Kristina/Andy
Okay. I haven't said ANYTHING to anyone about this until now.
Anything that I have said was in response to PM's.
But....I have to say this.
There are a lot of people who aren't participating in the group activities for a LOT of different reasons, but yet we post here.....for several reasons.
For one, I didn't think that it was a requirement to be in all of the group activities in order to post and get to know people. If it IS a requirement, then I guess this will be my last post.
The Moms and I are not participating in any of the group activities.
For one thing, this is OUR vacation. Each of us has reasons for wanting to get away from it all and not have to watch the clock and be at certain places at certain times. A couple of us have some really seriously ill family members and aren't even sure if we'll be able to cruise at all.
So it really wouldn't be fair to sign up for gifts and then not even be on the cruise to deliver them. And if those Moms ARE lucky enough to go on the cruise, all we want to do is sit and CHILL. Speaking for myself only, I really, really want to meet all of the people I've met here, and to be able to have a good time talking to everyone in person. I refuse to be made to feel like I can't do that if I am not participating in the group activities.
For some people, this is a big trip for them and their families, and they have chosen to spend that time with their families and not with the group.
For some people, they can't afford to participate in some of the group things.
So there are a lot of personal reasons that some of us aren't.
BUT....each and every person who has posted recently (in my defense it seems) HAS posted rather regularly. Or at least as much as they can, and still go to work every day and take care of their homes and their families.
The DIS is wonderful. It means a lot to me. BUT...it is not my life. Nor is it a lot of people's lives. Just because some people can't post during the day when they are at work, and therefore don't post as often, that doesn't mean that they are not a part of this group.
When I said to Kristina that it wasn't funny to joke about being captured by guerillas or whatever it was, I WAS dead serious. I honestly have been in that postition and thought I was going to die and never see my daughter again and worse, I thought I'd be left to die in a jungle in Guatemala and my parents and daughter would never even KNOW what had happened to me.
The part about "who wants to go to Cartegena with me" WAS a feeble attempt at making my post a little lighter than it was.
And some people felt bad that I was hurt. I don't think that's such a bad thing....I think that's part of what makes the DIS family so wonderful.
Lastly.....and yes....out in the open, and not in PM's....because I want to put this to rest and move on.......
When I saw the gorillas in the sigs.......call me a wimp, call me anything you want to....hate me, talk about me behind my back....I don't care....well, okay, I DO care, but I can't stop you (or anyone) but.....when I saw the gorillas....I cried. I took it as a personal attack.
It made me particularly sad when I saw that people who I thought were new friends had banded together to make a joke about me.
So anyway......like I said, if I have to add myself to the lists for the group activities in order to post here, then I guess this is my last post.
If someone can tell me that it's okay to be here and NOT be listed, then I will stay. Not begging....or fishing......I just want some clarification of the "rules" of posting.
I am hoping the figure it out soon..my Sis is coming in from Az. for this.
