWE Asian Costume -


We need to add:

Elizabeth Swan - AWE Commando Robe -

 

[PBader]

Got back from a poker game at about 1AM. I decided to see if my repo friends were still on the boards... Indeed there were! Well, at least the left coasters were.

We'll after telling them what I was up to tonight it was suggested that we do a Texas Holdem tourney on the Repo.

We were thinking a relatively low stakes game (lets say $20 or $40 buy in). Looking to gauge interest in such an endeavor. PM me if you are interested.

I have to think about how we could logistically hold such a tourney on the boat, but once I see how much demand there is, we can act accordingly.

Clearly we would have to deal with the cash aspects in private and use chips during the actual play (as I am sure the CMs would frown on such a game otherwise).

Sil, I am sure that you will have a lot of interest. I don't know how to play, but I have a year to learn

 

[PBader]

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Katie/DD 4boons
Esteri/Esteri

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the wiseh. Have a great birthday

 

[PBader]

Goodmorning Everyone!

Had a fun time in chat last night, hope everyone is well this AM. Have to work all weekend again.

Glad you joined us in chat, it was fun.
I am a member of that club too! I worked most of the day today and even longer tomorrow. I am going to take off Monday though.

 

[PBader]

Just my luck I quess.

Sorry you couldn't join us last night Brack

 

[PBader]

Hi Everyone!!!

I had such a great time in chat last night. You guys are awesome!

Well I'm off for my night of fun in Atlantic City.

Talk to you all tomorrow!

Have a great time!!!!

 

[FINCANTIERI]

From Post 1

Elizabeth Swan - POTC I GOLD dress
Elizabeth Swan- POTC I Robe -
Elizabeth Swan- POTC I Plum Dress -
Elizabeth Swan - POTC I Rum Island Dress -
Elizabeth Swan - POTC I Peach Gown -
Elizabeth Swan - POTC I British Uniform -
Elizabeth Swan - DMC Wedding Gown -
Elizabeth Swan - DMC Pirate -
Elizabeth Swan - AWE Asian Costume -


We need to add:

Elizabeth Swan - AWE Commando Robe -

My daughter is not wearing that costume. Just the Asian costume.

 

[MrsScooby]

All my kids, including the DGKs started at 4. My DS was the shyest child you'd ever see. Had to drag him crying each week to P just to give him the social skills. He still holds back now (27).Very smart tho, both were inspite of all the tv they watched What I loved about his Elementary was they started a new program for the k's and they tested them the first 2 weeks to see where their learning skills were. They had to test out at their actual age or higher to continue. There were a lot of kids that didn't make it and I think it was for the best. They just weren't ready yet.
My youngest DGS was extremely ready for K but she held him back. Being so small as he was and is, he redid P and now she has the same decision as he is entering 3rd G and will prob hold him back from skipping again. She is afraid he will be picked on more than he already is. And I agree. My DS was coming home the first weeks we transfered here with black eyes. The bigger kids thought he was lying when he said he was in 2nd grade.Each child is different and progresses at their own rate and you have to be careful to not make the wrong decision based on your own wants and thoughts of what should be.

One of the hardest things about being a parent is making decisions like these for your kids. You can talk to different people (teachers, doctors, etc.) and get many different opinions. Somehow kids manage to survive their parent's best intentions
The thing that has struck me the most about my kids, DS13 and DD10, was that often they manage to handle things better than I think they will and I find that all the worry and debate was excessive. My son is very short for his age and somehow he has managed to deal with it in his own way. My daughter is the social butterfly, making friends with an ease that I envy. They are alike in someways and vastly different in others. They were both bored to tears in first grade because they had an incredible kindergarden teacher that had high expectations on what they could achieve. Kids in general are capable of much more than we realize

 

[brack]

Sorry you couldn't join us last night Brack

Me to! It has to be this new wireless firewall my IT staff installed here at camp last week. I have to get one of them out here to reconfigure it before my next trip to camp. Most of my trips here involve a Friday night so I do not want to miss anymore chats because of the firewall.